At our evening reception, my hubby & I hired a Green Day tribute band to play as we are both huge fans and.. Well it was our day!

I don't know if any of you listen to the band but if you do (and especially if you've seen them live) you'll know they swear quite a lot. Of course we knew this and we had no problems with them swearing on the night.

We warned our guests in advance, and they were all fine with it. Come the night do, the band came onstage & all hubby's family disappeared. His cousin actually told the lead singer to F off. I was not impressed. We paid £600 for them to be there - I did not expect guests to be so disrespectful.

Now my MIL is demanding that we phone around all the guests (only her side!!) and apologise for the swearing! Despite the fact they were pre-warned and agreed it was ok. I'm pretty sure it was OUR day not theirs. There were no children around, the youngest there was 13, so I'm pretty sure they'd heard a few swear words before.

I'm so sick of MIL trying to ruin things already. We've clashed for years, I really don't need this at the moment. If I was unaware the band were going to swear - I would apologise. But I wasn't. And more to the point, the guests also knew!! Arghh

Ummm.... yeah, ok. I would send her a quick text or similar reminding her that you told the guests about the nature of the music and you're not responsible if they didn't heed your warnings. I would then say this is the last time you'll be discussing it with anyone.

Sounds like she just wants to create drama & if I were you I'd my best to ignore her.

I am a fan of Greenday and know their songs etc and even with the swearing, I wouldnt say that the songs are overly offensive. TBH I think she's just being childish. If you pre-warned guests and they knew, then they made their own decisions to attend. perhaps get your hubby to have a word with his mother and put her straight.

Thank you ladies! It's ridiculous isn't it. I could understand it if the guests weren't warned but they were. We've told her we're not apologising because it was our day and we had no issues with the language used. To be honest there wasn't even that much swearing - I've seen these guys live a few times and they cut it right down for the wedding.

She really can be a bit of a nightmare! My parents put just short of £2k towards the wedding and helped us out so much - coming to meetings, giving us lifts everywhere, they were amazing. Hubby's mum did nothing, she complained about all our choices. Even worse she kept saying to me over & over again that she didn't want her son to get married (being deadly serious) as well as snippy little comments like, "It's still 6 months away, you need to get there first".. Like implying we were going to break up. :(

It's so upsetting, I love my husband with all my heart and I hate him feeling that he's in the middle of us both, it's just not fair on him. :(

if anything id be demanding an appology off that cousin, id be mortified!

MIL would be told in no uncertain terms to stuff off, she isn't YOUR mother, she can't tell you what to do and as you pre-warned your guests, what else does she expect. People like that make my blood boil. Why would she tell you she didnt want him married. I'd want to thump her one right in the gob.

Ana has good advice however, don't react lol. I fly off the handle xD

Luckily the band are very down to earth, the lead singer just laughed & called him a miserable b*gger! Afterwards he told us not to apologise because he felt guilty on our behalf that a guest had reacted like that. The cousin has been dealt with, and I made sure especially that MIL knew exactly which member of her family said it!

Hehe I'm more than happy to stand my ground & be stubborn, it's just my hubby I feel for as he's right in the middle. I don't expect him to turn against his mum for me but then I really, really hope he isn't going to apologise for enjoying himself on his special day.

Thanks for your messages :) xx