i refuse to not have the wedding i've always dreamed of by 'doing it cheap' as my dad keeps telling me. I'm not being spoilt as both me and my partner are willing to save every penny.. the problem is we havent got a house together so i feel like i should be using the money towards a home rather than one day that i can have eventually! i've entered a competition to win a wedding so that would be PERFECT, however the chances are slim, so unless i'm lucky i have this dilemma! i just dont know what to do!!!!
CommentAuthorLil' Cakes
Hmmm. I kinda know where you're coming from. However, I'm thinking that because me and h2b are only 23, we've got the rest of our lives to think about things like that. I'm only going to do this once (hopefully) and I don't want to look back in 10 years and regret not having the wedding of my dreams just cos i wanted to have my own house a bit sooner. That's what I think anyway :) x
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
We have postponed so we can save for a house first...............at the end of the day we thought a house was far more important for us and our three kids then one day!
We still want the perfect wedding and want to make it unique to us by adding all the little details which unfortanly costs money and all adds up but we want the added security of owning our own house first. Although we havent set an offiacial date we are looking at the first sunday in november in 2014/2015 to get married instead of next year!
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CommentAuthorUnknown
if h2b didnt already own a place we would have got a mortage and then saved for the wedding! can you cut down the wedding a little to save for a house aswell. not much help i know. sit down with h2b and really talk about what is important and then make a decision xx
CommentAuthorCheryl22
we are in exactly the same position - we were torn between buying a house or getting married. In the end we decided that getting married is more important to us as we are still both young and we are not wanting kids right away. This gives us time to save up after the wedding for a house deposit and hopefully in a few years time the housing market will have improved and they will be more willing to give mortgages to first time buyers, as everyone we are talking to are saying that we need between £18,000 and £25,000 before they will even consider us for a mortgage.
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There is nothing so sweet in life, as loves young dream!
we are both only young as well so we have our whole lives ahead so its no real trouble to wait, its just i would love to get married because i am so happy and its a day ive looked forward to for nearly 2 years since he has proposed! but my head knows better and thinks it makes more sence to get settled with a home and then take it from there!
i keep thinking to myself right come on cut down, do it in the local church and rent somewhere cheap for the reception but i cant convince myself and i just feel like i will regret it one day when i have the money that i didnt do it the way i always hoped for, that probably sounds so selfish! like you say mrsbarkertobe we need to sit down and have a serious talk and come to some conclusion! thankks ladies :)
CommentAuthorJilly17
A home of your own would be more important to me for the security etc and there is no such thing as doing a wedding on the 'cheap' .... I hate that word! ha ha. I have seen and attended some fab weddings that did not cost the earth or anywhere near the so called 20k average. Rickys wedding was gorgeous and came in at 2.5k ...but nothing 'cheap' about that day! I suppose for me a wedding is afterall one day but a good marriage can be enhanced by stability and security
CommentAuthorMrs_Ewan2b
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i dont think i could have put it better myself! i completely agree especially with the 'doing it on the cheap' as my dad likes to keep telling me! x
