I cannot believe this!!! We yav had to put our date back so many times due to money etc now we have had to move we are going to have to pit it back by at least 5 years. I find myself crying every night. What have I ever done to deserve all this bad luck?

I have worked the whole of my life even after having children, which took us years to conceive because of having PCOS and PCO. My Fiancé has worked the whole of his life and works overtime almost every weekend. We have a lovely house but have to move due to having children and because of the area we live in have had to take a house that needs everything doing to it.

I have now found myself dreading making plans etc for a wedding as they are always ruined by something. This is supposed to be the happiest (or one o the happiest) day of my life.

Oh Ange! I'm so so sorry! It must be such a horrid feeling knowing that you'll have to wait a few more years.

The main thing to remember is that you and your h2b love each other, whether you're married or not. I'm sure you've got beautiful children who will need their Mummy and Daddy to be happy. Getting married should be the happiest day of your life and it's a shame your feeling so down. Maybe you could start saving now? Even if its just £20 a month say, it's something!

You worked through the PCOS and had your children, so I'm sure you can work through this difficult time and get the perfect wedding that you both deserve.

xxx

i know how u feel hun, we have been in the exact same situation, we have 4 kids and money is tight as it is, we also moved last year just to go from a 2 bed flat to a 2 bed house for the sake of the children having a garden! my partner works so hard to support us all but we only just make enough to get by plus paying off some debts aswell which doesnt help!

we had to postpone our wedding twice! the first time my partner was made redundant, and the second because our budget was tight a few things came up which left us no money for the wedding again! this time i havent even announced it again, as i did on facebook last time, cos im also scared if i do i might curse it and it might never happen!

we have dramatically dropped our budget and guestlist to make sure that we can get married next year. i got sick of waiting and i knew if i wanted the big fairytale wedding i would be waiting another 5 years and the most important thing to me is getting married to my man and being his wife! i dont care now if its a big wedding or as lavish as some others, as long as the ppl i care about r there and we get married! our budget is 3000 and it is hard and do find myself going over every now and then but im hoping what i overspend on i can find something else to save on!

please dont get too disheartened about it, it will happen, im making sure im getting married next year i dont care what i have to do to make it happen i will! lol

hope u find a way of making it possible and maybe compromising on ur budget/size of the wedding will help 2! im here if u need to chat and share tips! x

Sorry to hear this Ange, but bridalmiss is right, I put our wedding on hold for years because we have 3 kids and even school clothes take it out of your budget, nothing is cheap and that's not going to change! So after being engaged for only 12 years, we've decided to just go for it!!!

We are going to get married as cheaply as possible, I'm still having the dress, the church and the party but our budget is only £1,000 and we're still under it, so it can be done hunnie, you just have to sacrifice little things (like favours, church flowers and wedding cars, in our case) and call in talented friends and family, anyone that has a talent can be used from making cards to sewing to singing even! Just gotta think outside the box! Some brides are having the attendants buy their own dresses or groomsmen hiring their own suits, I'm having them wear their own black suits and making waistcoats/cravats or just ties to match our colour scheme! So if you need any more ideas/help we're all here and you might find that you can afford to get married earlier! Good luck hun! xx

Lottery tickets & lots of crossed fingers! X

Angeperry: never think about what other people are doing it will drive you mental!

I have been with my H2B nearly 9 years been engaged for 3 and only just started planning now as we have finally been able to afford to move in together. I used to get really annoyed and jealous when I would hear of friends or friends of friends having kids and getting married when they had only been with their other halfs for about a year. For example one of my friends friend got engaged after 6 months, married after a year had a kid after 2 years and now, 3 years down the line, is filing for divorce =(

My motto is "omnia causa fiunt" latin for "everything happens for a reason", your time will come and it will be quicker than you think....promise!



Also you have to be in it to win it! Your not gonna win the lottery if you don't enter =P lol.