I have two sisters, (both younger) and my first younger sister is really starting to whass me off!!!

She got married two years ago and was a bridezilla from the word go, not one conversation since the day of their engagement wasn't about the wedding, she was the most indecisive **** i've ever met but when given advice or suggestions she would shoot you down in flames. I was her bridesmaid and witness (for my sins) and hated every dress trying on day, fitting etc etc because she just spat her dummy out at every occasion! (arghhh!) even on the day of her wedding myself and my mum woke her up and she said "Don't speak to me because otherwise i will get in a mood" - WTF!?

Now it's my wedding and it's a laid back approach to the whole thing, i've made most of the decisions of my wedding with my h2b, and so far so good. However, i really really don't want my sister (the one above) involved as i know she will just p!s$ me off!!!

She's recently had a baby and is just being a total **** about that, getting everyone to walk on egg shells around her etc etc and i'm just not into that way of being, especially around her- why she so special!? I know that her having a little bit of a tummy will sacrifice the bridesmaid dresses i want as well!!!!

So i have come to the conclusion that i am going to ask my youngest sister (sibling 2) to be my witness and make up the excuse that... "if i ask youngest sister (sibling 2) to by my witness, then when sibling 2 gets married she can ask other sister (sibling 1) to be her witness then we've all been each others witness" - if i don't cover my tracks then sibling 1 will again spit her dummy out!

But to be totally truthful, i really cba having her involved with the main components at all - do i ask her if she would prefer to be just a guest at the wedding or what?! I'm considering suggesting that i have her son (my nephew) as the paige boy instead of her?!

What do you ladies think?!

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No offence (not that I think you'll take any) but you're sister sounds like a full grown brat! But she is your sister and if it was me, personally, I couldn't have one sister involved and not the other. I think your 'witness for each other' plan sounds like the way to go and maybe just play up like you don't really need her to help with anything (because you know it'll be more hassle than its worth) because sister no2 has it under control, and you know how busy she is with the little one. As for dresses that was a little mean (though I understand your frustration) :P its really not her fault if she has a bit of a baby belly. Obviously its entirely your call but if she's the kind of person you say she is then not having her as a bm will cause a stir... and possibly one that wont be easily forgiven? good luck!

Why even have a bridesmaid as witnesses? I have 3 bridesmaid and treating them the same so having my step-mum as witness instead and not my bridesmaid... maybe suggest someone else doing it so she cant have a tantrum about it being your other sister xx

What is it with sisters! Mind you, at least all your seem to have taken an interest-mine doesn't want to even know! It's been such an effort for her to even try on her bridesmaid dress that all the bridesmaids picked together! Mine has such a selfish attitude as well it makes me feel like telling her to get stuffed!

With regard your situation though, I think what you've said sounds good and it is fair that way too :) x

I think thats a very clever way of working round it. N surely she would understand wen putting it like that? I hope it all works out x

I had a similar problem when me & H2B first got engaged..she tried taking over with every decision etc as soon as we said we are now getting married abroad shes not spoke one word to me since, ignores my pms on book of face and my texts.. stuff her

Tell your sister what I tell my brother ALOT of the time 'I love you but you make it REALLY hard for me to like'. Then you just ignore her, do what you want and if she still wont accept that its YOUR wedding then she can remove herself from the wedding party. Those are her choices.
God I mean lol

ha ha i say that too! X

Oh no, you poor thing, I can't imagine what it'd be like to have a sister like her, she does sound like a nighmare. My sister and I are so close and when she got married last year I turned into bridesmaid-zilla coz she was having a few problems with family etc. and a few things went wrong the night before and morning of the wedding and I was determined to ensure she had a perfect day and the only way that could happen was to give her all the support she needed. I'm very lucky that since I got engaged in January this year (wedding booked for May 2013) my sis is now returning the favour which means I am keeping things so far rather relaxed and just enjoying things................so I really feel for you to be having someone who should be helping but is actually doing the complete opposite.

I do like your witness idea and would go with that. I personally am not sure if I could have one sister and not the other being a bridesmaid but maybe you lay down some ground rules and read her the riot act and if she doesn't conform then make it clear she will be cut out from the bridal party and just be a guest.

GOOD LUCK!!! xxx

i have a sister that is exactly the same she was a witness at my first wedding and think she was expecting to be one at this one to but as we have had sevral major (all down to her) fallings out in the past 4 years. For which she never said sorry just expects it all to be brushed under the carpet and forgot. i decied to ask my older sister instead we are a lot closer. i just couldnt be dealing with her attitude over the next year or so. plus she didnt ask me to be witness at her wedding last year in fact she made a point of not having me help in anyway even though she was moaning about decorations and i offered to help she said she didnt want any and was palnning to do it all her self so fine if thats what she wants. then not 2 weeks later she starts to go on about how great our sil is for offering to make her fowers and decorate the room for her talk about slap in the face.