Hey people! Quick question, we've just booked our venue and the wedding is not until 19th Jan 2013. When should I send the Save the Date cards out? As our anniversary is the same date as our wedding we thought it would be nice to send them out 19th Jan 2012 exactly a year before. Also the big question we've been trying to find out the answer to is should you send them to people you're only inviting to the evening? Thanks people xxxxx
CommentAuthorLlosa
Hiya Becky,
My friend sent out save the dates to everyone, including evening guests :)
I think sending the save the dates out the year before is a great idea :) theres no set time to send them its all down to you Hope this helps
CommentAuthormunchkinpie
I wouldnt send Save The Date to evening guests - only because if I received a Save The Date id presume id be attending the whole day.
If you can word yours to state day/evening then it might work.
Im intending only sending them to all day guests - also because pretty much 85% of our guests are going to have between 200-500miles to travel ill be sending mine out about 16 months before hand with venue details so they can book rooms etc
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
i onyl sent them to day guests! cos they will think they r invited to day! u cant expect peole to save for whole day just for an evening dp x
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CommentAuthorNavyBaby
I would send them to all guests, but I'd make sure that you politely state its only the evening part they are invited to. You wouldn't want guests booking days off work etc when they arent really needed.
Are you wanting evening guests to watch you getting married at the ceremony?
CommentAuthorbeckybanners
Thanks guys - that's what I thought - they may think they're invited to the the whole day! I may only send it to day guests then. But as they're my family and close friends they already know, haha! Ooh so many rules. My fiance is always saying "Can't we just do it how WE want it?" I think this is the way to go :D
Hope all of your wedding planning is going well ladies xxxxxx
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
I sent it to everybody, even evening only guests, but on our invites we are opening the wedding ceremony to everyone, not just day guests - I think this is fine, you're asking ppl to just keep the date in mind, and as long as you send your oficial invites out in good time before the wedding, evening only people won't have made accomodation arrangements etc by then so shouldn't feel out of turn. We're sending ours out 6 months before, with an RSVP 3 months later. It's not nice to find out last minute you're evening only, a cousin of mine got married in April this year in San Francisco, and we were told of their engagement a year before, and asked if we would like to come to the wedding - we said yes, then booked our flights in the new year - the invites arrived in Feb, and it was only then we saw it was an evening reception only as they were getting married the day before in County Hall with immediate family only witnessing as they only wanted a small affair - even though they knew we'd have flown halfway around the world and would have been in the same city, they weren't interested in seeing us on the wedding day! Now That was an inconvenience!!!
CommentAuthornickers
we sent ours to day people only xxx
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CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
I only sent it to the day guests, but it's your wedding so whatever you prefer
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CommentAuthorMrsSophieFoster
i only sent them to the day guests but its your choice x
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CommentAuthorvikki977
I was planning on only sending them to day guests too, we are getting married in april (easter sat~) so I am sending them in their xmas cards.... formal invites will then follow in new year. x
CommentAuthorsuzky123
we were told by the wedding coorinator to only send to day guests and not evening guests which I am concerned about as we are getting married in peak summer period but apparently it 'is not the done thing to send to evening guests' so we followed her advice given she is the professional x
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CommentAuthorFuture mrs mac
I'm only sending to day guests but it's up to you :) Didn't know you could invite evening guests to the ceremony?We have a big church but can only afford 50 people during the day for the meal. How do you word an evening invite saying they can come to the church but not the meal? xx
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
This is how I did it:
Dear [blank line/space to write names in], you are warmly invited to attend the wedding of Groom and Bride on Sunday 3rd June 2012, 2pm at Church, Liverpool and afterwards for an evening reception party at Venue, Liverpool from 7.30pm
RSVP by 31st March 2012 We look forward to seeing you there!
CommentAuthorsar
You could do save the evening cards! maybe although it would cost more to get them made. x
CommentAuthorFuture mrs mac
Thanks bridalmiss :D Did anyone complain or moan about it being rude?Can imagine my family doing this!xx
CommentAuthorlows
I sent ours to every one but the evening guests had evening invitation to follow printed on them and the day guests had invitation to follow. This way everyone knew the date as its the start of the school summer holidays and i didnt want people to book holidays and not be able to come. I think that the evening guests liked having a save the date as they then dont feel like second class guests!!!!!!!
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
I've not techically sent them out yet as they're not due until Christmas time, but I've shown the text to my mum and other members of the family as a check, and most of them commented that it was nice I was inviting evening guests to the church before, and no-one said it was the wrong tone. I'm also going to ask my vicar (I go to a different church!) to extend the church service invite that day in my usual service, to say it's open invite to come to see the wedding service if they would like - for me the most significant part of the day is the actual moment of marriage and commitment itself, rather than the party, so I want people to share that moment and celebrate with us! Plus I'd rather get married in a church full of people and well wishers rather than it being half full, haha!!
CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
We've done the same bridalmiss, and all of our evening guests are invited to the church as well. After photos etc, there's only a 3 1/2 hours gap until the evening reception anyway, so it's not too bad. I know a few of my friends who are invited to evening who have still booked the day off work so that they can come to the church, and they are really pleased that they still get ot see the actual wedding.
When it came to sending out STDs however, we did only send them to those we were inviting to the entire day, since we didn't want people to get upset to find that they had booked a day off to have to sit on their hands for a few hours in between.
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CommentAuthormrsbriggs
Im sending ours to day only as we are getting married on a friday so most evening guests that work mon-fri wont need to arrange time off .
CommentAuthorbeckybanners
Thanks everyone! We've ordered save the date for full day guests only. I hope we don't offend anyone! x
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
We emailed out our save the dates to save on cards, maybe you could email your evening guests to say they're invited to the evening etc so at least they know the date at the same time as your day guests :-)
CommentAuthorbeckybanners
I was thinking that, but then thought if anyone replied to say that they couldn't come upon receipt of the save the date or wedding invite later on, I wouldn't then be able to change my mind and say 'Oh, so and so couldn't come so you've been bumped up!' That would look extremely rude :P x
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Depends how well you get on with them, I was bumped up from evening only to all day last year because of a lower than expected response! Why don't you phrase the evening save the date more as 'we'd love it if you could come celebrate with us' so that people are aware of the date but not necessarily the type of invite? I just wanted all my guests to know the date in case any night ones heard discussion amongst day guests and thought they'd not been invited :-)
CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
It does depend on how you get on with them - I've bumped up a couple of our friends after family members couldn't make it to the whole day, and that's after the evening invitations were sent out. They were thrilled to be able to be moved up and didn't take any offense at all that they had only had an evening invitation prior to that x
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CommentAuthorbeckybanners
Hmmm. Decisions! I don't want people to talk to each other and think they've not been invited! I thought I'd decided on only day guests but now I'm not so sure!
CommentAuthorJules
This discussion has really helped me out because i was unsure whether to send the Save the Date Cards to the Evening guests, and now after ready this i'v decided to just send them to the All day guests and I might even send them out for Christmas with there Christmas cards (it'll save on postage) :) xx
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CommentAuthorbeckybanners
What a good idea!!! To be honest I don't even think I'm bothering with Save the date anymore! Mum's already phoned the family hehe :) As our family's are so large I can't invite many other friends but they know who they are! xx
CommentAuthorMel D
We only sent save the date cards to the people that were being invited to the whole thing xx
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CommentAuthorMrs.K.Ward
So glad someone asked this. I am sending mine out to everyone but I'm getting married on a friday and the evening do starts at 7pm so gives people a chance to decide if they want to take a day off, half a day or not at all.
But I'm a little worried they might assume they're invited to the whole day but the save the dates are printed now so no going back.
CommentAuthorKaya
I wouldn't send to evenings incase they assume all day invite x
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CommentAuthornini
I was thinking the same thing. I think I will have 2 STDs. One for day guests saying something like 'Spend our special day with us' and one for evening guests saying something along the lines of 'Join our evening celebration'. That way everyone knows if there are invited and wont feel left out, but it is also clear exactly what part of the day they are invited to. Then when the proper invitations are sent out there wont be any nasty disappointments.
CommentAuthornone
SO confusing lol. Reading this thread has helped me alot! we are to get married in June 2013, do you think it's fine to send them the christmas befire hand? or should I do it sooner as people might book holidays?
CommentAuthordolphin
I wasn't sure either but i think im going to send to just day guests as our evening reception starts at 7.30 so fingers crossed people who work on a saturday should be finished by then. x
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CommentAuthorJules
That's a really gd idea nini, I might just pinch your idea. Apparently it's never to early to send out STD cards misslyndz, i'm sending ours out this christmas & we're not getting married until September 2013
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CommentAuthornini
Thanks J. I am sending out my STDs with the christmas cards this year for a wedding in August 2012. As it's prime holiday season I wamted people to know before they start booking their summer holidays.
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
nini.... its a bit late sendin std at xmas for august, i sent mine last xmas and invites end of jan, i wud send them now! dont 4get people can book hols a year before!
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CommentAuthornone
Thanks J :) goinf to get H2B to make them then and when he's done send them out, so prob just after this christmas
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
yes miss lyndz i sent mine out 17 months ish before
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Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthornone
So good being on this site or I never would have found that out. I think we arnt having any extra guests in the evening, expect for our cousins so no need for me to worry about sending them STD's out. when would you suggest to send the actual invites out then?
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
am sendin mien out enf of jan middle feb! for my weddin august 11th
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Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthornone
that sounds good :) gives time for the rspvs too :)
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
defo! ave got mine made up ready lol
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