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    • LauraM237
      CommentAuthorLauraM237
     
    This is going to sound ridiculous, but we are now a month before our wedding and rather than excitement, all that my h2b and I are feeling is dread. His mum and Dad divorced years ago. His mum is an alcoholic and ruined the last family occasion by swearing and causing a sene during the service. She has fallen out with everyone including h2b's brother, grandparents, aunts and uncles and even her own grandchildren. She has been on good behaviour recently and was told that if she was coming to the wedding she would have to behave. The worry is now all the people she has fallen out with as they are all threatening to start a fight with her! Threatening to batter her, tell her what they think of her etc. h2b and I have been through hell last two years as he has terminal brain tumour and all we wanted was one lovely day with our family and friends and we are now a month away and tempted to pull out of the whole thing. My Dad was an alcoholic and it's already painful enough that he won't be there as he died 10 years ago. My Grandpa is also dying in hospital at the moment and it's just all too much. What do I do? Help.
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    • kittyh
      CommentAuthorkittyh
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    wow thats awful...i think that you really need to ask yourself how important getting married is to you...if it isn't then go ahead and cancel...if it is important then you should not let these other people spoil it for you...can't you just scale it right down and only have the people there who are supportive and who won't ruin it? Or tell the people saying they are going to "batter" her outright that you are concerned that your day will be spoilt and that if that is there intention then they should stay away. i mean regardless of their fellings its your wedding and they should be respecting yours...ESPECIALLY considering everything you have been through...hope it gets sorted out for you :( xx
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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
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    I think you need to work out if you still want to get married for you or if it's because of the people that might 'ruin' it. If it's the latter then speak to them now before it escalates and see what can be done. If it's the other which it doesn't seem to be (although I may be wrong), then sit down and chat about what you really want. Scale down things maybe could be an option? Tbh, with a month to go, you're almost there lovely but maybe if certain people can't behave for one day you tell them not to bother if they can't make the effort so you can have a nice day x

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