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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 25th 2014
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    Whilst i know it is traditional for the father/grandfather of bride to walk her down the aisle.. i'm not sure if i want this..

    Whilst my father is around, our relationship isn't great.. were not at loggerheads or anything, our communication is just limited.

    My mother is the one that's always been there for me and i want her to walk me down the aisle...
    But i am still concerned that my dad would be offended, i dont know if he would, but i wouldnt want him to be.

    What are your views on this..
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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 25th 2014
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    Its your day and if you want your mum to walk you down the isle then thats up to you i would explain to your dad your reason and hopefully he wont be offended Good Luck

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    • JennK
      CommentAuthorJennK
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 25th 2014
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    You can have whoever you want. My dad will be attending the wedding but as a normal guest, my brother will be walking me down the aisle.

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 25th 2014
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    You can have who you want. Lots of people have mums these days. Just explain its not to offend him, you just have a much closer relationship with your mum. If you need to maybe throw in that will help control your nerves having her with you.

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    • CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
      Posted: Oct 25th 2014
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    I'm in a similar situation in that I'm also not very close to my dad, he lives an hour away & growing up we didn't see him very often, mainly during school holidays. My mum didn't help by always b!tch!ng about him at every opportunity, which she still does to this day with comments like "ask your dad to pay for the wedding with the 16+ years of child maintenance he never paid" & "I should be walking you down the aisle as I was your mum & dad".
    I had always thought that I'd have my grandad walk me down the aisle but I've been thinking recently that I'm my dads only daughter so he won't get the opportunity again & who knows it might even bring us closer together.
    We actually went out for a family meal recently & whilst my dad, stepmum & H2B were outside smoking my stepmum asked H2B if my dad was walking me down the aisle (so they've obviously been talking about it) my dad told her it was rude to ask, H2B said "I assume you are", my dad also said to my H2B that he knows he could of been a better dad & made more of an effort with us growing up!! Family's are so complicated!!
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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 25th 2014
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    I'm having my mum walk me down the aslie, I have not even invited my dad . have not seen him since nearly 4 years ago I told him I was pregnant and his response was " well I don't have to pay for it" after he still owes my mum over £2G in CSA I'm now 24 so been 5 years since the amount keep adding up. But because of that he only has to pay when he chooses. But he is a lazy fat bum, who does not care about anyone. The only reason he knows he had a granddaughter is that his sister told him, but I have not contract.

    My mum is the constant in my life. She is my best friend.

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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 25th 2014
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    do whatever you feel is right in your heart and if your contact is limited with your dad then he should understand why you have made that decision
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Oct 25th 2014
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    Go with your heart, if it means more having your mum walk you down the aisle then go for it. Alternatively if you wanted to you could have both of them walk you down, some brides do this x

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 25th 2014
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    You can do whatever you like. I went to one wedding where the bride was the daughter of a Methodist minister, as I am. In both cases it is the father who is the minister. Whereas I married in an anglican church and had Dad walk me in and do some of the non-legal stuff, she married in her Dad's church, her Dad did the wedding and her mum walked her in. You could have them both, just your mum, someone else entirely, or no one at all.

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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Hmmmm... I could consider both.....
    But i think i will speak to my dad to see if i can guage his feelings..

    But like some of u have said its my mom that is my everything... N she is the one thats done it all...

    I guess i have a bit of time to work it out.. But im steering towarda my mother..
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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 25th 2014
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    Hmmmm... I could consider both.....
    But i think i will speak to my dad to see if i can guage his feelings..

    But like some of u have said its my mom that is my everything... N she is the one thats done it all...

    I guess i have a bit of time to work it out.. But im steering towarda my mother..
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Oct 26th 2014
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    Lots are now having different peeps walk them down, my youngest don wanted to so he done it with my step dad.

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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 26th 2014
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    My half brother walked be down the aisle. I was going to walk o my own, but chose him in the end
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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 26th 2014
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    You should decide who you want and just have them. If your dads never really been there for you, I'm sure your mum will be extra proud to do the duty x

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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 27th 2014
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    You really can have who you want without feeling pressures of tradition these days. (thankfully for me in my case)
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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 27th 2014
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    Thanks for the advice ladies..

    I think i will go with my mother.... i can imagine my mom will say u should let your dad do it... just because she is too nice like that... but i will definitely go with my mother..

    i will just have the father/daughter dance...
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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 27th 2014
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    that sounds nice (and diplomatic). I didn't have my father at my wedding, and didn't ask my step father out of respect for my Dad. I felt the diplomatic option was to ask my brother instead. There's no squabling then.
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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 27th 2014
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    I was thinking about my brother... but lately i'm just not happy with the way he is behaving... young boys immature at times.. just a lack of respect.. So yes definetly my mother...

    i would hope he would not get offended, considering he has made minimal effort of late anyway..
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Oct 27th 2014
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    Being a father does not mean you have the divine right to walk your daughter down the aisle on her wedding day.. You have to earn that privilege. If he does get offended or upset then he only has himself to blame xx

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