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    • GeorginaD78
      Posted: Mar 12th 2019
    Hey all. I need advise.
    My dad has told me is isn't coming to my wedding because I've asked my mum to give me away.
    The reason I asked my mum is because She has always supported me and been there for me and my dad hasn't.
    I pushed my wedding forward so my dad could be there, he is dying, and now he said he isn't even gunna bother turning up. I refuse to change my mind about who gives me away and I'm not going to beg him to be there. On top of this my older brother has said he is not coming to my wedding either for absolutely no reason for it.
    Am I right to be extremely annoyed and upset by both of them?
    Just to add both my older brother and dad attended my dad ex step son's wedding less than a year ago!
    Thanks x
    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Mar 14th 2019
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    Oh Hun I'm so sorry, my advice to you would be to write them both a letter....don't make any accusations but keep it as calm as you can, try phases like .....

    "I'm really hurt & upset that you don't want to be with me on my special day , it won't feel right to not have you there."
    "I realise you have reasons for your decision which of course I'm not privy to "
    " I may not be happy about your decision but I respect that it is your to make"
    " I'm confident what ever it is to stop you being with me at my wedding must be very compelling ".
    " i have always treasured memories of things we have done together & of course will be gutted that my wedding won't be added to that memory bank "

    The beauty in sending a written letter is that it will get put down ,picked up and reread

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