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    • Llosa
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    • Obsidian_Winter
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    Agnostic is not atheist so, no its not a sham or hypocritical. Me getting married in a church would be. A fundamentalist of another faith would be. An atheist would be. Agnostic is not and it's your wedding so it happens your way. You need a Nerf gun to shoot people with when they start on the guilt again lol.
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    • Linzi-jo
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    Sorry hun but I kind of agree with them. I am getting married in a church because I am a christian, and the point of getting married in a church is to make all of your promises infront of God and to be blessed by him, so if you don't believe he exists as it cant be proven, then I don't think you should really have a church ceremony, it takes all the meaning away from it. And if you dont believe in it, then why do you want a service that includes God? Sorry, I know its probably not what you want to hear, but that is my feelings on it. However, if part of you does believe in him, then I can see why you would want to marry in church. But if not, I can see why some people would be confused by it xxx

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    • Obsidian_Winter
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    That's my point! Agnostic means that you aren't sure, atheist means that you don't believe at all. Being agnostic and getting married in a church is not hypocritical but being atheist would be.

    You can be agnostic but leaning towards theist.
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    • Linzi-jo
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    My belief was that Agnostic means you dont believe in anything that hasn't been proven, in which case it would mean you dont believe God exists as it hasn't been proven that he does. Therefore, I dont see why you would want to marry in God's house. However, as I have said in the post above, if part of them believes he does exist, then I can see why they would want a church service xxx

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    • Linzi-jo
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    I don't mean to offend anyone with what I am saying, I'm just stating that I can see why people may be confused by this xxx

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    • KellyD
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    Do what you want. Its your wedding! Just ignore everyone else lol.

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    • KellyD
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    i know where your coming from.
    im a catholic and getting married in a catholic my mum doesnt seem to see the point in why i am doing it though. she wants me to go abroad just so she can get a holiday out of it and i dont want to so i have had many an argument about it with her to the point in which she turned round and said that she didnt want to hear any more about my stupid wedding which she doesnt think is going to happen. From then on i havent bothered telling her anything, if she wants to know she can ask and then ill tell her. i dont really care to be honest, ive had many fallings out with her so this is just another way of her trying to be the centre of attention but this time its back fired lol.
    anyways, this is going to be one of the best days of my life so i will be doing it all how i want to do it.
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    • KellyD
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    in a catholic church**

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    • MorgsysGirl(kempy)
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    Now i'm going to stick up for lizi-jo here this is a fourm and if you post on here something with any topic people will reply with opinions and all and nothing can be done about that. Its what this place is everyone is entilted to their opinon. PLUS lizi-jo did say 'However, if part of you does believe in him, then I can see why you would want to marry in church.' so where there for is she telling you that you cant? It was her opinion on what she put before but the fact shes was taking into acount that you do think somethings there but arent sure and that she can see why you want to g tmarried there is kind of actually supporting your decision dont you think?

    However it is YOUR wedding so do what you want not what friends/family/ukb members say and pay no heed to what they think.

    Only you know your feelings and beleifs so utimitly it is your and you h2bs decision.

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    • Llosa
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    KellyD thats horrible, i hope you kick her up the bum! Her daughters getting married she should be excited...
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    • MorgsysGirl(kempy)
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    Rayhceroo, from your line 'Then again my mum knows how i feel about God and the Christian faith, she knows that there is a part of me that does believe, but I'm not sure why/what/where/how lol' means that linzi-jo respects where your coming from? I hope you understand that she wasnt having a go at you and was suporting your decision?

    and yes at least my church love getting new people in. he loves my family as we are the youngest there and go a fair bit now. and we help out with events etc.

    With your MOH I'd tell her now its my way or im sorry i will have to pick another MOH as i dont want you trying to outshine me in everything forthw next 13 months x

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    • KellyD
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    thats what i thought but i actually think shes in a mood as she has no control over what im doing lol and the fact that she decided to shout in an argument to me that she 'wasnt lending me any money for it', in which i replied, 'i dont need your money, im paying for it myself.' i dont think she liked the fact that i didnt need to borrow or anything lol which again lost her control haha!! shes most likely to come round to it closer to the time when she realises that is is really happening and she'll have to go buy a new outfit lmao!!

    i love families, they turn funny when weddings are mentioned.

    feel sorry for you with you moh, i have two as i couldnt decide between them :D they have been the most supportive ppl and have loved everything i have shown them so i cant call them anything :D
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    • PB
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    Its odd,weddings seem to bring something out in people that makes them think that is perfectly acceptable to critisise and challenge your opinions/ideas.My bil2b kicked off big time when we told him that his grandchildren were not invited as our numbers were limited and we would rather invite lifelong friends.He said we were completely wrong to do this even though we have only met his grandchildren a couple of times they should take preference to our friends because 'families uniting' were what weddings were for! We pointed out that 'getting married' was what weddings were for and he said we would have to 'agree to disagree!!!!!!'
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    • Llosa
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    Sorry, I get just a lil upset about it, I suppose linzi was just stating her opinion, which is fair.

    Poultonbride, have you managed to sort it out with them now?

    KellyD, make her wear the ugliest corsage ever :P sounds a bit petty of her though
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    • KellyD
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    haha lol

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    • MorgsysGirl(kempy)
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    Yes lol she was. I jsut felt like I had to stick up for her so it didnt end up in an argument. hope you get sorted with moh hun x

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    • Shirleygirly
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    If you want to get married in a church, you get married in a church. I have people looking down their noses at me because I'm doing the registry office. The reason we are doing that is because neither of us go to church and we'd find it hugely hypocritical to turn up for the expected amount of Sundays prior to the wedding then never bother again after we're married. I do believe in God but I have issues with the fact that many people believe that because they go to church every Sunday etc they are above all other beings and have the right to judge others for being different. The current issue with Gay marriage has fueled my anger towards Religeon (the proven cause of all wars). I worship God in my heart and that means more to me than any church.

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    • PB
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    racycheroo we haven't exactly sorted it out,we kind of avoid the subject of the wedding(he lives in Brighton so our paths don't cross too much) Unfortunately as he is best man we will need to start talking about it soon...i am going to steer well clear of these discussions as i am still bubbling under the surface from the last confrontation so i know how you feel! You just feel like standing on a chair and shouting 'Its my wedding stop raining on my parade!'...well i do anyway lol!
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    • almost a year wife!!
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    i have a similiar opinion from my mum.....she keeps saying "you dont go to church regularly" etc etc i just turned around n said "i thought were taught tht god is everywhere, why should i go to a building once a week when he made everything and is everywhere, this is what we want and just becasue we dont go regularly doesnt mean we dont believe".......
    if u want a church wedding hun have one x

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    • higginszajac
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    You get married where you want if they dont like it then they dont come simple, its your day do what you want and dont worry what others think xx




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    my h2bs gran (40 years dedicated christian) isnt happy that we are getting married by registrar at our venue but i always have said that i would never get married in a church for the simple fact that i dont agree with the things the bible say... i suppose im like you n think there is something there that i believe in but i dont agree with the way the church portrays it...if that makes sense?
    Tbh its your wedding and if thats what you want to do you just need to put your foot down and say "its our day, we'll do what we want, dont mention it again"
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    • tillyturtle
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    hey hun...ooo tell me about I am relgious and cus partner it atheitst we agreed to get married in registry office (his choice)..but abroad (my choice) and people are like whyare you not having it in your church....but i mean i love me partner and a marriage is a marriage god is all around not just in church!!!...also hen do problems i actually feel like calling it of cus of gossip and moaning
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    • katielea100
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    i want a church wedding im christend a christian and my partner catholic neither of us follow our religion or really believe in it i mean common science has proved religion is a pile of rubbish but i want the church wedding because its traditional and pretty no other reason lol hope im not a hypocrite non of my family have said anything wrong about my choice
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    • LegoWife
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    As an atheist I don't understand why anyone less than a practising christian would want to get married in a church. But then I think when it comes to weddings it's the epitome of tradition and I think a LOT of non-practising Christians get married in a church because they feel it's "the done thing" especially if it's family tradition in the family church.

    So I understand why people would have a problem with it but as long as you can justify it to yourself and you're happy with it that's all that really matters

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    • millz090
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    i think what annoys the christin church is when people dont ever attend service, dont help fundraising or running the church but want to get married there.... attend the courses to get married then never go back to the church again.

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    • Kat
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    Church or not has been a huge debate in the planning of ours. I don't believe in god but h2b does. I said I would never get married in church due to feeling disrespectful to those that do believe. He really wanted to say his vows in front of god. The compromise was that him wanting to was probably more important than me not. We are however now having a civil ceremony to the disgust of the whole family, including the atheists! We will be having a blessing at a later date for the h2b.

    What I am trying to say is that i understand both opinions but you will never please everybody.

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    • katielea100
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    i attend the church every xmas eve for the service with my mum and younger siblings but not because of religion but because of the spirit and the amazing feeling we get from the atmosphere of christmas! my daughter is also christened as is the rest of my family, its your wedding do what makes you happy and ignore all the rubbish people come out with
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    • LegoWife
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    Kat- I think you not wanting to say vows in front of a god you don't believe in is actually more important. The day is about you and H2B and your relationship so I think having a civil ceremony and then a blessing for H2B is the best way you could have done it, you're both respecting each other that way.

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    • InDreamland
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    I'm RC and getting married in an RC church, the same church my parents got married in, me and my sis were baptised in and I had my 1st holy communion, then we moved house and parish so went to a different church. H2B and I are going back to that church because it means so much to me to - 1. get married in an RC church because I am a practising Catholic and attend mass once a week so without saying my vows in God's house and having the marriage blessed I will not feel married, and 2. because it would mean so much to me and my family to get married in the same church that has history for the family.

    H2B is not RC, he's Methodist but he made the decision before he proposed that we would have an RC wedding because it meant so much to me and as long as it's a church wedding he didn't mind where it was.

    For me, personally, I do think that if you want to marry in church you need to believe in a Christian God so if you believe there is a God out there and want your marriage to be blessed then go for it.

    My sister had the opposite problem to you hun. My BIL's family, and on paper he is too, are J.W's. There was absolutely no way that they therefore could get married in church even though my sister really wanted it. Basically, they had a beautiful civil ceremony at the reception venue (gorgeous manor house), my parents were very upset about it not being in a church. I could understand my dad being upset as he still believes in God and attends mass, my mother on the other hand no longer believes (she used to but events in life have made her sceptical) but just thinks it's the thing to do which I do not think is the right reason to have a church wedding. There was talk about a blessing but that idea went outta the window, don't think my BIL was that keen because of his family.

    Anyway, I ramble, hun, if you do believe there is a God and that is the reason you want to marry in a Church and it means so much to you then go for it, ignore your critics, it's their problem not yours!
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    • OWB
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    We are getting married in a Unitarian church, they are predominately Christian, but understand that everybody has a different faith. The minister conducting the service believes in god, and believes in Jesus, but doesn't believe in heaven and hell. It very much an 'all encompassing religion' and we have been open that neither of us is 100% sure that we believe.

    If the church has special meaning for you, and you are prepared to stand up to those who are disapproving then by all means go ahead. You are unlikely to change their opinion, but hopefully you'll reach an agreement to live and let live.

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    • Suzyb
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    I'm a spiritualist but we are getting married in a CofE church.
    This is because the church has alot of connections to us.
    It's your day, do it how you want and forget everyone else x

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    • Linzi-jo
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    Sorry Racheroo I think our lines have got crossed somewhere! I was not having a go at you nor telling you that you should not get married in a Church. I agree that if you believe there is something, then you should have a church wedding, but if not then I don't agree with it. That is just my opinion, and other peoples opinions should not make you feel uncomfortable or change your mind. However, you have stated that you do believe there is something out there, so I fully understand your reasons for marrying in a church. Unfortunately, when typing in a forum it is not the same as talking face to face, therefore you do not know what tone or way comments are being said. I am sorry if I caused you any upset at all, I did not mean to, and please understand that I was not trying to attack you in any way, and I am very sorry if it came across to you that I was. I hope you have a lovely wedding day!

    As for the maid of honour issue, it is your day, not hers, therefore she should not be dictating to you what she wants to wear or how she wants her hair to be. Yes, she needs to feel comfortable, but in the end it is your decision not hers. Talk to her and ask her how she would feel if it was the other way round and you were telling her how you wanted to look at her wedding. If she doesn't back down, I would think about maybe having someone else who respects your views and feelings a bit more. Hope you get it sorted soon xxx

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    • FutureMrsPite
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    im having a registrar perform our marriage ceremony at our chsoen venue, im not religious so the idea of getting married in a church felt hypocritical for me, but there are members of my h2bs family who are religious, im not sure what their views are but i havent heard anything from them! I get confused with all these different religions, catholic, christian, roman catholic, jehovahs witnesses, methodist etc surely if theres a god theres one for all? but everyone is entitled to their own opinion and what they believe and if it something you want then do it, your wedding is your day and u should get married where u think it would feel special, im constantly changing my mind on what i believe and whats out there, im sure we will all know ultimately! but for now enjoy your wedding where you want it to be and family just have to deal with that x

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    • Llosa
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    Linzi, i should apologise for my reaction, i shouldn't have replied how i did, its just a very touchy subject at the mo. truly sorry, everyones entitled to their opinions.

    (feel a lil bit like a bridezilla or a 2 year old throwing a paddy now :s )
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    • Linzi-jo
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    Honestly don't worry about it Raycheroo, and you are not a bridezilla, you are just a woman! And having moans about things is what we do best! lol xxx

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