You look after you and peanut thats all you need to do at the moment. Like I said before to just make sure people know where you are xxx

right ladies im off, i shall speak 2 u all later from my hotel, unfortunately the only 1 i can get in without havin to travel 2 far is the 1 h2b took the girl to......how ironic!

just wen life couldnt be more upsetting it slaps u in the face once more just for effect,

speak 2 u all later x and thanks so much x x x

Make sure you let us know you've got there ok

Here here melody :) i think melody is sooo right on every level, if he admitted it and took the stick for it then thats one thing but to flat out deny it still is just wrong, hes not sorry, the only thing hes sorry for it getting caught!! could you really just never bring it up again whilst hes still denying it? your a better woman than me if you could, nobody deserves to be treated this way, i really feel for you, specially being pregnant aswell... dear of you.

you know in your heart what you need to do, you will just have to follow it, no one elses opinion will change what you feel inside.... xxxx

Hi hun well ive read through and like Emsy said there is nothing I can add to what has already been said by other brides, keep strong as hard as that is, you have been amazingly calm considering your circumstances. He needs to stand up and be counted. Look after yourself and like what others have said we are here if you need us. : ) xx

Well said Melody, I cant add anything more than what the others have put but hold your head high and be strong and safe hunni xxxx

Sorry you're going through this!! Big hugs.

this is the ex mrsp 2 be coming to u live from the premier inn!

im safe and sound with a little drama on my exit but not 2 bad.............n shock horror a confession!!!
iv gone anyway n he can stew on it x

he confessed n wen i said i was goin anyway as i needed some space 2 clear my head he took his confession bk n said he only confessed 2 get me 2 stay x x

((((Hugs)))) and hope that once you are on our own for a wee while you will be able to think clearly and decide what your future holds as only you can make that decision. We are all hear when and if you need us even if it is just for a wee hug. Hope you manage to get some sleep tonight. xx

I think the problem is that it's gone beyond a mistake. If it were simply a mistake then he would have admitted to it and apologised. His refusal to confess and apologise and the fact that he's blaming it on you makes it very difficult to feel confident that he is contrite.

oh bless you hun, well done for standing your ground x

I think i agree with the others.
Im of the belief that mistakes happen and can be forgiven, but the fact that he is refusing to admit to it, and blaming you etc doesnt sound like it was a mistake he was extreamly sorry for.
I dont know if i have missed something, but also this woman knew enough and had reason to contact you and let you know, and she had bills etc to prove her story so to speak. That to me doesnt sound like a one off unplanned mistake in all honesty. I could be wrong, just trying to say what i think.

Where you go from here is something only you can decide, but take your time there is no rush to make that decision right now. Look after yourself and your little one. Sending you huge hugs xxx

Here here Mod M, only you know how you feel deep in your heart! Hugs!!! x

ok this is my vindictive side coming out now... i think you should marry him! yes thats right marry him! force yourself to consermate the marriage then file for divorce! like everyone has said you have a child to think of! being the mother married to the father you have more rights over the house than he does at that point! take him for all hes worth and while your at it file for maintance!

seeing as your at the hotel, ask them, tell them that you have miss placed the receipt for your visit a few days ago but you were using your partners name and card. then ask them for a new copy! tell them you need the copies to keep as you were in town on business and need to show your employer to get reimbursed or something like that!

My kids dad, cheated on me while i was pregnant. I was upstairs asleep, and he was downstairs with another girl. Needless to say it didn't last.I left him and have not looked back. We had been due to get married, luckily all we had booked was the registry office, i do feel for you, but only you know how you feel and move on, just dont feel tempted to go back because "your lonely" or "it's best for the baby" or one of the many silly reasons we talk ourselves into.
Good Luck and i hope you make the right choice for you.

oh hun! was out all yesterday and just read this ... hope you're ok

I can't believe he won't just admit it ... like you say, if he'll do that then (if you both want to) you can start to work it all out.

Hope you're ok xxx

Oh hun! I feel for you I really do! Big hugs coming your way!

In my opinion (and it is just MY opinion) he did the lowest thing possible! He cheated on you just before you are due to get married and whilst you are carrying HIS child! If that isn't a degrading thing to do then I don't know what is! What happened to respect??? I know you said you cheated on him! This was obviously at the very start of your relationship, maybe before you could even call it a relationship?? He cheated on you when you were supposed to be commited to each other! N to be a mistake! I'm sorry a drunken snog in a nightclub maybe can be forgiven but to take a bit of skirt to a hotel thats pre-meditated! If he hadn't have been found out how do you know that he wouldn't have done it again! Meh!

H2B knows that if he ever ever so muched as kissed another girl I would be gone like a shot and take our two girls with me!!

Think long and hard (which I'm sure is what you are doing anway) do you want a man who thinks its ok to blame you for his stupidity especially when you will have a newborn to cope with or are you better off on your own! I know its heartbreaking! Believe me I was cheated on by an ex throughout our entire relationship! The girl knew everything about me even what size clothes I wore and used to wait around the corner till she saw me leave his flat and then used to go in herself! I kicked him to the curb he got nasty but I stuck to my guns and refused to take him back! Best descision I ever did else I would never have got with now H2B and had our girls!! Things happen for a reason hun I'm sure of it! Stay strong for you and little bubba and if you do decide to stay with him make sure that he really really knows how close to the line he came and how you won't tolerate anymore sh*T!

Sorry for the rant ladies!! Men cheating on pregnant ladies gets my back up BIG TIME!!!!!

xxxxxxx

the guy i dated for 3 months in uni cheated on me and I did forgive him given we were both in uni, we were young and hardly had a relationship. he felt guilty and from my knowledge and based on his room mates he never cheated again but we did end up splitting up a year later. If H2B cheated, I would never forgive him as we now have been together for a long time and have actually built our lives together and so if h2b had a one nigher, I would never be able to let it go and I would never be able to let him anywhere near me again. However, if there are children to consider, I would perhaps postpone the wedding and maybe give him a try for the kids sake but I wouldnt marry him any time soon and tbh im not sure if I could even give him another try but I would consider it for the childrens sake.
I think most people would leave in this situation and I would fully support you for doing so as I truely think I would find it difficult to stay in your situation. Either way though youve not made the decision lightly and have thought things through so its not as though you have rushed into a decision. Therefore you have made the right one for you. Good luck in the future. x

Well done you for leaving hunni, I really feel if you had stayed he wold have continued to manipulate you with the "truth" which ever verison of it he chose to use on a particular day!!
I personally feel that cause he told you he did cheat and then took it back that you have no choice but to end it with him, as it shows his true colours.
As for being pg, you are clearly a strong woman and you can cope by yourself, I did it with 3 boys and it was the best thing I ever did for them. It was hard but I had a very supportive family and set of friends and I sure you will be just fine :-)
Keep your chin up hunni and know you are better than this. Stay safe xx

afternoon ladies..............gosh its took some time to read thro ur messages...... just to answer a few questions.

i dont know the girl however she knows what vehicle he drive n his tattoos even the spilt bag of wotsits on his car floor!!! he went on a nite out, met her about 12pm, came home at 4am to get his bank card as he was going 2 a ''party'' n took her to the hotel for a few hours,
he didnt know i was pregnant we found out last week n this was 2 weeks ago,

right its update time............

have had a letter from him thro my sisters door, i shall copy most out 4 u ladies now:

lisa,

im not going to beat around the bush, the way iv treated u is appaling, the truth is i did cheat on you,i went out and acted like a single lad like i was back before i met you, iv denied and denied it because im so terrified of losing you, i behaved like a child,do u remember when i sat you down and told u we needed to talk n u started goin on abou the wedding n we havnt got time 4 talk weve got things to do??? i wanted to tell you then, but it wasnt the right time, then the next morning a miricle happened you told me you were carrying my baby,my 1st born previous angel i was so happy and proud of u my heart nearly burst! your all ive ever wanted in life,i act the tough man like i dont need you but truth is without u im lost,
iv ruined everything with my childish actions.........the way ive treated u is a way no woman should ever be treated.

you deserve so much better and i want to be the person u deserve to have in your life, i dont expect forgiveness or anything of the sort, ur sister says your at a hotel and i know u wont come home no matter what even if i agree to move out and i understand that, iv given your sister enough money for you to find a place 2 rent for a while, i dont want to know where it is i know u need to be away from me right now and in truth if u took me bk just like that u wouldnt be the strong independant woman i know and love, i will be waiting for you on the 28th of may ready to be your husband, to be ever faithful and always love,cherish and protect you no matter what...........

i dont expect to hear from you and as promise i wont hound you but i will finialise all plans and i hope you'll be there to take my hand in marriage and be my wife,to have equal share and say in our life and allow me to spend the rest of my living breathing days making things right,

for now i will send you all my love to your and our amazing little miricle and no that no matter what u decide i will always be there 4 u if u need me! if your the women i think i know il be standing alone on our wedding day wondering what might of been. i hope i guess that i dont know u very well.

all my love forever no matter what life brings, carl x


so ladies sorry its a long 1 but as u can imagine its had me in tears........i have no idea where my lifeleads now. x x x

I still think you need to get your head together - then arrange to meet with your h2b and talk properly. If it has all come from this girl concerned then I would definitely question her motives.

I understand a lot of people on here havehad their own experiences of cheating partners - but you musn't compare their experiences with your own - everyone's life is different.

I really hope you manage to sort this one way or another - but remember it's only you and your h2b who know each other most and can mend this situation (either way).

Think our post must have crossed lol. Well at least he's being honest (more honest than a lot of blokes would be). Again have a deep, long think and don't make any rash decisions - after all this could mean the rest of your life either way.

Only you know him well enough to make a decision (not even the girl - knowing what's in his car doesn't make for anything lasting or secure). You know his personality, quirks, likes and dislikes etc and how he'll be feeling right now.

I wouldn't leave it til the wedding day to see him though. Like I said before, get your head together a bit more then talk to him. one way or another you're going to need to clear the air be it if the wedding's on or off. Just another suggestion - maybe if you decide to make a go of things think about postponing the wedding for a bit so that you could spend some proper 'you' time instead of wedding planning. Hope everything goes ok x

I'm sorry if this is slightly harsh but why is he still going ahead with wedding things? After what he's done, he shouldn't even be considering that.