So I really need some advice here ladies as I need to discuss a very delicate subject with my BM. I have 2 BM and we bought the dresses back in October last year. As far as it goes, I was very chilled about the dress buying saying that if we couldnt get what we wanted, there was no rush. Anyway, we found some lovely dresses which both I and the BMs loved, the only problem was that 1 BM couldnt quite do the dress up to the top and there was no bigger sizes left anywhere. I was happy to leave it but they both insisted and the one BM promised me she'd lose weight to get into it. So we bought the dresses. The problem is that my friend doesnt seem to have any inclination to lose the weight and I'm really worried that she wont fit into the dress. I have 4 months to go, and think if she started now, she'd easily get into the dress in time.... but how do I approach this? I have looked at all other possibilities such as trying to find her a bigger size but they are nowhere to be found unsurprisingly. I cant find her another dress easily as the colour is so specific (pale lemon yellow) and I have based my wedding theme around it. I dont want to hurt her feelings but Im not sure what to do. Ive tried to drop hints about coming and trying them on so I can decide how they are having their hair, but she just lets the other BM try the dress on.... Help! x x
CommentAuthorKirstylou86
Oh gosh that's so difficult, she must realise its difficult for you too? I would keep hinting but do it ASAP so she has time to realise, maybe do a group text or fb message so it doesn't seem directed to her and say you need them to put there dresses on for a fitting and for the hair, and if she says do the other bridesmaid just say I really want to see you in it too please because you had forgotten how they looked on them. Maybe keep hinting that how close it's coming up to the day and you hope your panicking that your own dress is going to fit well for the day? X
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
why dont you broach it with ....
"well girls i think we need to start our fitness kick ready for the wedding ....i want to lose some weight but i think i`ll only do it if you do it with me ... do you think we could do a weekly weigh or something .. this will really spur me on "
Lala.... Great idea, but I'm a size 8 (5ft 10), my other BM is a size 6 (5ft 9) . . .I've positively ordered my other BM not to lose weight as shes alreay too skinny and I dont want to lose any either.... Real flipping parlaver.....! x x
Group dress fitting is the way to go like Kirstylou said. Go down the route of its cloed to the big day and you wanna check everything like shoes and acessories go together, and if it turns out that she hasn't lost any and it really won't fit, a good seamstress will able to let it out (if its possible) Good luck x
CommentAuthorKatherineR45
Nightmare! I think the best thing is to suggest you need a group try on session t make sure they all look good together and one need any alterations. Maybe she is avoiding it because she is worried it won't fit x
CommentAuthorMrsGothBride
I would get her to pay for it to be altered to a lace up so it Will fit if she does and fit he she doesn't lose the weight, its not something you need to be worrying about on your big day!
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CommentAuthorChanelP
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This is a really tricky situation. Why don't you say that you need all the bridesmaids to try the dresses on just incase any alterations need to be and so that they are ready for the wedding. Set the day to try on a couple of weeks away so that she may get her behind in gear! x good luck
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CommentAuthorVelcro
seeing as she already knows the dress doesnt fit, it shouldnt be too awkward just saying we need to see if this dress fits yet and leave it at that
I wouldn't be offended if that were me, especially buying the dress well aware that it doesn't fit, of course it's not just going to miraculously fit me, so Id need to be getting on a diet and trying it on at intervals to see if it fits.
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CommentAuthorMrsMoran
totally agree with what Velcro said, as the dress was bought and it didn't fit, it should be fine to just say straight that you need to check if the dress fits yet xxx
CommentAuthorKimD7
I agree some honestly may b needed, if she has not tried it on when the other bridesmaid has it could be she is feleing embrassed she has not kost the weight and is worried about it. Promise to support her all you can. x
CommentAuthorLulu1388
I have to say the other ladies have come up with the right idea. Organise a group dress fitting, just double checking the dresses, making sure no bits need re sewing - do they have any small detailing that may need stitching, or if you dont want to broach the 'do up' side you could say you need to check the drop length against shoes etc, so no tripping up or anything like that? That way they get the dresses on and may kick start your BM into thinking she needs to sort it out.
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