Good evening everyone,

I've finally got around to making my evening invites, but am not sure of the etiquette when it comes to the gift list.

Do I include a wedding list in the evening invite, or leave it out?

Thank you.

Personally, I'm not a fan of putting anything on invites about gifts, money etc....it makes it look like an obligation no matter how cleverly worded.
If I got an invite to a birthday party with suggestions of what gift I should bring I think I'd be a bit miffed, if you know what I mean.

That said, do you have a wedding website where you could direct guests and put it on there?

Xx

Sorry I went of on a rant then and didn't answer your question!

Assuming you do want to put a request on the invite,

I think if the gift list has enough lower value items (say under £20) then put it in the evening invite....people will probably want the option of spending less money as its not a full day invite...I know we spend less if it's an evening only.

Xx

I would. We've done a gift list and we're going to put them in both. People aren't obliged to buy anything off the list but I know a lot of people wouldn't know what to buy and would appreciate the gift list. Your evening guests are still going to want to buy you a gift so it's just easier if they know what you would like

I'm doing money poems but will be putting them in the evening invites but it's an optional, I'm not expecting everyone to give money, but just them there is enough for me.

Xx

All of our guests will be at the whole day, but if we were having evening guests, I'd put it on their invites too xx

I would say def put it in x

I'm not having a gift list I'm asking for money only and this is because my reception is in Ireland but we live in England so we would have a job transporting everything back and money is the easy option. Other benefits of having a money only request include- you can pay bills or put it towards a honeymoon or something. People can just give us what they feel is appropriate themselves.

However there's no right or wrong way of doing a gift list. I wouldn't have one myself and of course you will get the odd guest who will deliberately not pick something from the list. Just make sure you have a system in place where you don't end up with 20 toasters. Put it in the evening invitations if you want to.

I have added it into our invites, just said if you feel you want to give us something we would like money for our honeymoon. We put that in all invites but just want people to come x x

I'm so glad someone else asked this as we juststarting our invites now and wondered about gift lists think we are going to put them in both x

I dont think Id expect my evening guests to bring a gift or anything, Id not really thought about it. We won't really ask for anything from anyone I dont think. I dont even like telling people what id like for xmas/bdays so sod trying to work this one out haha

I'm not putting itnj the evening invites, only the day. If people want to get you something they are likely to ask for your list then you can let them have it xx

i havent for the evening, but as we are only asking for a contribution towards the honeymoon, im not worried. we have also mentioned when people have asked in passing what we wnat, that that is all we are asking for. theory is that knowig how our friends talk, everyone knows anyway lol

I've put a poem about money (in the nicest possible way) on the day invitations but not on the evening ones x x

See my brother who got married this year didnt write anything about money or a present list and everyone was then asking them instead which became annoying so i think write something polite so people have the option xxx

We have added about gifts on info sheets for all the guests - day & evening only because so many people keep asking us about it.

Ive put in a nice money poem & Ive stated that we dont expect guests to buy us gifts but should they feel the need to get us something we ask for money simply because we already have everything for our flat and we can use money towards a honeymoon