Well this morning bil told us his gf his pregnant which is fine. Then later he then said to us would we like a double wedding. I said i wouldn't like to as I would like us both to have our own seperate special day. h2b said he didn't mind. BIL then sent a bitchy message to my h2b saying fine whatever Lisa wants to do. I don't whether it's me being selfish but I want our day. It's good they want to get married I wouldn't even care if they got married before us. I want them to be happy. I just want us to a day that is unique to us :(
CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
Who sent the b1tchy msg? BIL or h2b?
I couldnt imagine anything WORSE than a double wedding! Stand your ground.
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Wright wedding!
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CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
Sorry BIL did. Same here don't worry i will
CommentAuthorLucyP27
Unless you are REALLY close to the other couple I definitely wouldn't want a double wedding! So many compromises would have to be made!! Too much stress!
CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
I agree LucyP. We've already booked both venues as well. i don't want to compromise with anyone apart from h2b on ideas for our wedding
He is being bitchy! It's not your fault too right I'd tell them the same I wouldn't want to share my big day with anyone else x
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
No way, even really close friends or even twins normaly want there own particular day without having to compromise to what they want!
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CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
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Thanks FernP x I agree Lana. I wouldn't be comfortable in sharing it as me and h2b already have so many things planned and paid for
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Im sure BILs gf feels the same an may not even know he asked about a double wedding!
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CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
That's true. I hope so not my intention to upset people. Just want it to be our wedding day and they can have theirs. Our room at the registry office only holds 40 we have 35 going already most of which are family which can't be cut from the list and i fell in love with that room don't want another
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Yeh double wedding would be a nightmare to me too! And I think he's downright out of order sending bitch messages.....since he's the one cheekily asking to cut bk his own costs by sharing in urs!
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CommentAuthorValentinaK
Absolutely not! And I'm sure anyone he whinges at about it would agree! He's trying to be cheeky and do a weddign on the cheap!
Absolutely not for you! You've worked hard and it is your (h2b and you) day... not YOUR (pl couples) day!
Joke about it with him but he is being unreasonable if he gets a strop on!
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CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
Thanks KelBel I agree. Not impressed at all
CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
Thanks Valentina. We've been planning this wedding for over 2 years now. I'll try just a bit seething at the moment
CommentAuthorSJJ
No way! Surely his oh wants her own day too?? Perhaps talk to her...cos if shes in agreement with u then she can have a word with him and settle him down! MEN! lol x
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
No definitely not; I would never have a double wedding as I would like it to be our own day and if that is being 'selfish' then so be it but at the end of the day; it is one of the biggest days of yours lives so of course you went it to be just about you.
I would only consider a double wedding if it was with my sister or a really really close mate but ideally just my own.
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
No way! Sounds to me like they have realised they are having a baby, want to get married but realise they cannot afford it and so are trying to join with you knowing that it will half the cost and that you probably already have the big things booked and sorted with deposits paid so they don't have to pay for them! xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
Thanks for your words ladies my opinion is also back up by fil as well. He says it should be just our special day too. That is probably true Linzi-Jo we have provisionally booked registry office and put an £800 deposit for our reception. SJJ I could try to just we don't see her very often maybe once a weekend if that don't have her number or fb xxx
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Double weddings can be amazing in the right circumstances, but I would never share my day. I've heard of twin sisters who've shared everything who have shared their wedding as well.
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CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
That's true but we want our day for us. I think weddings are a special once in a lifetime thing(hopefully if all goes well) i don't see why we should share. If we have seperate days then both days are unique to both couples rather than a compromise of what we both would want
CommentAuthorHappyBunny
no way!!!! stand your ground hun, I cant see bill's gf being happy about it either hun xx
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Never! It's the special day of one couple unless they're super close. Too much stress too!
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CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
HappyBunny i am not sure where the idea came from we just got the news she's pregnant about 12ish and the not long after one with the idea of a double wedding. Whether bil came up with it or both not sure. I agree IDL i've only met his partner twice so we aren't that close. The idea of it is to stressful let alone the execution we'd have to change our plans
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
No. Freakin'. Way.
And as for getting b!tchy about it is just childish... Tell him to save up and organise his own wedding!
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CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
Tell me about it. LMC1302 I wouldn't mind but he earns more than us any way so he could save quicker
CommentAuthorBev
He's being unfair. If you don't like the idea of a double wedding then that is completely understandable. After all, you've done all the hard work so far so you and H2B deserve to enjoy it as YOUR day... Not anyone else's. I'm sure your SIL2B won't be impressed that her H2B is asking for a double wedding when she has probably got ideas and dreams of her own! X
CommentAuthorRennie1989
I believe a wedding day has to be personal to that one couple, having a double wedding would take the special-ness out of both of you. I could see it work if the double wedding were for, say, close twins, but generally speaking I'd say no.
And don't worry, you're not being selfish.
CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
Thanks Bev. We've planned the wedding for 2 years and today out of nowhere she's pregnant then he's asking my h2b to discuss with me about a double wedding. Not sure if he came up with it or they jointly asked for it. I would hope she's like me and wants her own day x Thanks Rennie I agree with you. we've come up with all the ideas we want and don't want to change them because as you say a wedding day is personal to that one couple
CommentAuthorNearlyMrsFountain
Keep your day Hun, after the 2 years of planning it will be so personal to you as a couple, Stick to your gund and I Hope you get what u want xx
CommentAuthorAmyK
Sounds like a recipe for disaster! Avoid! It'd be the easiest way to fall out - too many compromises to be made
CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
Thanks NearlyMrsFountain I will do and thanks. AmyK i agree. I intend too do exactly that
CommentAuthorTori
Imagine if you had backed down, you would have probably got botchy comments everytime they didn't get their own way over something and would have ended up being a side show on your own wedding day. If he continues to behave childishly you need to treat him like a child, stand your ground and show him who's boss ;-) x
