My fiance and I got engaged in November and we decided to get married in Spring 2014.
We've visited about 14 venues now and we've found 'The One'. There's a good winter package that we're interested in and have held a date in March 2014 for the next 2 weeks. Having a look over the budget and how much all of the additional necessities would cost, we're concerned that it may be a struggle for us to save enough in time without having to sacrifice other elements, especially as the venue are asking for a £3000 deposit.
We have found other venues cheaper but none of them have given us 'that feeling'.
The only other option we have is to have the same package but push it back to November 2014 so that we have more time to save but that means waiting an extra 9 months!!
It would be great to get an idea of what other people would do or if there are any other brides who are in the same position?
Thanks
Becky xxx
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CommentAuthorPenguinJ
WHAT??? why are they asking for a £3k deposit? most venues ask for £500. how much is the total package?
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CommentAuthorJoanna
It's up to you and h2b really. What's more important to you, the date or the venue?
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CommentAuthorShazk
Oh hunt it is such a hard one isn't it and I no how u feel we have put our wedding back a year and I felt dreadful when 1st did it but actually the more I thought about it the more excited I was at having another year to plan and knowing that we will have everything we want so personally I would put it back x x x
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CommentAuthorKellyN29
For me it is more about the day being right, we are together married or not, so we planned the budget and a savings plan before we started looking. We could not afford to get married before Aug 2014, and i'm still hoping we can save enough in that time. I do think £3000 deposit is alot
blige that's a lot... we put down £1k and I thought that was enough. That aside work out your finances and see what's what. What can you save on, what's necessary and what's not. xx
CommentAuthorVelcro
we pushed ours back a year because we wanted it right, rather than right now.
Could you look at your budget though and see what you can DIY or delegate to friends and family?
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
blooming heck £3K was the total for our reception and we only had to pay a £500 deposit
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CommentAuthorJanie
to my W2B and I the date was THE most important thing, we put it back a year as we couldnt get the date we wanted. it HAS to be august 10th, the day we met LOL.
It seems a high deposit..there are ways of cutting back without going without. We have a 1k budget (and yes it can be done lol) but there are things we're going without
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I think a 3k deposit is downright outrageous!!!!! We had to put a £1k deposit down on ours but because we couldn't afford that,we agreed to £500 in writing then agreed to have at least the £1k paid by the end of may this year... Could u speak to your venue about reducing your deposit as long as you maybe pay £1k and agree a date to have the rest paid by,..I really think £3k is ridiculous, that's the price of a wedding at most venues if u get a package!
I think it may be sensible to put it bk if u think ur gonna strain ur finances... I got engaged in oct and ours is booked for sept 2014 just because we didn't wanna have to skint ourselves and be able to still do some socialising while saving (stops arguments from happening) especially as its a proven fact more couples end up splitting because of money worries... And it's only a couple of months, the time will still go fast!xx
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CommentAuthorLynD
Janie - just noticed we are date twins :)..
CommentAuthorAmyK
Think about whether its worth the stress and worry trying to save enough between now & then, or if there are potential oh-no-my-car-has-just-died-and-will-cost-a-bomb-to-fix moments that may crop up. Make your wedding planning as enjoyable as you can hun, after all, you're only doing it once, right? x
CommentAuthorJanie
ooh are we Lyn? Best date ever lmao
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CommentAuthorGillianE
It is entirely up to you two, however you do have to consider what is important to you both, if this is the venue you really want, then why not put the date back so you can save for it. We have set our minds on the date we want for next year, and we don't want to change it really, but if we can not do this date then we will postpone for later in the year. these things happen but you have to go for what is right for you both xx
CommentAuthorLynD
absolutely agree . I think Millz is also our twin (or should that be triplet) ;)
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
£3000 is horrendous. Maybe you can haggle the deposit down a bit, given that most people seem to have paid about £500. That's what our deposit was. Maybe you can look at the hotel package and see if it can be reduced. We're getting a cheaper fee per head for the children, and my fiance's sister is tube fed and won't eat at all, so we don't have to pay for her. It might be worth finding out whether you can reduce the cost of the reception.
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CommentAuthorsarah
I think it's up to you in the end. But I'd rather not have that "feeling" about a venue if it means I'll end up spending more than I can afford.
CommentAuthorJodyx
That seems like a very steep deposit, have you spoke to them about maybe reducing the deposit, because its not till like next year. ? xx
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CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
£3,000 deposit?! How much is your venue?? Our venue is £4,000 on it's own & we paid £1,500 deposit. If you've got your hearts set on that venue, then I would wait an extra 9 months :) xx
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CommentAuthormillz090
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Lyn And Janie - that makes us triplets haha !!
Its completely your choice - don't struggle and push yourself as you want to enjoy the planning too and remember you still to live until then so need some money.... personally i would push it back 6 months so you have more time to prepare and save and plan and not so stressed about money. Saving is tough xxx
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CommentAuthornatalie2614
That's a really steep deposit! Maybe go back and ask them to see about reducing it and introduce a payment plan ? Xx
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CommentAuthorKistHall
We wanted as summer wedding but we pushed back to Nov as it was a lot cheaper, both the venue and other bits and bobs, and we're now getting married on our anniversary so its an important date too, so worked out perfect. But you have to decide what's most important to you and work around what you do and don't/can compromise on. I hope you figure it all out and come to something you are happy with
CommentAuthorRoseK29
cant believe they r askn for £3000 deposit thats a lot
CommentAuthorStaceyP91
3k is a lot for a deposit! I paid £500 for my wedding reception deposit.
How much is the venue altogether if that's the deposit.
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
I would push it back, I have had about 8 months to plan my wedding and do wish at times we had left it till next year. The last 8 months have flown by. Another few months will go so fast x x
CommentAuthorTori
Depends what's more important but only a few months more. Whhy don't you sit and work out exactly what you must have on the day, budget it and see whether you ca afford it in the march? Also why not use the two weeks to check out other venues you may find one you like just as much or even more but cheaper x
CommentAuthorBobsi
Wow 3k is somewhat ridiculous. How much are you paying total 15? I'd say push it back and give yourself more time to save. However if getting married in march means something to you why not get married march 2015. It's still in march but with longer to save. X
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CommentAuthorChanelP
If it was me I would push the wedding back to make sure I was comfortable that I could save in one. I think 3k is an awful lot for a deposit I paid £750
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CommentAuthorBecky1608
Hi everyone,
I really appreciate all the comments. It's great to get some advice!
I know! I thought it was a bit of a ridiculous deposit but I'm going to try and get it down. The good thing is, once the deposit is paid, it's half the cost of the actual venue (package deal) and no further money is needed until about 3 weeks before the actual date. Unfortunately we've both fallen in love with the venue and now can't imagine getting married anywhere else (we've seen quite a few others).
I had a chat to my H2B last night and we've both agreed that we don't want to cause unnecessary stress so we're going to find out what dates in November 2014 the venue have. It will mean forfeiting the spring wedding we originally wanted but it also means that we get to say 'I do' in the month that we started dating which would be nice as the date would have more meaning to us as well as giving us more time to save and be able to add the personal touches that will make the day perfect.
Fingers crossed our November date is free! xx
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CommentAuthorGillianE
keeping my fingers crossed for you that you get the date in November. Let us know how you get on. xx
CommentAuthorAmyP7
Fingers crossed you get the date you want x x
CommentAuthorLulu1388
aw thats so sweet!Fingers crossed they have the date you are after :D xx
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CommentAuthorBecky1608
Our date has now changed to 8th November 2014 which we've held for the next 2 weeks. The more I think about it the happier I am with the decision that we've made!
Thanks again everyone for the help and advise!! xxx
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12/11/2008 - When we decided to be more than friends
04/11/2012 - A proposal in Central Park NYC
08/11/2014 - The day we say I do!
. I think Millz is also our twin (or should that be triplet) ;)
