When I first got engaged my parents said they would help out with the budget, but since then, they haven't mentioned anymore about budgets etc... I wondered if anyone had any ideas about how to approach the topic without sounding rude or spoilt...
:D Thank you everyone!
xx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
we got told that we would get a small contribution when they can afford it. We have tried to therefore budget based without their contribution and am just leaving it up to then to give us some pennies as and when they see fit. We figured that way if they gave it after everything is booked it can go on the house or the honeymoon and if they gave it us before, it frees up our finances a little. We are like you in that we dont want to ask for it so we found this way better.
cant wait to be Mrs Evans less than 3 weeks woooo
start weight 10st 1.5 lbs
weight now 8st 4.5 lbs
total loss to date: 24.5 lbs now need to maintain!
CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
Have either of your parents shown any interest in the wedding planning?
Why not put together a spreadsheet of what you think everything will cost and discuss it with them along with your own ideas on how you're going to save the money? It might not elicit any money, but it will help them understand how much things are costing from where they might offer.
That said, we ended up with money from Grant's parents because they hated some of our plans and basically paid to change it.
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CommentAuthorBarbieBride
Thanxx ladiez :) Some fab advice!
I've been a bit worried that my parents are upset that my plans are not to get married in a church or in Manchester where they live... But we really like the idea of one venue for the whole event, and we live in London, so with both having full time jobs its not really viable to go to visit venues in Manchester. I'm thinking of the general wedding planning discussions as a way of inviting them into the wedding planning and showing them that even though its not how they may have perhaps imagined it... its still going to be a lovely day and I still want them involved...
OH2Bs Mum said she will help us out, which I know she can afford but I'm not relying on it, therefore I am planning our own budget based on the fact we will pay for everything ourselves. Then if Mum in Law to be does come good it's a nice bonus!
Can't wait until the day I become Mrs. Johnson :)
CommentAuthorJill
We're doing the same, h2b's parents are going to help out a bit and my parents are buying my dress but we're working out figures so that we more than cover the cost ourselves, then anything else is a bonus.
There's nothing wrong with just talking about your wedding though, after all it is hugely important, sometimes it's all I talk about lol your parents probably think they've got plenty time, like my h2b did when we got engaged xx
