Wedding Forum - Do you invite the Vicar to the Reception....

If he is a friend, yes.

If you don't see him socially (and none of the other guests do) don't feel you have to.

He's not a close family friend and have only got to know him due to Wedding..Just wasn't sure if it was expected x

Thanks for replies it's nice to get other peoples options when you are not sure.. found this site great for helping can't believe that my Wedding is so near now xx

I was going to ask the same question, I dont know my vicar very well so after the messages not going to invite him x

We've invited ours to the evening do but not the afternoon.

We wont be as it's a priest in a different church to the one we attend BUT at one stage we had asked our local priest if he would travel and marry us in the other church. MIL2B is terrible with a drink in her so H2B started winding her up saying he was going to invite the priest to the reception too... you could see her getting really uncomfortable at the thought of him seeing her drunk lol

how about if you dont know him very well (only due to wedding) but your ceremony and reception are in the same place?!
I guess he cant be the only one not staying...right?!

Dove's right, a priest would happily spend the afternoon with his own family. Our priest is a very close family friend so he'll come to it all, but at times he would rather go to his sisters and has (naughty naughty!) got one of us to page him to let him get home! lol Busy church man! x

im not inviting mine, she is new and starting there in april. had it been the old vicar i would of done x

My query is slighltly different although related to this. We met our vicar today and she was absolutely lovely, completely put us at ease and I know she will carry out a wonderful service. We have 4 spare seats at our wedding now as other people have declined our day invitations and I would love to invite her and her husband even though I dont know them very well. However my question is do you think this will make her feel akward like she has to accept our invite. She probably wont know many people at our reception which is why I would like to invite her husband as well but this is the case for a few of our guests so I dont see that as too much of an issue. I guess what I am asking is that in this day and age do you think she will think it is odd to be invited and or feel like she has to come, I would hate that? I know it was a common thing to do back when my mum and dad got married but times have changed I guess. Thoughts welcome please, I value all of your opinions ladies xx

I dont think that she would feel obliged at all, and if she is older then she may like to be invited due to tradition? My h2b is Greek and in his religion the priest and his whole family are invited to everything, even christening parties and wakes. It's up to you what you want to do, but I dont see the harm in asking her. You can make it clear that she doesn't have to come if she doesn't want to, but I should imagine if her husband will be there too she would probably like to, everyone likes a good wedding after all! The worst she can do is say no :) xxx

Thanks guys I am just such a terrible worrier about these things. Everyone has the choice to decline invites to anything dont they but for example I would rather not ask a friend to go on a night out or come round for an evening meal or something in case they would rather not lol!! How stupid am I!? its not that I dont want the rejection its just that I dont want people to feel they have to say yes....if that makes ANY sense to anyone at all!!??