Was just speaking to my mum and was talking about the wedding. Said to her that me and my MOH were thinking about dress shopping towards the end of January and I want her there. She went really quiet and said that she would have to see, then she sort of back tracked and said that she would love to.
I was then talking about my nan and granddad....mum then said 'a lot changes in a year'. I just wonder if they are happy that I am getting married, just seems like there is no excitement at all. Just all confused now xxx
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
I wouldn't worry Hun you've got 14 months to go, my mum was the same, it will change... Even though your her daughter it's your day no one is as excited or wanting to talk about it all the time than you... Don't sweat it xxx
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CommentAuthorErinV
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I wouldn't read too much into especially where grandparents are concerned. We all want them to be there but sometimes things happen. H2bs grampy is quite poorly at the most, he had major heart surgery and was intensive care for months about 2 years ago, and after regaining his strength and independence (as much as poss) he has gone down hill recently with new things so whenever we update his nan about our wedding we get, we'll sees and not much input from them compared to his brothers wedding a year and a half ago. They don't mean anything by it but are trying to take days as they come in case the worst happens.
Parents can be very fickle at times, trust us your not alone!
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I wouldn't worry about it. Mother's can sometimes take some adjusting to their little girl getting married, it's quite emotional I think. My mum was funny with my sister for pretty much everything to do with her wedding and I'm not convinced she was ready for my sister to get hitched.
I'm sure she'll be fine nearer the time xx
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CommentAuthorDonnaH39
To me the comment about a lot can happen in a year sounds like it was more aimed at your grandparents rather then your wedding.... as in a lot can happen, maybe they won't be able to make it (which I know is not nice to think about, but that's how I read what you just said)
As for the excitement, we have had exactly the same from both sides, both are getting better now it's coming up to the year mark, but they still have their moments.
I wouldn't worry over it too much at the moment, but I do understand your concerns. I haven't had any interest in my wedding yet from my immediate family which is disheartening. They do mention it now and again with comments like the day will be here before you know it etc, but they haven't taken a keen interest. You just have to get on with it really and hope when you do really need them they will try be there for you. 14 months is a while so hopefully things will turn around for you
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CommentAuthorJennK
Don't worry too much, we think about our wedding constantly and other people tend to have a different state of mind, I keep forgetting that!
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CommentAuthorKatieH
My mum was quite excited to begin with but when I show her things now she doesn't seem that interested, that's how it feels anyway. She's probably fed up of hearing me talk about it lol. I wouldn't read too much into it, I'm sure your mum will start getting excited the nearer it gets xx
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CommentAuthorFlossie
Maybe with 14 months still to go it's a bit early for them to be getting excited? Did they have the initial excitement there when you first decided on a date and booked the venue etc.? When it starts getting nearer I'm sure they will start getting more excited as it will start to feel more 'real'.
If it's something that is really concerning you then have a chat with them and find out how they are feeling. It must be a strange feeling knowing your daughter is all grown up and getting married!! xx
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CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
I wouldn't worry . To them a year is a long time away however in bride and wedding planning it will be here quickly . You maybe surprised when it comes closer suddenly she will want to get more involved and excited .x
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CommentAuthorGemmaR81
I have been married before and she was not really excited then. Not sure if its a distance thing or not. My grandparents are healthy 70 year olds, but you are right 14 months is a ling time. No real excitement from either mums when we told them the dates. We had a lot of issues when we got together and I still sometimes feel that they all think that we are going to fail....we have been together for 5 years xxx
CommentAuthorTeresa
hopefully she will come round, have a chat with her, ask her why she thought she might not be able to come?
im sure she is probably thinking you have ages yet where as we are all thinking no its great to plan early,its more exciting to make it last and helps you get organised, do you have a friend that you could chat to about your wedding, it sometimes helps that they can give you some support too x
CommentAuthorGemmaR81
yeah I have text my MOH and she knows what my family are like. Just feel that no one is going to turn up and we will have money wasted. Think I am on a downer need to keep my chin up xxx
CommentAuthorTeresa
keep smiling, it will all be ok
at least you have your MOH :) she will make up for all the un enthusiastic people till they become enthusiastic xx
