To be fair most people expect to pay for their own accommodation regardless of how far they have to travel. We are not paying for our guests to stay the night in the hotel we are in and most of them are more than happy to pay the £90 per couple to stay there. They can choose to stay there, book a cheaper b&b down the road or even drive home. How much does it work out per person from what you have booked? You could always say to guests that you have them booked and they are £..... per person if anyone is interested and if they can't afford it then you can use discretion to either bring the limit down a bit or they can book their own independently.

I think people should pay for their own accommodation personally. why should you have to pay for their bed for the night you are already providing them with food and entertainment.

I don't think £178 is too much at all, my hotel is £160 for the night and people are paying that! I think anyone would expect to pay for accomodatioon so i would definitley go ahead and ask for money

But we've booked the cottages! If no one stays it will be such a waste.

Personally, I'd rather be staying at the venue. Less distance to crawl into bed!

You can get flights for £15 as I used to get them a lot when I was working so its not like it costs them that much to get up there. Most of the time it worked out cheaper to fly than it did to drive or catch a train. I know if I were invited to a friends wedding then no matter how far away it was we would still pay for the hotel. Even if it was abroad. We would make the decision to either pay for it and treat it as our holiday or not go. We would never expect the bride and groom to put us up for the night when they have been feeding us all day etc.

yeah i agree if people want to come they should pay for their own accommodation, if they were going to be staying over at our venue,which is a hotel, but still close by to home, then they would have to pay themselves, which is £93 per room x

the venue i'm hoping to book ( going to vue in feb and pay deposit if i like it!!) has accomodation for 55 people which not including kids (as they will hav to share there room) will be all my wedding party as i hav to pay for exclusive use i'm going to charge my guests £150 pp for 2 nights and they get all food and drink in that!! so i'm hoping my guests will pay this too!! as just for exclusive use is most ov my budget!!! although i've looked at accomodation nearby and the room rates are similar for 1 night and they only get breakfast so i'm actually saving them money :-)
£178 is excellent value for a week !! u can't even stay in a travel lodge for that !! and u get the gorgeous scenery included !!
were abouts in scotland are u getting married?? as i'm hoping to get married in scotland too!! x

I don't think they'll think it's rude in asking....as mentioned if you hadn't arranged accommodation they would be having to sort some kind of accom for themselves anyways. Sit down and divide it up and work out how much you feel sounds reasonable. Maybe look up local hotels to your venue and get an idea of what they would of been paying if the had to find themselves somewhere to stay......that's what i would do. x x x

We have a fair few guests coming down from Newcastle and they're all paying for their own accomodation. We're paying enough as it is without paying for everyones hotels too. They'll have plenty of notice to save up and book