Hi everyone, I really need some advice at how I can get my dad to deliver a good speech... My sister got married last June and being the lead singer in a rock band, we all thought dad would deliver a cracking speech. We couldn't have been more wrong and he blew it...didn't say anything nice, or much at all really...it was shocking! I really don't want a repeat performance at my wedding in two months time, but how do I ensure this doesn't happen, without coming across as too bossy? Do I write one myself? Do I ask him what happened at my sisters? We're not that close now, so find it hard to talk to him...help!
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My dad is rubbish at this as well....so hes just not doing one. I just said that we only had enough time for 2 speeches and he was actually quite relieved xxx
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CommentAuthorJane
my dads speach consists of right 1 down 2 to go any offers bidding starts now while their still in dresses lol and no refunds aloud
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CommentAuthorJill
I've never known my dad to do a speech, he said he's looking forward to the one for my wedding though which I think is nice as I know he'll feel under pressure. I explained to him how at my friends wedding, her dads speech was 'thanks for coming everyone, I'd like to welcome (the groom) to the family and I hope everyone enjoys their meal'. It was lovely - short and sweet and covered it all. I think if they're uncomfortable that's more than enough x
I feel your pain with the speeches it's not something I would personally like to do and guess most people Feel the same. Prob ask him to keep it short and sweet like Jill said and maybe tell him it doesn't have to be Humorous!
I have a situation aswell where my parents are divorced but I hardly see my dad but he is giving me away But I feel like it would be a tad hypocritical to ask my dad to do a speech when he hast really been there and He isn't really welcoming my h2b to the family as he plays very little part himself! Arrrrrghhh
I thought maybe my mum could do a speech instead but she isn't keen kn speaking at all which is fine.
Any ideas?? Xx
CommentAuthormillz090
Beclou - I am in a similar situation. Dad giving me away but not seen alot of him for years so he is going to do a speech as traditional and he is paying for the wedding but mum is also doing a speech xx
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CommentAuthorbeclou777
Millz- It's so difficult there is so much to consider! My mum won't do a speech for me so either! I will have to come up with an alternative xx
CommentAuthorhigginszajac
Maybe your H2B and your dad and best man could all get together and write thier speeches that way you know what will be said and you can get H2B to have a bit of imput xx
CommentAuthormillz090
Do you need a speech at all? If your mum and dad arent comfartable then why dont you ask your bridesmaid or brother or sister to do it instead? Dont make them do something they arent comfartable doing or will worry all day. My h2b has a stutter and nervous about saying his vows so doing a speech would scare him so im doing it instead xxx
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CommentAuthorXbox widow
You dont necessarily have to have speeches. We are not having a sitdown meal now, we were at first but we did'nt want speeches. There was no one to do one really my dad passed away when I was 15 and h2b's dad is'nt invited. I would'nt worry about it to much just thank everyone for coming thats sufficient I think x
CommentAuthorMrsE 2b
I have the same problem! My dad did a really short and a bit awkward speech at my sister's wedding. He didn't write anything and thought he'd just be able to wing it and didn't realise how nervous he'd be. I'm going to get my mum to write something with him and keep it short. We're having a Swedish/English wedding and Swedes do loooads of speeches, not just the usual brides dad, groom, best man. So hopefully it will take the pressure off. Just write something with him on a little card, and keep it short and get him to practice it, if he won't mind?
CommentAuthorclbronze
My Dad just incredibly embarrassing and thinks it's really funny to take the pee out of me in front of my friends. Have resigned myself to the fact it will be awful but hope it will be forgotten once best man speaks! I like higginszajac's idea of getting the boys all together to write them. You could give a couple of gentle suggestions about things you would like said or get him a speeches book and highlight bits you think are nice? xx
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CommentAuthorDebbieS54
Thanks everyone, I know public speaking is hard for most...I'll write down a few things I'd like him to mention and go through it with him, then hope for the best. Like a lot of you, my mum's the one that has been there for me and I hardly see my dad any more, so have got both of them giving me away (so not to upset my dad). My mum has said she'd like to say a quick something, so if they both give little speaches, it should be OK (I hope)! Thanks again xx
CommentAuthor~feebee~
Only the best man is doing a speech at our wedding. My dad's dead, my FIL and h2b don't want to do one. Best man is incorporating everyone's speech into his and giving out the bridesmaids presents.
Am wondering who will give him his, I might have to be brave and say a couple of words and give him his gift :/
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CommentAuthorBlushingbride2b
Hi, I think you've had some really good advice but also have a suggestion that might help. I went to a wedding fayre and there was a professional toast master there. He gave us his brochure and one of the services he offers us help with speech writing and delivery. It doesn't have his charges so not sure if this would be expensive but it's always an option. There will probably be other people offering this type of service if you google it. I'm not sure how you could get him to do this without causing offense, xx.
