As my Dad cant be at the wedding, I've been looking at who I should have to walk me down the aisle and sit at the top table next to me.

The obvious choice for me would be to have my Granddad (dad's dad) as he's the closest person to my dad and I think he would approve (I've yet to ask his opinion). The only problem with this is my Mum. She keeps saying as I don't see him very often and he hasn't done anything for me then why would I have him?!

The only suggestion she comes up with is her walking me down (not keen on this idea, I'm not traditional but do want something's traditional) or her brother, my uncle and godfather.

What to do???

(hope this is in the right category)

I think godfather is always a nice option in lieu of father, or grandfather,
Obviously i don't know the people so don't know who you are closest with but your godfather was chosen to be in your life as a supporting figure and to 'guide' you so it fits well

Xx

Go with what your heart tells you hun. Don't let anyone dictate to you who will walk you down the aisle, speaking from experience, walking down the aisle is the most amazing surreal and special moment and you will want to share that moment with whoever you feel closest to xxx

I'd be inclined to think your Mum's a bit hurt that you haven't considered her. After all, I'm assuming she brought you up and was there for you just as much as your Dad, and now it probably feels that she's being overlooked purely because she's a woman.

If you don't want your Mum in the role, then obviously you shouldn't be pressured into having her. But before you make any final decisions maybe have a bit of a think about what's behind the tradition of the Dad giving away the bride and consider it from all angles. To me, the closer the family member is would be more important than whether they're male or female, but that's just my opinion.

I've googled and found this:
The tradition of the father giving away his daughter has its roots in the days of arranged marriages. Daughters in those times were considered their father's property. It was the father's right to give his child to the groom, usually for a price. Today a father giving away his daughter is a symbol of his blessing of the marriage.

Perhaps you could tell her than mother of the bride is a big role in itself. You need to have who you want xx

Have whoever you want to walk you down the aisle. If you want your paternal granddad then have him. It is a personal choice that only you can make, not your mum.

I think it's up to you not your mum, I think ur grandads a lovely choice....if my dad wasn't here I know I'd choose my grandad, I just wish my grandad was here to see me get married as he passed away in 1998 I still feel sad now as I miss him lots....I think ur grandad would feel very proud to be asked xx