Do any of you B2B ever get the feeling your making a massive mistake that could affect the rest of your lives? Dont get me wrong i love my H2B more than anything, he means the world & more to be, but.. He seems to think he has sacrifised to much for this wedding and wont stop going on about it, which is making me feel so guilty when actually ive given up just as much as he has.. yet its a sacrifise i am willing to make!! He has had to stop driving his car as he cant afford insurance/tax etc and the wedding so we decided to carry on with the wedding and get everything else sorted when we return etc He keeps reminding me he hasnt been able to drive for like 6months blablabla and when i remind him that he had a choice, which i offered him even a few days ago to cancel the wedding if he wants to drive so bad.. he says it just shows you how much i love you and i want this etc but hes going the wrong way about making me feel that way. It kinda feels like hes just going along with the whole thing just to 'keep me happy' when realistically hes angry/upset (at me i think) that he can no longer drive and stuff. Hes been moaning at me today that he was left with £15 from his wages, but ive been left with nothing most weeks. He is also forgetting that he earns more than me, yet i put more back each week for the wedding!!
Sorry for the rant but i have no-one else to talk to. I feel as though i am making a massive mistake
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthorKATG
Have you told him all this, i think you should. You dont want to have doubts on your big day. It may just be nerves hun or it maybe that you are really having doubts, either way i would share it with him and see what he says xxx
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CommentAuthorfiona
I think a serious chat is needed to get you two back on the same page.
CommentAuthorHa_x3
A chat doesnt make the slightest bit of difference, he always turns it around to be my fault & i always end up being the one who is sorry etc xx
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthor~feebee~
Don't give up now hun! But I would tell him off! Men can be like spoilt little kids. He'll have his car back after the wedding! My eldest son had to stop driving for a few months as he couldn't afford it. That's life innit! x x
I think thats just men for you hun! As much as they want to get married I think it'll always have more meaning to us than It does them-if that makes sense?
Im sure your h2b really does want to marry you hes just whinging like we all do from time to time (to be fair I whinge more than most) he didnt have to give up driving to save for your wedding but he did even though he could of chosen not too-I think because your wedding is now getting so close your getting nervous and you are going to be overthinking as a wedding IS a big deal and your going to want to make sure your doing the right thing
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CommentAuthorAnastasia
Aww Heidi... lot's of ((HUGS)) for you! I am so sorry to hear you are feeling this way :(
I think the nerves are maybe getting in the way & your over thinking things too much!? Maybes you & h2b could just spend a night together with no wedding talk like watching a DVD & snuggling just to de-stress & remember why you are doing this :)
Hope you feel better soon xx
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Oh hun, you really need to talk to him about how you feel, sounds like pre-wedding nerves and stress though but you both need to be straight with eachother.
I'm sure he is just being a bloke (sorry any men that read this).
You're only a couple of weeks away now so maybe things are just really intense for you both right now xx
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CommentAuthorkirstyless
Awww Heidi, you're having a time of it at the moment aren't you.
Will he not listen at all to you? Sounds like hes pretty stubborn, but he should be taking you into consideration aswell. Maybe its just his way of handling the nerves?
CommentAuthorladyannwyn
its most probably wedding nerves and stress thats causing all of this, you've both sacraficed stuff for the wedding and as its 2 wks away im sure its been for the past few months so its probably just stress from being without luxuries for a long time, i do think you need to talk to him hun, calmly and tell him that when he says hes doing it cos he loves you then tell him its not comming across like that, he may not realise hes moaning so much or making you feel like this and that it is not intended like that! me n oh had a huge fight (weve only had 3 in all the time weve been together!) and we almost broke up because of crossed wires and mis interpretations, long story short tell him how its making you feel and don't scream or shout and try not to cry, men see this as a bit of an attack and guilt trip (even if not meant like that) and be calm and say do you really want to do this now? do you want to postpone it? is it nerves? is it just the car thing and if so is it becuase hes worried bout the money side of things or does he miss doing things or is he getting bored 'stuck' inside? maybe hes just lashing out a little cos hes stressed and bored and doesnt no what to do about it so taking it out on you? big hugs hun and hope you get it sorted xxxxxxx ps spoke to my other half and he says 1. its probably pre wedding nerves cos its only 2 weeks away n 2. he probably doesnt realise its comming across so harshly - just thought man logic might help here :) xxx
CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
aww hope things get better soon :( id like to say its just nerves etc but only you know if this is how your h2b is in general or not. maybe the stress is getting you both a bit heated and your not thinking rationally. try to talk to him and explain how you are feeling. my h2b has always made me feel guilty for the fact when i got pregnant he had to sell his motorbike(his baby) for money but he knows deep down it was the right thing to do, he will always miss it but he had to man up we both made sacrifices and that was that! im sure he will realise it was all worth it after youve had an amazing day xx
CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
aw heidi :(
i agree with what others have said. it's probably pre wedding jitters on both sides. plus, as ladyannwyn's h2b said, guys can say things without knowing how harsh they sound. they have foot in mouth disease. my h2b said something today that put me on a downer for the full day but when i spoke to him about it later on, he didn't mean it the way i took it. i sometimes have doubts, normally if he's peed me off, but that's coz i'm so bloody dramatic lol
you've only got a few weeks left and wedding planning is soooooooooooooooooooooooo stressful!!! throw in money problems and stress is doubled!!
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CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
Aww hunni, money worries are always the worst. I've been engaged for a year and we are planning to get married next May but OH saying that we wont be able to do it till the following year because of money! I'm looking into getting a second job, cleaning or something like that of an evening just so i can put the extra funds in a pot for my wedding. With you only having a couple of weeks left, i wouldn't let it get to you too much, you're nearly there and you can worry about it afterwards! xxx
CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
P.S Ladyannwyn, i'm loving your man logic asking too! x
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Thanks Ladies, We had a good chat last night & the money troubles are just getting on top of us and i think its a bit of last minute nerves also. I now remember why i wanted to marry my H2B in the first place. I love him so much & i wana spend the rest of my life with him.
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
I'M MARRIED!!!
I am now Mrs Bananaman!!!!
13/09/2012 in Peyia Town Hall, Cyprus
CommentAuthorfiona
Thats great, glad you sorted it.
CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
Aww brilliant so glad you sorted things :) I think sometimes the stress of it all makes people forget the reasons of y their doing it in the first place not long now and you'll be happily married and hopefully get your car back ;) xx
CommentAuthorxxRosiexx
Glad it's sorted hun! Men are silly (then again women aren't much better) but he is probably just stressed in general and angry at life for not being easy rather than actually at you, unfortunately he can't be moody with life so ends up taking it out on you. Just try and focus on the positives, you have each other and a lovely wedding to look forward to, you have the rest of your lives to drive and spend money! :)
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CommentAuthorXbox widow
Glad you sorted it cos you've been through to much to give up at the last hurdle x
CommentAuthorAntonia9
glad you have sorted things out hun, i was just going to agree with the others, men can be selfish little so and so's sometimes and when we take away or stop them playing with their boys toys for a while they get strops on! lol
it can be stressful on both sides planning a wedding, but you two seem strong enought to come out the other end as mr and mrs, youve had a lot going on these past few weeks, i think its just a combination of pre jitters, MEN! and the money issue.
It will all be worth it in the end! ;0) x
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CommentAuthorFitchMcCombe
So glad to hear you's have talked it out, its horrible the way the stresses of life can get in the way of what really matters!
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Thanks Ladies
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
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CommentAuthormillz090
Aw honey, only just read this and then you've sorted it so im happy too now cos your happy xxx
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CommentAuthorHa_x3
Aww thankyou Millz
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthorkrissy905
im sure that ones the wedding is over and the saving every penny for the wedding is over things will ease up a little for you both x
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Yes definatly Krissy, we can start enjoying life together again lol I have also realised we need our own place, but with both of us working for agencys its not atall possible
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthorUnknown
ive only just read it but i felt exactly the same as you with a few weeks to go. getting married is one of the most stressful things you but as you say you have worked things out everything will be fine so just look forward to your wedding day now x
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Thankyou Terri, I feel confident now that i am doing the right thing.
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthorladyannwyn
awww sooo glad for u huni! knew u could work it all out :) now just to get pampered up for the big day and try to destress lol :D try to enjoy it hun!!!! it will all be worth it xxxxx
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Thankyou hun :) xx
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthorMrsShaw
you're into the 'days' countdown now!!! :D xx
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
eek hun hugs! thats the only thing me n h2b agreed on we will have the weddin we want but wudnt in anyway let it inped on rue day to day life that much! cos as much as we wanted to get married we dint wanna not be able to live x
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CommentAuthorHa_x3
Omg didn't realise its gone to days, how exciting :) xx
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthorfiona
So excited for you!
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Thanks hun, i can barely contain my excitement anymore
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
Aww hunni, i'm so happy that you have sorted things out BIG HUGS xx
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Thanks Hayley, everythings much smoother after talking things over etc, & i realise its definatly not him or me, rather all the stress geting on top fo us, but it wll be so worth it in just a few weeks xx
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
