Today we've discussing what to do with an annoying point that we are always trying resolve until this evening when I think I've finally come up with an idea that might work so some nice opinions would be great!
Our religious blessing will be held at 2pm at Exeter Cathedral and at the moment we have the registry office booked for a small gathering of parents, grandparents, MOH and Best Man at 12pm.... Our problem is that the ceremony will be over by 12.20, 12.30 at absolute latest and we are going to be hanging around forEVER until 2pm!! We can't really go back to the hotel but we can't hang around as it will be mayhem being Exeter high street and the mad shoppers will be out lol.... So, my suggestion is move the civil ceremony to 9am (early and a bugger I know!) and have a quick ceremony in a nice dress with the parents and my Grandma (one of the witnesses) then we get back to the hotel for 10am at the latest and start getting ready with the make-up/hair/photographers etc, plus we can have a great breakfast at the same time too! What do people think of that idea? We aren't bothered whatsoever about the civil bit as that's just legalities for us and we wouldn't be having it there in an ideal world but there we go so the blessing is the important part for us and when we will feel properly married so how does the 9am ceremony sound rather than the 12pm option? We won't have a photographer there or do much with hair or make-up although we'll do something ourselves but we feel this is the best option in the circumstances... Unless people can suggest something we can do between 12pm and 2pm?!
We've been looking at Lady V and Viv of Hols dresses online and we could get some really lovely 50's swing dresses in white satin - it's something not too complicated but gorgeous at the same time making it easier for us in the morning, yuck early start! Something along these sorts of lines.... We want a nice ceremony as obviously that's when we'll technically be married but not a big fuss :)
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Thanks for any ideas in advance xxx
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Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorkatielea100
Can you not have your registry office bit at 1? Also I'm not sure what's going on with legalising gay marriage but if it's all sorted before your wedding will you not be able to get married in the church and be sorted? Sorry if I'm incorrect I'm not sure what's going on with it lol Would be lovely if that was the case though X
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Haha that's ok.. Loving the treading around the subject bit lovely ;) basically, the problem is that a) they don't have a registry office anymore and use the local civic centre rooms and b) Saturday is the busiest day and they go out to venues to perform ceremonies so 12pm is the latest that you can have your ceremony :( With the CofE, it won't be legalized now due to various reports so the best we will get is the blessing hence why it's important we have that as we'll never get 'married' in the church :( xx
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Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorCatherineR
So really it's either do it early morning like I've suggested, do it at 12pm but be hanging around or have it at 12pm and move the blessing up to 1pm and have a ridiculously early day which we don't want... We think the 9am would work because we can just nip off and do that and then return to the hotel and get ready like any other couple and have the church and reception like any normal couple? xx
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Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorkatielea100
Arh no that's terrible Why should you be treated any different from a straight couple! Gets me mad! I'd go with what you've said then Hun :) x
Us too :( we'd give literally ANYTHING to get married in our church but can we? Nope and then there are people who get married in the church because 'it's pretty' yet know nothing about getting married in a church then have the nerve to ask questions constantly about what you should do when marrying there.. You should be religious if you want a church wedding so it's very hypocritical to us!!! Sorry, sore point as you can see lol. I think we'll probably go with the 9am start, it seems the most logical option as we want to have the ceremony the same day on that date so although an early start, we'll probably set a record for the longest wedding in history haha but at least we get a good day out of it right? :) xx
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Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorkatielea100
Exactly :) haha longest wedding ;) Yeah I won't marry in a church as OH isn't religious at all I have christened my children though lol x
CommentAuthorCatherineR
That's good though, I think it's right if children are christened.. Welcomes them to the world and if they wana carry on then that's their choice :) my cousin isn't religious at all but she did get married in a Catholic church as her husband is very Catholic and that's fair enough! I can't wait and technically I get two dresses now although that prospect terrifies me as I'm not going to be able to make a decision on one let alone TWO!! Eek!! xx
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Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
What about doing the registry office bit on another day, my work mate was getting married I think on the Isle of Man but they had to stay there for six weeks before the wedding so they decided to have a registry office during the week and the 'wedding' on the Saturday.
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I don't think the 9am ceremony thing would be too bad. You will prob be up with the dawn anyway being excited. Like you say its only legalitys the will have the bit that important to you in the church.
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CommentAuthorPrincessjebbie
Have you considered not haveing a reg. office ceremony, and just filling in all the papers and signing the book. No vows etc.. Where I live it's £50 and that's a lot of money to save on a Saturday ceremony that you could spend elsewhere on your day ... Plus you could do it the day before with just your two witnesses then spend the whole of you blessing day doing everything the way you want it.. Seeing as you said it's only about it being legal. X
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
that sounds like a idea!
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CommentAuthorCatherineR
We did think about that Princessjebbie but we know that our parents would be upset if they didn't see us get married so believe me, it's easier this way! I think it should work this way, and like you say, we will have been up since the crack of dawn anyway so it won't make much difference! Very excited as I can see the whole day panning out now.... Just have to persuade the OH to have the venue I like ;) xx
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Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorStephHsoon2bBodkin
Our ceremony in the cathedral on Saturday is 1:30pm :) x
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CommentAuthorScottishbride2016
I thought the law was changing so gay marriages were legalised the same as straight so they could get married in church etc x
CommentAuthorCatherineR
You can get married now as of 29th March 2014 but churches can opt in or out of the new law if they want to and unfortunately for us, the Church of England and the Catholic's haven't opted in :( x
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Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
that sounds like a idea!
