you always have been such a great help to me... I really dont know what to do... somewhere stuck in the middle to make a big decision... I have 2 weddings to go to next year haven't received any of the invites yet one is end of July and one beginning of August... both in the middle of the olympics... at one wedding I'm the MOH and the other I'm the grooms daughter... But we aren't allowed to take holidays during that time... even if I'd tried getting those days off it wouldnt help as I would need in total 2 weeks off/holidays coz one wedding is in Sri Lanka and the other in Germany and tbh I aint wasting money on flights to just be there for a day or two isnt worth it spending all this money... but what do I tell my dear friend and what do I tell my dad... coz I dont find it fair if I get off for one wedding but not the other my nan suggested not to go to either of them...
please help me!!!
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
hmmm tricky, have you asked for the time off and explained the circumstances? If your work say no, you could just tell people that you were not able to get the time off work and they should understand. Its not like the weddings are a 10 minute drive away. If you can make one, Germany is a lot closer.....and its your dad. Yeah, I would ask at work and if they say no, I would just explain to the people who invited you. If you are really bothered that you cant go, you could always do a friday night flight to germany and just go for the one wedding. Thats what I would do. Possibly. Its a hard situation! I hope you get it sorted hun
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tbh i think your friend would understand if you just explained that it is impossible to have time off work for her wedding, if you are really close to your dad maybe you should try your best to get to his wedding just for the simple fact that hes your dad...or even the other way round if you would much rather be at your friends wedding. i wouldnt say you necessarily had to miss both as your friend/dad would understand you have work commitments xx
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CommentAuthormadison_uk
tricky one depend on how close you are to them, the sri lanka one is really far away and pricey, and the germany one isnt to far away and you would need less time off work for that one, id ask work and just be honest to both if you cant do it just tell them
CommentAuthorMorgsysGirl(kempy)
to be honest if you know getting time of is going to be tricky then asking for two wedding is a bit much. if it was me id go to my dads. but you have to ask yourself who your closer to and whos you want to be apart of. xx
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I would definitely ask for extenuating circumstances for approved holiday leave - these are both pretty important events that you are playing a key part in, and it's beyond your control - I'd definitely ask about taking holiday - if you can't get the time off, would you consider taking unpaid leave? It's not like these events will come around again and I think you'll regret it later if you don't attend either of the weddings...
CommentAuthorKat
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Like all the other ladies have said. Check with work first. They might surprise you. If not talk honestly to your friend and dad. They will be more understanding than you think and they might even come up with a solution......like a web cam!
CommentAuthorlinzi
you cant really NOT go to your Dads wedding can you? unless you are not at all close? for me there would be no contest. But then I adore my daddy. x
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CommentAuthorEnny
I told my friend already when the memo came out from work that we are not allowed to take holidays that i would need the invite asap... as a proof to ask work and show them ... the wedding would be on a saturday and of course if work says i can have like the days than its depending on how many days I really get as there isnt a point of spending over £500 on a flight and stay there only 2days... coz that isnt worth the money and I ope my friend understands but she said already that her h2b has already difficulties to get it off work and he is the groom and he probably has to resign but in this day and age tbh i dont wanna resign as i need the money for my big day too... and as much as i love to go to either of there weddings if i cant go i just cant do anything and no point in asking if i dont have the invites... and my friend knows and i told my dad from the beginning i would need an invite... on the other hand i dont really know if I want to go really to my dads wedding as he doesnt seem interested in mine at all... he only see's himself ...
CommentAuthorEnny
i just really dont know... coz I work only 45min away from london... in a big hotel and i know we will be full during the olympics and i really dont know i wanted to go to both weddings her wedding is a saturday dads is on a monday 8days later... his would be easier maybe to book of as 2days could be enough flying in after work going there flying home next day... but hers will be tricky to go to and if i could would do both but dont think work will let me have boths ...
CommentAuthorMummy Geri
Just choose which one is most important cos obviously it seems you cant go to both?
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
they should understand that this is out of your hands , could they not just make an invite for you to take in to show bosses ?
I would hope that your work would understand and let you have time off for both, but still sri lanka is a long way to go for a couple of days and very expensive to get there. germany is so much closer and you could fly out the night before the wedding and fly back the morning after if neccessary to minimise time off work. It really does depend on how close you are to your friend and dad but i certainly wouldn't resign just to go to a wedding!
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CommentAuthorlinzmum
tbh if my best friend told me that this was the situation she was in then I would totally understand and actually suggest she at least tries to get to her dads wedding. You are entitled to unpaid leave for family commitments if required, as a last resort. At the end of the day only you can decide how important it is to you that you be at these events...if it is that important (and you know you would regret NOT going) then you should definately push for the time off.
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CommentAuthortimpson123
What do you do in the hotel? could they not get someone to cover? if not throw a mass sickie (and keep pics off FB)...i'm half joking here.
CommentAuthorUnknown
can you not explain to your work and see what they say? where i work at the mo we arent allowed to have time off in july or aug either but i know someone has a wedding to go to where she is a bm and she has had it approved as it is a special occasion so surley it is worth a go?
if you cant then just explain to your friend and your dad. they will no doubt be hurt and upset but they will understand xx
CommentAuthorEnny
Well I told both I need the invitations b4 I even found out we aren't allowed to take holidays during that time and so far none seems to bother as it has been a while since I asked them to send an early invite I deffo know if I can't go to my friends wedding to SRlanka than I'd still help her with all the things I can and will be making sure that her hen night will be perfect even knowing I can't be her maid of honor so it will mean she needs replacement good that she hasn't bought the dress yet. As for now I can't do much my nan even said send a nice letter to my dad might be good to explainw the circumstance
CommentAuthorUnknown
just had a thought after seeing a post you made. i am assuming you get 2 days of a week? well for your friends can you not have sat/sun as your days off and your dads mon/tues off and then just take one or 2 days hol for each. would your work go for that so you had enough time to travel and werent actually taking much time off? xx
CommentAuthorkimmy
TBH If people plan to marry abroad surely they understand if people cant accept the invite, people just haven't got time or money!!!
CommentAuthorEnny
Terri- well sri lanka is 10hours flight no point having 3days off only its not worth it paying half a K or more for a flight ticket... germany would be possible...
kimmy problem is I accepted basicly but didnt think it would be so difficult to get holidays... my friends h2b's family comes from sri lanka thats the reason for the getting married there... and my dad and his partner are living in germany the reason why they get married there... (being honest dad would need to come over to UK to see me get married)
