Hello Ladies, I just wanted someone to talk to that will understand me today, and I know you will listen. A while back h2b had a go about the time I spent on the net ( although only a couple of hrs a night tops! ) So I have tried my best to just be on here when he's at work, although I miss my nightly chill out on here after work looking for wedding stuff. Then last night I came home after a very stressful day at work in a pretty crappy mood. I'd popped to my mum's to pick up a lovely cupcake book she had brought me, so when I got in I started to have a flick through. H2b never cooks, and he was attempting to do jacket spuds & chilli.... he kept asking me to go to the kitchen to help with this and that ( it had been his day off ) so I got a bit pissed off that he couldn't cook a flippin spud and he's had ALL day!! When we finally sat down to eat our 2 year old started messing with his food, asking for more cheese etc.... he just sat there! so I got up got the cheese and grated loads on his plate! then he started to cry cause there was TOO much!!! OMG! I was sooo losing the plot, so I got him out the chair took his dinner in the kitchen and just sropped off upstairs before I did something I'd regret! Anyway H2b came upstairs with my new cake book, slung it at me and yelled " here's your fucking cupcake book, it's all you think about lately!!" So now I feel I can't be on here OR cook my beloved cakes!!! I feel like I don't want to even marry him anymore after that, I'm at work ATM and I'm still fuming from last night. I don't know what to do.... MEN!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for listening to my rant, I feel better just for writing it down xxx
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorjellytot
sounds like you need some time to yourself to relax. That wasnt very fair on you for your h2b to react like that, maybe you need to ask him if theres something wrong? tell him how you are feeling too. x
CommentAuthorKaz133
You definately need time to chill out.My H2B encourages me to come on here,as he knows I like it.I do try to go on when hes not here though.I think maybee he is a bit worried about the empty space when the wedding is over.Mine just quietly mentioned what would happen after,in other words 'I know your really excited,and this is really a big deal for you,and its wedding this n that all the time'.I am totally obsessed though! Just reasure him,and spend a bit of quality time together.Try and give him a break from the wedding talk for a little while.X
CommentAuthorjenniebean
we have never argued in the whole time we have been together almost 10 years and since we decided to get married all we do is bicker its horrid we have had a chat and decided he spends too much time on his game and i spend too much time on here so we are limiting ourselves its hard because all i want to do is look at wedding stuff but we have ages
CommentAuthorLisa77
Me and h2b had a row last night and slept back to back, i don't advise it at all. I think you and h2b need to chat about whats bugging you, then come to a mutual agreement. Me and h2b have a set 3 hours at the weekend to talk about wedding stuff, that way i can control my obsessiveness and excitement without bugging him as soon as walks in from work.
I do however think you're in the right, you do need some time to do the things you like and it is selfish to be home all day and still expect you to run around after the family.
Sorry you're having a hard time, hope you feel better soon x x
Aww its hard hun! Men don't understand our obsession with the wedding! And why should they, its our job not theirs right? lol.. Perhaps ease up a little on the wedding chat, has he got something he needs to do for the wedding? I gave my H2B one job and that was to sort all our music, the ceremony music (we are having a singer) the songs he would like the band to sing in the evening, first dance etc etc! he is a music nut so I knew he would love doing that and its given him something to concentrate on as well as feeling involved in it all.. When I first started organising, I don't think we discussed anything other than the wedding and eventually I had to stop as I knew I would drive him mad with it all, I only come on here when he is at work or asleep (he works nights so sleeps all day so I get plenty of time on here lol)
I understand you must of been really hurt by his actions last night but remember they just don't get it like we do hun! He sounds like he had a bad day at work and to come home and talk about something that is costing alot of money would probably of added to the pressure, im not defending him in anyway hun just trying to understand from his point of view.
Perhaps take sometime away from organising or talking about the wedding, maybe get a babysitter and go out for a nice meal and talk about other stuff
BIG HUGS to you hun x x x
Do not disturb... Already disturbed enough!
CommentAuthorcatch
Aww, l think you need day as a family away from EVERYTHING just a nice day out together and a spot of lunch, no books, no tv, no cooking, no cleaning, no wedding talk for 1 whole day!, weddings are so time consumeing and it is hard if we brides do 95% of the planning mainly h2b's just turn up thinking the wedding fairy did everything!!! and so proud that they went and got togged up for the do, because you made the appointment and paid the hire lol work can be stressful and we vent in area's we find easy to target, after your lovely day out let him sleep on it, then chat as a couple about what he can do, men like all the macho stuff, suits, music, stag do ect, so get him to plan that, be warned though don't rush him! they take ages MEN!!! he can go on the pc and search for the perfect song jed and l have been discussing that one for the last 6 months(he can't decide) it will all come right hunni you will see (((hugs))) x
CommentAuthorjo
poor you. men can be very insensitive sometimes cant they? remember they just arent built the same so whats really important to us just isnt to them, there wiring is all wrong! makes me feel quite lucky that currently ,y h2b is fine with helping plan etc but this is second marriage and this time it was him who decided he wanted to do it (1st one was a rush up the aisle after 5 months cuz she got prgnant!) but there is plenty of time yet for him to get fed up with it. try explaining that for a girl this is a big deal, we plan this from the age of about 7 its what most of us live for and your sorry he doesnt understand but maybe you should both try and take more interest in something each other likes. oh and if necessary, cry! that might work - it does for me!
good luck and hope your cheered soon
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Hun, maybe there is something deeper bothering him than just u being on here or readin about cupcakes.... My h2b had a major go at me over something ridiculously stupid and it turned out he was having problems at work. Why not sit down and tell him how u feel? He might open back up to u? xxx
Happily Married! :) xxx
CommentAuthormrsr2b
awww huni cant really add much just wanted ro send ya some ((((hugs)))) hope u feel better about everything soon xo
