Aw, sweetie, so sorry you've had to go through all of this *hugs*
I'll echo what some of the ladies here have said and postpone the wedding, take it slower. You don't want to jump into a marriage if you're still not sure how you feel (if you do, then ignore me). My sister's husband cheated on her when they'd been married for a few months and they took some months apart before she eventually decided to take him back (I think she was being foolish because they suspected him of cheating before the wedding, but that's my opinion. Don't let it colour yours).
At the end of the day, only you know what's right for you (my h2b makes this point too). If you feel you can get past what he did, then best of luck for you guys.
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
i wudnt say once a cheat always a cheat though x
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CommentAuthormummy2Olivia_Lisa
me either........... well im heading out to meet carl at 1 for a chat........i need to see him to know how i feel ie angry/upset/happy etc??
so we shall see i just wanted to say thank you to all u amazing ladies for ur support and advice!!! even the brutal advice lol!!!
x x x
6 n a half weeks scan!!!!!! x x x
CommentAuthorKatya
Don't be too hard on him but don't let him off lightly either...if it gets too much walk away for a bit and meet him another time...good luck babe!
Find out who you are & do it on purpose!
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
Good luck, and trust your feelings, and you'll know what to decide when you see him. xx
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Everything is now booked
Getting really stressed and excited now
thanks ladies.................im so nervous i know today n how i 1st feel is gonna tell me a lot, its scary 2 think my life sort of hangs on that feeling. x x
6 n a half weeks scan!!!!!! x x x
CommentAuthorKatya
I know its easier said than done but try not to worry so much...your the one in control here! You know what he wants so its just you now and what ever choice you make will be the right one! You don't even have to make the decision yet you could see him a few more times first! You could even decide he has to woo you and take you on a date to see if it feels right before making your decision.
You will do the right thing whatever so try to stay calm sweetie
Find out who you are & do it on purpose!
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
Scary day! But as I said the other day and Katya said...you'll know what's best for you and baby... only you know what's in your head and what's in your heart and take every confidence in your ability to make that decision when you are good and ready!
Stay strong honey, you'll be fine! xx
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
i do believe people can change hun, and i think you have just got to do what you think is best for you. whatever you decide we will all be here for you and i hope either way you are happy x
CommentAuthorMrsStone2b
I hope it goes OK for you today - I also believe people can change but you and only you will know if you can work and get past this. It's a big decision to make and you can only make it based on your feelings deep down inside. xx
CommentAuthorPrincess Sarahbelle
im sorry to say but if my H2B cheated on me he would be out within minutes especially if he was denying it, no matter what the circumstances were there is NO excuse for cheating what so ever
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CommentAuthorsuzky123
fingers crossed your feelings today help you to make the decision that is right for you x
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CommentAuthorRachie :D
Fingers crossed babes - hope you're ok xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsH2B
Hey Hun, hope your meeting went well! x
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CommentAuthorkrazykitty
hey hun how did it all go? hope you feeling good still xx
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CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
Hiya hunny...I missed everything you went through this weekend...im sorry :0( I haven't read through all the replies just yours but all I will say is this....we have nearly all had or heard of experiences like this BUT we are not you! I would not tollerate that kind of behaviour but then my ex went looking your was an opportunity. You must do what YOU feel is the right thing to do. You know this bloke we don't. I hope your meeting went ok and he really is sorry, will wait to hear what happens with you two. xxxx
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CommentAuthorFoxyroadie
Thinking of you - really hope that it all went well, and that you can start to sort your head out about it all. ((hugs))
CommentAuthorLeanneDickson
Hope your head is a bit clearer today! Thinking of you xx
CommentAuthornickers
how did it go hun?xx
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CommentAuthorKinkyemo
hope it went ok today!! Let us all know xxxx
CommentAuthorkellyc13
hope today went ok, im not very good with advice sorry and i havent been in this situation but like the other ladies here im good at listening so if you need anything just shout. x
so little time, so much to do!
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
i hope it has all gone good for you today and everything works out for the best xx
CommentAuthorjanetx71
aw hun what a shame you have to go through this my sister was planning her wedding a few years ago and found out she was a having a much longed for baby when her partner cheated with a girl he worked with my sis couldnt bare the thought of loosing her best friend either and just kept saying she knew they could move on the thing is she could forgive but just couldnt forget she ended up having a lovely little boy and he was only weeks old when it all came back for her it was a god awful mess for both of them it really was so i guess what im saying is that yeah of course you need to explore what you feel for this man and work through everything but i would postpone the wedding cause right now your hormones are going nuts and it does affect your decisions and emotions i wish you all the best of luck hun i hope it works out the way you want xxx
CommentAuthor*D*a*n*n*i*
hope it went ok hun x
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CommentAuthormummy2Olivia_Lisa
hi ladies, sorry havnt been on to let u all no how it went today,
iv had a lot of answers and that to a lot of questions, i feel glad i went altho i still dont know what the future holds but am still in 1 piece n not 2 stressed so thats a good thing. x x x
6 n a half weeks scan!!!!!! x x x
CommentAuthorRachie :D
Im really proud of you babes xxx
9th June 2012 when two worlds collide
The Crazy Cat Lady and the Transformer Man!
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
am glad it went ok xxxxx
i cannot wait to marry my best friend
i love you ry!!!
engaged midnight 2009
Mrs Ryan Sheader (to be) lol :D
CommentAuthormummy2Olivia_Lisa
its was very strange........................
have had a lot of answers n a lot of tears but i remain strong im no running back n IF i do decide to give him a chance i wont do so until im 100% ready, x
6 n a half weeks scan!!!!!! x x x
CommentAuthorKatya
Glad it went ok sweetie just remember whatever you choose will be the right decision for you!
Find out who you are & do it on purpose!
CommentAuthorHayley
Hi :)
been away so only just read through all of the posts - it definately took me a while!! Sorry to hear everything you're going through. Sounds like you've been on an emotional rollercoster lately.
To be honest I don't think that anybody can truly help you with this one as it a very personal matter that even those closest to you would struggle to help. It is a decision you need to think long and hard about (which i'm sure you're already doing and has probably given you a headache) and make sure you cover every aspect of it even the little things that you think might not be worth thinking of as you might regret it later if you don't.
Like a few others have said forgiving is the easy part - it's the forgetting thats difficult! Only you can answer whether or not it would ever be an issue again as we don't know him. Although I will say that the reason you're saying he won't do it again - with everything you have been through to have a baby and now it's happenned you're going to be a proper family isn't really the best reason to base your decision on (i'm sure you are thinking of others factors). Although I do understand where your coming from on that one as we've had problems too and have to put things on hold for reasons that are too complicated to go into at min but I do see where you're coming from. My H2B would be over the moon if we were expecting and i know his attitude to things would change but if he had done to me what yours has I don't think him admitting it to me would be all I would want. He's the love of my and I can't wait to become his wife and start a family with him but I think it would be a long process of being able to forgive him. As much as I would love to say I would be able to forgive him and move on and not look back I think it would always be there at the back of my mind and I think it would probably be somewhere in yours too.
Like I have said though only you can make the decision of what you want. I am glad that you chosen to take some space and meet up and have a chat and that it went well and managed to clear a few things. I'll also say that letter had me in tears (I remember my H2B writing me one a few years ago when we went through a bad patch and he's not an emotional person either.)
Anyway I really hope you manage to sort things out one way or the other and that you are both 100% happy with your choice (although you more than him) xxxxx
Hi sweetheart, I have been away all weekend and have tried to catch you on here. I am not going to talk about personal and private matters on this public forum but just want to send you loads of hugs and love. Hope to catch up with you soon xxxxx
CommentAuthorMel D
morning hun ... how are you today? lots of hugs xx
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CommentAuthorYourFirstDanceBride
I just read through this and I really feel for you. But I am so impressed that you are sticking to your guns an doing about sorting things sensibly and carefully. I really hope things work out soon for you whichever way it goes. xxx
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
hey hun!! have u cancelled the weddin? i wud do it asap so u dont loose even more money x
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Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthornickers
glad it went ok hun big hugs xx
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
You seem to be handling this admirably! Good for you! Keep you head held high and stay strong. Hx
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CommentAuthorStave
Thinking of you x
CommentAuthorKaya
Sorry to hear what he's putting you through hun. I could never forgive someone for cheating on me.... I just could never forget and it would eat at me, til there was nothing of me left! Must be soo much harder to know what to do with a baby on the way now though. I just hope you do what's best for you x
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CommentAuthormummy2Olivia_Lisa
morning ladies................ well i had a very good nites sleep well until 6am! lol
unfortunately iv recieved the news this morning that carls nan has passed away.... he's so devastated, and altho some of u will no agree my hurts on hold no matter wot he's done n how he's behaved i need to be there 4 him right now, x x x
6 n a half weeks scan!!!!!! x x x
CommentAuthormummy2Olivia_Lisa
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Awww, that's awful news. Good for you for being there for him. You're such a remarkable woman. I'm filled with admiration for you Hx
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CommentAuthorUnknown
sorry to hear this! i can understand where you are coming from and understand that he will need you. just make sure you take care of yourself and that baby! xx
CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
Tbh hun I think you are doing the right thing, he knows that you wont tollerate this behaviour and if you are prepared to walk out when you are pregnant and so close to the wedding then he's had a wake up call. x
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CommentAuthormummy2Olivia_Lisa
i absolutely will.............. he looks like his whole life is just gone b4 his eyes n he cnt even grasp at the tailend of it,
sounds strange i no but at the end of the day i do still loe him and i know how much his nan meant to him x
6 n a half weeks scan!!!!!! x x x
CommentAuthorRachie :D
You both need to get through both of your grief for his nan now and i do agree you need to be there for him sweetie - loads of love to you both xxx
9th June 2012 when two worlds collide
The Crazy Cat Lady and the Transformer Man!
CommentAuthornickers
aw thats sad news hun sorry to hear this big hugs x
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AND HANDSOME HUSBAND XXXX
CommentAuthorKinkyemo
Awws sad news! Good on you for standing by him in his time of need! You truly are a wonderful lady :-)
Im sure he will fully appreciate this :-) xx
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
awww no hun, so sorry, u do rite hun x x
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Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
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Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
