Hi every one. I am getting married August 2015, we are getting married in a hotel just like a lot of other couples do. As it is in a hotel it will have to be a civil ceremony. I keep on hearing a lot of different rules as to what I can and can't have, e.g there can't be any reglious in put, or I can't wear a vale. Can any one please clarify up the 'rules' please. It will be a great help, so I can chose reading, music ect. Thanks Clair x
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CommentAuthorAlexN29
Civil ceremonies can include readings, songs or music, but must not include anything that’s religious - eg hymns or readings from the Bible. From direct gov website. I'm pretty sure you can wear a veil to a civil ceremony. That is the only rules I was told about by my registrar :)
CommentAuthorbarbie86
Same as Alex: we're not allowed any religious content/references in our readings or music. We're also not allowed flash photography until after the register has been signed, but that's it; no other rules.
CommentAuthorKatya
you can wear what you like... jeans and a t-shirt & veil if you really want to!
you are not allowed to have anything that is religious, nothing that mentions a higher power of any kind (god, buddah, allah etc), yu are not even allowed to take a reading (for example: corinthians) and re-word it to take out the references to a higher power, if it was originally written as a religious reading, hymn etc then it is not allowed. This is not the council or government that stipulate this.... basically many years ago, there was no such thing as a wedding without a church, so the church were in power and had say in whether or not we would be allowed to have civil ceremonies at all. So upon agreeing to the public being allowed a civil ceremony, the church stipulated that no religious content was allowed at all. So the government has to abide by this law that the church laid down.
Flash photography is completely down to the particular registrar/venue, however, as it is a legal document, no photos are allowed to be taken of the actual signing (you can pose for this just afterwards if you like).
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Like Katya said you can wear whatever you like, an can have readings poems songs, alsong as there is nothing religious.
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Thanks girls, I didn't think I was allowed any thing religious, but didn't know why! Thanks to Katya for explaining this to me :). X
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CommentAuthorTheFutureMrsK
It doesnt have to be a civil ceremony just because you are getting married in a hotel. You can have almost any kind of ceremony you want (civil, humanist, etc) as long they have a marriage license I believe. If you are religious I think you can pay your priest, vicar or whatever to come to the venue and perform the ceremony. We're having a civil ceremony and I have been told the same rules people have mentioned above :) xxx
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CommentAuthorKatya
no problem huni. glad to have helped. anything else just ask.
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
I was going to say the same as the fururemrsK. Im getting married in a hotel with a Registrar, My cousin is getting married in a different hotel by a humanist and my sister is getting married in another hotel with a minister,
The only difference is that they both need to pick up their marriage certificates (Or whatever it is the registrar brings with them to be signed) a few days before the wedding where as I don't have to.
Like other have said you cant have anything religious and yes you can wear a viel
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
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You can wear a veil. Readings and any songs you have can't have religious content ... That even goes as far as angels by Robbie Williams as it has the word angels in it. We've just filled our form in... After u give notice you'll get a form to fill in through the post to put down which way you want the registrar to say things, the names of your readings and the songs u want to use as the registrars have to check all the wording before they agree they're allowed or not x
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CommentAuthorclair
Thank u every one :). This has been a great help, I can't believe u can't have Robbie willams 'angles' lol! I don't mind not having any thing religious, I can work round that. I guess I will just have to check the song lirics of what ever song we choose for me to walk in to :). Xx
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
They're more relaxed then they used to be about the religion thing, I think.
In late 2005, they started to allow songs with religious references if they aren't in a religious context. Hymns and readings from sacred texts are still banned and classical music which has religious roots (eg pie Jesu and Ave Maria) are allowed at the registrars discretion. We went to a wedding that had Angels by Robbie Williams when they were signing the register recently.
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CommentAuthorclair
It seams to me, from what all u lovely ladies are telling me that for a lot of things it is up to the registrar. I think I will just have to ask when we go to give notice of marriage, and see what they say. X
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
From government website
Civil ceremonies can include readings, songs or music, but must not include anything that’s religious - eg hymns or readings from the Bible.
