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    • HannahJ937
      Getting married in 7 weeks
      Posted: Jul 29th 2018
    I am recently engaged and am litterly over the moon (been with my partner for 6years). I cannot wait to be married and had always fantasied about what our wedding would be like.

    My parents very very messy divorce was finalised just before Xmas although they have been separated for 3 years. I am close to both parents my sister and my Dads new partner (he had an affair with her).

    My mum is obviously very very bitter about my dad and all she does is bad mouth him and his new partner and my sister hasn’t seen or spoken to him in 3 years.

    The thought of having a wedding is now making me really sad and actually giving me nightmares, the thought of having the wedding I have in my head completely ruined by my parents and sister is making me so anxious.

    It is making me really just want to elope and not have a wedding at all which I know I will regret and isn’t something that either of us want.

    Has any been through the same things , any advise or tips etc
    • HannahB146
      Posted: Sep 23rd 2018
    Firstly congratulations on your engagement :)
    I haven't been through this myself, but I have heard a lot of other stories like this.
    You could talk to your parents and sister, explain to them your concerns and discuss the sort of wedding you are dreaming of.
    In terms of practicality on the day, you could have a sweetheart table for the top table (just you and your partner) or a top table with you, your husband and the best man and maid of honour/chief bridesmaid (if you have one). Your parents could then sit on completely different tables. ( I can understand why you may want this, and your parents and your husband's parents might not be happy about it.) They then wouldn't need to speak to each other- just focus on celebrating with you on your day.
    Not really sure what else to suggest, but I hope it works out ok :)
    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Nov 3rd 2018
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    I would write a letter to each of your parents saying that you know they have issues with each other but that you need com0,eye reassurance that they will keep you at the front of things as you organise the wedding, you WILL NOT be drawn into any discussions about the other parents and if the6 start saying things in your presence you will just walk away.

    If they can't do this and behave like adults on your day then you will have no options that to go away and get married without them

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