So me and my OH got engaged a few months ago. We decided to keep it to ourselves for awhile as we had only just had our DD and are moving etc. We planned to tell everyone at Christmas and had a rough date set for April/May 2015. Which gives us enough time to save for the wedding we want.
Problem is, MIL to be has been with her new partner for year's and JUST ANNOUNCED their engagement and that they are getting married May 2016. Now what do we do? OH says we can't just announce it now like planned, especially as our wedding would undercut theirs.
Here's my thing. They are way better off financially, and although our wedding would be perfect for us, there's would be so much more lavish etc. And I can't help but be jealous of that.
Also can we just announce as planned? Or sooner?
Help help HELP!!!!!
CommentAuthorsarah
If I was in your shoes I would still announce your engagement as planned. There's a little over 4 months left until Christmas and that is plenty of time for MIL & H2B to bask in the post engagement afterglow. If your date for your wedding works for you I can see no reason why you need to change it. I know it's hard, but try not to worry about things that may never happen. Chances are your weddings will be so different and so far apart that people won't compare them. Your situation reminds me of a qoute - "Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy."
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Congrats on your engagement & happy planning.
CommentAuthorAna40
I would tell them as planned. X
CommentAuthorBeverleyW66
I know how you feel, my sister who is to be my moh has announced that they are going to be trying for a new baby, I'm soo excited for them as I love my niece dearly and can't wait for another baby in the family, however if all goes to plan she could be ready to pop right around my wedding date.
I can't help but feel a little disappointed, and as she has always been the favourite child anyway she is sure to get all the attention. I feel like a brat saying that but I'd love to have my day in the spotlight without being overshadowed by her just once
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I think Xmas would be fine...it's a long enough gap from when they announced theirs, I wouldn't announce it straight away, give your mil and her h2b a bit of time to bask in the congratulations.
Don't worry about comparing weddings; a bigger budget doesn't mean there day will be any better or more special than yours. Some of the best weddings I've been to have been on a very low budget....to be honest, no one is massively fussed about elaborate centrepieces or the number of canapés or what vintage the wine is, they will just be there to see you get married (of course, as a bride to be who has gone through the past couple of years of wedding planning, I refuse absolutely to accept this and wake up at night in a cold sweat worrying about whether I should have had the ivory or cream ribbon on the savings lol)...
I agree with the others. Stick to your plans. There is plenty of time between MIL's event and yours. Don't worry about budget, everyone has a different one and people understand that. Your wedding will be perfect for you. Don't forget they are a whole generation older and in general they do tend to have more money.
Just because a couple throws more money at their wedding doesn't mean it's any better, it's just what is right for them as much as a smaller budget is for others. At the end of the day what's important is that you're married.
I think it's good that there are no clashes between the two weddings and engagement announcements xxx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorThe-Future-Mrs-B
I agree announce when planned I'm sure she will be thrilled for you and enjoy have someone to talk wedding plans with. I don't think you have to spend a lot of money to have a nice wedding we only have a budget of £3500 exc honeymoon and I'm doing all our venue decorations myself as I want it to be personal and unique to us
CommentAuthorFernP61
It shouldn't matter if your weddings before theirs why wait 2016 is a way off yet x
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