Sorry for this rant, i feel so upset and angry at the moment with one of my bridesmaids who also happens to have been my best friend for the last 20 years. A couple of years ago she moved 400 miles away with her good for nothing boyfriend who, i believe, is only with her to fund his lifestyle. He has cheated on her several times and me and another friend have only found this out through her parents because she knows our opinion on him and she doesn't talk about him to us. Me and my other friend have offered several times to meet her half way and even closer to where she lives for a weekend together as we do miss her lots but she has always declined. We think it's because she refuses to leave her boyfriend alone in fear of who he be off with whilst she's not there. We have asked her to come on holiday with us but she has always said she can't afford it but it's ok for her boyfrined to go on 2 week exotic lads holiday leaving her at home and i do mean exotic not just ibiza like normal lads holidays!
I have asked her to spend the weekend with me and the other bridesmaid's in Birmingham in November, plenty of notice i think, and she has umm'd and arrr'd and still not given me an answer saying that she doesn't think she can get the friday off work and she won't be able to get there on her own (She doses drive 2 hrs a day to and from work so that's not a problem and there are flights for next to nothing £10- £20 ish which would be cheaper than driving).
Anyway reason for this rant is that i recieved a text message from her yesterday informing me that she was home this weekend for his cousin's wedding and would i be free to see her on Saturday! So 1, she has got the day off for his family's wedding who she has only met a couple of times! 2, she never answers calls, returns calls or returns texts that my other friend or i send her and unless she is returning home we never hear from her! She just expects me to drop everything last minute to see her!
I do miss her and the friendship we had lots but i feel so angry and upset with her at the moment.
Am i being too harsh? I feel guilty for feeling like this!
CommentAuthorIgnition
It's not particularly harsh, she isn't there for you, when you want to see her, then she can't expect to drop everything just like that. xx
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CommentAuthorPeach
It's not like i'm even being a bridezilla. I have not mentioned the wedding or bridemaid shopping to her at all i just wanted to see her!xx Argg! Thank you Ignition xx
CommentAuthorEnny
difficult situation really it defo must have to do ith her partner guess everything would look different if she wouldnt be with him.... she might be realizing it one day when it turns out that he has been cheating on her again and a child might be involved in this hard to say and not easy but maybe that will be the time she wakes up... but u defo shouldnt let everything drop just coz she is suddenly available... with extreme short notice tbh... i understand the fact that u miss her as a friend as it has been a long time u have been friends... hope really u get a moment one day to talk to each other and sort things out maybe she just doesnt know how to deal with this all maybe u should let her know how she is making u feel!!! big hugs xx
CommentAuthorsbride
I think you should meet up woth her if you can and tell her how you feel. There maybe more to it.
Its a tough one, you shouldn't have to drop everything at short notice but you really want to see her. maybe you should meet up to talk about how you're feeling. i have friends who live far away but we always make time to see each other a few times a year. like enny says, it might be totally different if she wasn't with this bloke. xx
