we're having her daughter as flowergirl but it seems that everything we need to do in regards to dress fitting etc she needs to make excuses for anything to avoid it. we've come to a conclusion with that one now, but now she's put something on facebook about knowing what shes getting us as a wedding present and just has to find and make it?!

don't get me wrong, i appreciate any wedding presents, but we have asked for honeymoon vouchers. i know some people don't feel comfortable with buying something that shows how much it was etc, but i think its rude to just get something different without even asking. like some people have said elsewhere, we may not have the room or need for whatever it is. we have asked for the vouchers as we have everything we need.

she did this with our housewarming gifts as well. we asked for raffle tickets to win our wedding (which we did :D) and she said she wanted to get us something else (she never did but thats beside the point).

she just seems to want to go against us as much as possible. shes said shes not staying later than 9pm as her daughter needs to go to bed. (elvis is on at half 8 so the disco won't have even started so the poor lass will miss out!) and we had all on to get her to a dress fitting as the little one *needed* to have her nap at a certain time no matter what! apparently. everytime we try arrange something its never plain sailing with her. i know kids need routine, but there are also rare exceptions, and people i've spoken to have been really shocked at it!

oh and get this... shes not letting the little girl be in her dress all day. shes changing her into it at the church just before i arrive so she doesn't fall in mud?! why not watch her?!

sorry went on a tangent, but you see the sort of person she is from that... but i just feel like she is trying to control everything she can. by getting us something we didnt ask for. by trying to make us run round after her with the dress fittings.

bridezilla 100% tonight but everythings getting to me so close to the wedding :(

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that's a bit out of order - i agree, kids need routine but im sure for one day she'll be fine to be without?!?!

completely agree with you on this one mrs shaw!! maybe get H2B to chat to her? it seems she's deliberately being difficult but for an unknown reason?

seem like theres one of these in every wedding party, you dont have long to go now hun, i agree with Mrsvanderlee2b ask your oh to have a word or better still ask her yourself what her problem is, she just might stop being a pain in the **** if you confront her, in a nice way ofc x

haha i was stressing a lot chuckles.

h2b has spoken to her more than he would have usually done, cause i told him either he does it, or i do it, and i know which one would be worse!

basically with the dress she wanted us to drop it off at his mums so she could pick it up. which in most instances would be fine, but for her its just perfectly convinent as she goes there to drop her little girl off 2 times a week anyway, whereas its a 120 mile round trip for us!

i just said to him, she has some sort of problem with me. it might be a clash of personality, or she might not like the fact her brother is with someone whos not a pushover and she can't get what she wants with me. shes 38 so thinks she knows everything and with me only being 21, she uses the age as a weapon to how smart she is... (h2b pulled out on a roundabout last year and got hit, the guy wasn't indicating but h2b pulled into his right of way so as much as i love him, it was h2b's fault, and when she found out she was like 'oh its the other persons fault cause they werent indicating etc' and when i explained what i'd learnt when doing my lessons and theory that even though the other person wasn't indicating, they still had right of way and h2b had pulled onto it cause he asssumed the guy was turning off when you should never assume when driving, she just turned round and said 'oh well what do i know, ive only been driving XX years...' which then i apologized?! but not now, i'm not letting her walk all over me.)

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I see her point with the wedding present (sorry)... i dont like giving people money or vouchers as like to buy them something and put the thought into it. My brother got married 4 weeks ago and they asked for money so i gave them a cheque for £25 as this is what they wanted and then spent the other £25 on a wedding present for them which was a silver engraved photoframe which i had personalised. It is something they can keep and remember their day by and wasn't to hide how much i was spending but rather so i wasn't giving them money like everyone else but something a bit more special.... i think she is maybe trying to be nice and get you something personalised that you can treasure?! I dont think this is rude and i definitely wouldn't have asked my brother as a surprise. xx

She sounds like a soccer mom!!! Overprotective of her kids, but some people are just like that, and better to be overprotective than not to give a flying monkey. Also, I agree with Joanna and millz. Some people just want to get you something special. We are asking for money, but pretty much expect to end up with quite a few random presents! Our maid of honour has flat out refused to just give us money because she's the kind of person who wants to get something really unique, and show how much she knows us.

She sounds like she enjoys being difficult hun.

I personally don't have a problem with giving money or vouchers but maybe that's a cultural thing because Chinese don't give wrapped gifts, they always give money in the lucky red packets (they have special wedding ones that look like the ones you get at Chinese New Year).

I don't think you're being a bridezilla at all xxx