wasnt the whole point of this thread that mods want people to complain to them so they can sort it rather then going on fb and slating them. It seems the point is being missed. This site may not be perfect but what is and its a damn sight better then other sites i've been on!!!!!! i just dont see why people have an issue with the mods asking to be contacted and not slated elsewhere.

I must have been wandering around with my head in the clouds as missed all this. I've not noticed anything and I think this is a fab site. If I have any problems I know who I'll be ringing... ghost busters,, sorry couldn't resist that one. I'll def contact the mods should I have any problems. Keep up the good work you're doing a great job. Didn't realise there were so many members!!! x

i haven't been here before that time guesswho... but i totally agree with you in the point what is this site for etc... it is sad that ppl. have to go to those sort of drastic ways to "talk" behind other ppls. back... not nice and sadly you dont just have those things online happening often enough even in real life :S
i hope ppl will wake up and start to think how do i resolve the problem with that person... well of course go to the person yourself it doesnt help if you complain behind their backs they cant know or help if you dont tell them what the issue is...

Mods u do a fab job!!! Maybe you could get some more help in the future :) xx

Its sad all this has happened. I think this thread should be deleted/sunk and it should all be forgotten about. Its not good for newbies joining. xx

I do think that people have to remember that UKB is likely to have an ever changing population as new brides-to-be join, and older members get married and become less frequent visitors, so there will always be the same set of questions to be asked, and it's not always appropriate to try and find an old thread, as the information may no longer be up to date, and I think it is nice for new people to be able to ask their question and spark off a new discussion. In fact in some circles of the internet, dragging up an old dead thread is called "necro-posting" and is considered bad netiquette :-)

That being said, there does have to be a balance where the same question within a short space of time does need to be moderated, and I think usually the mods do a fab job of that sort of thing. And it is tricky, because the search function is not fantastic, and if the previous posting of a similar nature has disappeared from the front page, then the risk of someone posting the same thing is higher, so you can kinda see why there is a push to limit the non-wedding related posts... or at least I can ;p

I would however agree that, difficult though it is, we need to try and have a level of consistency with the moderation. I have seen threads started by mods or some users, where a thread of a similar nature or subject started by another user has been shut down for being "off-topic". I have found myself getting a bit irked by some stuff like that, but I realise that we are all only human, and there are bound to be inconsistencies, and life is too short to get all worked up about it, coz it ain't a big deal in the grand scheme of things :-)

UKB is one of the friendlier sites of this type. Having checked out a few (naming no names!) I have found that this is by far the most welcoming of new people (one site I went on actually had people moaning about new posters they didn't recognise!), but it is one of the more restrictive in terms of what you can post, so you have to be patient as people learn the way of things.

It seems that one of the main problems is people not adherring to the forum rules. As these seem to be changed/added to/adjusted fairly regularly would it be possible for a message to be left on all members walls stating that a rule change has occurred and could everyone please take a look. Its not always obvious when rules have been changed etc, so maybe this might make more members re-read them when neccessary. I don't see why all members should be expected to read the rules once a week on the off chance one rule has been changed/removed or whatever. So at least with a little note sent to members to let them know of new rules etc then no one can say "well i didnt know the rules had changed". I know that UKbride can leave messages easily enough on members walls as ive had a number of ukbride polls on mine.
Don't forget that there may be 200,000 members but i suspect less than 10% use the forums. Theres no need for anyone to b***h behind mod's OR members backs, if you have a problem no matter how big or small contact the person(s) concerned or contact a mod or even contactIT Man/J.
I do agree that with such a busy site another mod or 2 would be useful, just to ease the work on the current mods, you do a great job girls but i'm sure you've noticed an increase in the amount of "moderating" you need to do

I haven't heard of any of this but I would like to say that I have no problems with the mods at all. I think they do a great job and very generously give thier time so the rest of can have an outlet for our stress and therefore, we should not be getting stressed at them. Unless there is a clear reason and in that case we should go straight to them to get it resolved. Bitching and moaning around cyberspace will do nobody any good.

Personally I keep facebook and UK bride seperate but I wouldn't be venting in facebook anyway. People dont want to read me moaning all the time and I want to be a happy person, So everyone, try and think of something good to say as your status each day and you feel better for it, treat otheres as you want to be treated, and deal with issues in an efficient and professional manner. And remember other people have lives to get on with too!