Hi everyone I have just joined the site.....I have a dilemma about invites, and am hoping some of you may have some helpful suggestions.... I am getting married in Aug this year, I have lived in kent for 2 years but am originally from the North east so a lot of my friends and family will have to travel down for the wedding. Our venue is only able to accommodate 60 people for the wedding breakfast (space and budget!), so the dilemma is do we take up spaces by inviting peoples partners when they are travelling such a long way? Or is it acceptable to have them at the evening do only? Any help gratefully received Thanks Lisa
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
hi! Is there no other hotels near your venue? gotta be honest if I was invited to evening only and its that far away I wouldn't go as it wouldn't be cost effective for me xxx
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CommentAuthorKirsty
Tough call but I would say if they are coming a long way the partners would also have to come to the day do. Coukd you trim the friends down and have some more just for night time?
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
I agree, if there's a big distance to travel I wouldn't travel on my own.
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Depends on what you mean by partners? If your on about husbands /long time partners etc, or just boy/girl friend . Im not giving any plus ones. If we have never met them and are not married there not invited to day.
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It depends really, like someone above said-are you talking about husbands/long term relationships or new-ish relationships. Also are you inviting a group of friends that all know each other or individual friends, if it's a group then they might like to all travel down together anyway
CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
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Hi,
thanks for the responses. There are 4 female friends I want to invite from the north east - they've all been invited to my hen do so will all know eachother by then (plus 2 work together, and the other 2 work together). 2 are married but ive not met their husbands, and 2 are in LT relationships...... I wouldnt expect them to all travel down alone. I feel that becaue they've been invited to my hen party they will assume a wedding invite - then who would expect to come all the way to the other end of the country for just the night time do. #complicated..
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CommentAuthorBethanyS
My friends had the same dilemma. They put in the invitations a list of hotels near by the evening reception. Would this be a possibility? x
CommentAuthorHelainaH
Hi Lisa, I'm originally from the north east too, but living down south. From the start, I let my friends and family know that if me and my hubby hadn't met someone's other half, then they weren't getting an invite I.e don't just assume that guests will get a plus one etc.
Have you spoken to your friends about this? They might understand, and be happy to travel down together and share a room together.
We didn't want to take up our limited space on people we hadn't met, and in my opinion, friends should understand that (family are harder to convince). I hope that helps x
CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
We have a wedding website, so will putting the url of this in the invites. On the site I have listed various hotels, plus the average cost for the room based on 2 nights, as we are getting married early on the Sunday I think people will need to travel on the saturday. Do you think that only having my friends at the wedding and then their other halfs at the evening do is just a bit too rude? My fiances fathers family all live in australia, and we have been told there will be 3 of them making the trip over, so we need to keep 3 spaces aside (i hope that they do indeed come). hey - if we win the lottery before august we might be able to upgrade to a larger do! lol The last wedding on my fiances side of the family was a "celebrity" do....even Hello! magazine covered it. Theres no way we can match up to that - they had every single family member there (its a large family). But by taking off the plus 1's from the wedding breakfast we will be able to have more of the important people to us there. x
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I think if they are travelling a long way then you should invite their partners. I had an invite to my cousin in Scotland's wedding but will not be going as my h2b has not been given an invite even though we have been together for 6 years and getting married in 6 months time! I found it really rude personally and my h2b was pretty peeved too as we had all of them and their partners and children on our wedding list (14 people altogether!). I think if their partners aren't invited all day and they are invited then they probably won't come. What do you expect their partners to do all day on their own in a place they don't know? Either invite the partners all day or invite both of them to just the evening xxx
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
Hi Linzi-jo, i know what you're saying - if it was the other way round i'd be peeved! The wedding lark isnt easy is it! haha x
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
No it sure isn't! And I've found the guest list to be the worst part of the whole thing! Lol xx
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
it is isnt it?! Then you spend all this time deciding who to invite - send out the invites and they'll probably say they cant come! :-)
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
If I was invited toa wedding far away and my h2b wasn't I don't think id bother going myself. It is very difficult though an dyou don't want to hurt anyones feelings but the fact that 2 know each other as do the other two they wouldn't be completely on their own (as long as you sat them together) If that makes sense then their men can either come down for the evening do or decide its a woman only night.
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