Not sure if this is in right topic area, but our son will be only just 2 by the time we get married. I had originally decided it may not be a wise idea to have him as page boy as hes most likely going to hate it, play up, cry or something! but now I think of it, Im not sure if it looks a bit weird If I dont have him as my pageboy, as hes my son! Im just worried he'll have a terrible twos episode down the aisle...
CommentAuthorAmyP7
You dont have to have him as a page boy just because hes your son, and if you did choose to have him you could get him to wear the suit but if on the day you dont feel hes up to it he wouldnt have to walk down the aisle. Im having my nephew, he was always going to be my page boy. He will be 3, but the terrible twos have come late and really hit recently so if on the day i dont think he will be able to walk up the aisle i will just have him wear the suit x x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
do what you want to do ... you know your son better than anyone else,so if you feel he would be happier sitting with some then do that .. no point in you stressing about what he is doing
I don't think it'll be weird at all. Everyone who knows you will know he is still very little and most people with a brain will understand that children can be tricky customers!!
Instead of having him as a "page" boy. Why don't you just dress him in something that co-ordinates with the wedding - like a coloured shirt of just a tie that co-ordinates with an ordinary smart trousers and shirt, that way he is clearly attatched to the wedding. If he is sitting at the front with (i assuming here so apologies if it's not the case) father or with his grandparents it'll be clear to everyone who he is. You could see how it goes on the morning of the wedding whether you can get him to wear a flower or something.
I've been to several weddings where the parents had the child as a page boy in the outfit but they were just sat with the guests as they were too little or too demanding to go down the aisle with out it being a drama. I think what ever you decide it'll be fine, people understand about these things.
I think i'm having my two little nephews just in coloured shirts I think (having a mixed pastels, casual thing with the BMs in different colours and they are going to be a the front with my mom - they will have the rings - a box each and will bring them up at the right moment. (well my mom will have them until the very last minute) They are a bit older though at 8 and 5.
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorMrsWearn2be
Awww thats nice Lizzylou, I'd love it and think it would be so sweet if our son could walk over with the rings... but it could be asking the impossible from a 2year old! lol Your all spot on though really, I was going to have him dressed up to match us, but had said to people when they asked that I didnt think he should walk down behind me as he may cause drama..I have to admit, he never does as hes told, hes very stroppy and has tantrums over everything and anything, so thats why I had said no to him walking down behind me...but everyone I said it too had almost been shocked that I wasnt going to let him do it...but hes only 2! I think they are forgetting that xxx
A lot of people don't have their own or have any experience of small children so really don't understand. Ironically they'd probably be the first ones to raise an eyebrow if you forced him into it and he screamed the place down! Just do what you feel is best for him on the day. xx
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorMrsWearn2be
Lol! Thats very true... I think I would feel more at ease knowing he is sitting nicely with nanna at the front waiting for me to arrive... but hey..maybe he'll grow up in the next 5months quite a bit and grow out of his tantrums!! (I doubt it though!) lol xx
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
My friends got married in August and have a 2 year old little boy. She had exactly the same thoughts as you about the tantrums so they decided to make him a mini best man instead. That way he was still part of it and it meant he got to stand with daddy at the front and then sit with his grandparents for the rest xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsWearn2be
Aww thats a good idea, that would be rather sweet to have him standing with daddy at the front :)
CommentAuthornugget80
my little boy will be 2 a month before our wedding... i had planned on him being dressed to match his daddy and to be down the front with him rather than with me and am hoping he will bring the rings to us...!!!
CommentAuthorSam
Not weird at all, you know your son best and two is really young for having a role in a wedding. I agree with dressing him up with the wedding party.
CommentAuthorEleanorR
There isn't really an exact definition of 'pageboy'. It's just a boy dressed like the bridal party and you can choose if he walks down the aisle, does any jobs etc. At the last wedding I went to the bride's niece was dressed up but he sat with his parents during the ceremony and just looked nice in the photos.
CommentAuthorMrsShields2B
I don't think it's weird at all. I am having my h2bs nephew, who is 6, but h2b also wanted his best friend's daughter to be a flower girl. She will be 18months when we get married, and i said no straight off, as i did not want to deal with any dramas on the day that i can pre-empt! I don't know the family well enough anyway, so i can't pull the child to the side and tell them off if they are playing up (without causing a all-out row at least!!!!)
As the other ladies say, he can always get dressed up, and if you decide on the day that it isn't really going to work, he could sit with family, but still feel special in his new suit.
CommentAuthorTori
I dont think it would look bad at alland you need to work out what is best for you x
CommentAuthorVictoriaE35
My daughter is going to be one, my youngest son only 2 and my eldest 10. The boys will have suits and my daughter has a lovely flower girl dress but none of them will be walking down the aisle they are all too crazy. My eldest is making a speech and also a reading at the service but no way is he walking with me. He would end up sliding down on his knees like in a football match and my two year old would copy.lol
Like someone said above you know your child better than anyone, you decide what you want and the rest will fall into place x x x
