Is anyone getting married in a church who isn't religious? Just personally, I find it hypocritical. Same as parents who have never gone to church/aren't religious having their children baptised. I'm not getting married in a church. For starters, the one I go to is in a wee community hall, hardly a nice setting!! Opinions?
PS. this is not intended to offend
CommentAuthorClaire Sky
i completely agree hon xxx i'm not even christened and never been to church except weddings, so were getting married in a hotel xxxxx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
I'm sort of religious although I'm not what you call an acting Christian- so I left the decision to H2B. H2B IS religious and was confirmed a couple of years ago. So we are getting married in a church.
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CommentAuthorPossum
I'm not christened either claire. My parents never went to church, and even if they did, I'd have appreciated them leaving the decision up to me! :o)
CommentAuthorspooney24
We have chosen to marry in church and are doing the Follow the Light course at church each week so to show our commitment. My h2b isnt religious whatsever but I was brought up with parents who are very involved in their church and so attended sunday school every week. I havent joined the church as an adult but may take this decision if I feel its the right one for me.
I consider it personal choice whether you marry in church or not but do understand the point you have made Possum.x
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Spooney - going to classes does show commitment! I mean just getting married in a church because its pretty. I don't think you need to actively "join" a church. But I think having a religious ceremony when neither party is religious is strange!
CommentAuthorspooney24
I have to say until we decided to get married I hadn't followed my faith in anyway for some time as I had questioned it about 13 years ago when I was first diagnosed with cancer. So I wouldn't class myself as typically religious and do believe more in the spiritual side of things. That is one of the reasons why we decided to attend the course to show we wish to learn more about christianity. x
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CommentAuthorLindsey Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
Yont need to go to church to be religious and believe. You can still believe in your own home. Thats my opinion anyway.
CommentAuthorPossum
I'm hoping to have some sort of blessing back in Glasgow with my church. Everyone is friends with everyone else there. I know the leader well, and he's the only one I'd want to do it. Callum isn't religious at all though.
CommentAuthormoodyrabbit
Hiya im catholic but h2b isnt religous at all so were not getting married in a church. I didnt want him to feel like i was trying to force him into believing in something that he didnt want to also he enjoys his lie-ins too much on sunday mornings to come with me!!! lol
CommentAuthorPossum
I know courtyard. My post was more meant about people getting married in church just because its pretty. I don't think you should need to be a 'member' of a church. Sorry, I come across as such a cow in my posts! I think I'm just stressed out x
CommentAuthorDrunchPunk
I agree with you Possum, for me I would feel a fraud if I got married in a church, even if my H2B were a committed church goer! Luckily he isn't, so it isn't an issue. I wasn't christened and neither will my children be.
It seems a shame though, because a lot of churches are lovely!
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
I have to admit I do find the concept of visiting loads of churches to find which is the prettiest slightly strange. We chose our church based on family connections- h2b was baptised there and attended as a child.
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CommentAuthorLindsey Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
Oh no you didnt sound a cow, just saying what i feel. lol.. didnt mean to sound snappy at all. :)
CommentAuthorPossum
I may yet get baptised. I only became a believer about a year ago, but I've always had these views. My kids won't get baptised unless they choose to :)
CommentAuthorspooney24
I agree Courtyard as I dont attend the church service much but doesnt mean to say I am not a christian cause I dont sit on a cold pew on a Sunday morning. x
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CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
i am getting married in a church and I am not religious. I do beleive in god though
I will freely admit I am a hyprocrite! lol I have the image of a fairytale wedding in my head and a church goes with that image and thats why I'm doing it.
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CommentAuthorLindsey Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
The church we are getting married in has loads of connections for me aswell....i would never dream of going searching for the prettiest. The thought of which church didnt really enter our minds.
CommentAuthorPossum
OOh no spooney - I'd hate doing that too! My church is at 3pm in a heated hall with food and tea and coffee and kids everywhere. Nothing like your typical big catholic/church of england etc. But i believe a belief in God should be needed for a Christian ceremony. My point was pretty much that some people don't believe in God or whatever. Just want to get married in a church because it's pretty. And I feel that is not right...like its lying almost :s
CommentAuthorRachA2B
Speaking as someone who is quite religious and does go to church (Mainly because I'm part of the choir) It is very blatant both to the vicar and to people who are religious if the bride and groom are not religious. This isn't to say that if you don't go to church you shouldn't get married in a church thats complete rubbish. If you believe in god you don't need to be at church every week. Its just that the church and the fact that you are getting married in front of god (in my opinion) has just got to mean something to you x x
CommentAuthorPossum
That was what I meant Rach! I'm so rubbish with words. Thanks :)
CommentAuthorRachA2B
no problem! :)
CommentAuthorsbride
Im getting married in a church becuase I believe in my faith. I used to go every weekend when i was younger but since having babies, have not been as much, however I do pray everyday. I do think it is very hypocritical to get married in a church though if your not religous and dont believe in God.
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CommentAuthorspooney24
I have to say that a few of the couples on the course with us are most definitely not religious and openly admit that they are doing the course cause the minister said they had to so to be allowed to marry in church. So I do get what you are meaning Possum. But personally I think anyone can get married anywhere, its up to how they feel at the end of the day and I would never judge anyone who choose a church wedding even though they have no religious beliefs. x
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8th August 2008 - the day he was mad enough to propose to me
24th July 2010 - the day I felt beautiful inside and out and
became Mrs Dickie for life. xx
CommentAuthorDrunchPunk
I'm not religious, at all, in any way shape or form. And because of that I wouldn't feel comfortable with 'declaring my marriage before God' in a church, because I don't believe that's what I'm doing.
However, if you DO believe, then it shouldn't matter if you attend church or not, you shouldn't feel hypocritical for getting married in a church just because you don't attend church every week, or at all!
But for me, I couldn't do it. I go to weddings, funerals and christenings in churches because I'm friends with the people involved, I don't feel bad for showing support and love in that way. But I have to admit I don't sing hymns..
CommentAuthorclaireclaire
Is not not about: the comitment you make to eachother...... where you make that comitment is up to you?
CommentAuthorKimi
I was bought up as Christian but personally abandoned the faith as I think its a load of claptrap. Originally (while I was still of said faith) I wanted to get married in a church but now I couldn't sit/stand through the service as they waffle on it would bore me to death.
As for pretty surroundings you can get plenty of them with looking around for locations - for example Bartle Hall as a gorgeous garden for photos, and what about all those people who get married on a beach are they wrong about their locations...
TBH I've attended a few church weddings and I did thing it took too long and droned on although the locations were nice, I've also attended a Registry Office wedding which looked nice too but honestly neither were my cup of tea. Hence why I'm having a civil ceremony in an old house converted hotel (only 14 rooms) as I get privacy and lovely views and just what I want :)
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CommentAuthorclaireclaire
Sounds wonderful Kimi!!
CommentAuthorKimi
Thanx claireclaire :)
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
each to their own to be fair but like a few of you i do think after seeing a few times on Four Weddings, if you don't believe, you don't have anything to do with the church and are just getting married there coz of hte location and its "beauty" then that is slightly hypocritial....but like i said each to their own!!!!
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CommentAuthorvintage lass
I am religious and was brought up Roman Catholic since i was little!I thank god that my parents brought me up to believe and think personally this has been one of the best gifts they could have given me! I try to attend mass each week but most defo pray everyday and work hard to get to know god better! I respect others views and opinions on the matter and personally not to sure if its hypocritical or not to get married in a church if not practicing! Everyone has a right to religion and i dont think anyone should be turned away from gods house. It doesnt sit comfortably however for me when people choose to go in this direction simply because of the decor, the surroundings etc etc! x
CommentAuthorRoxii
I totally agree.. I wouldn't personally get married in a church as neither of us are religeous. We're getting married in a beautiful Hall (hotel, whatever) Kenswood Hall (will get some pics uploaded soon). It's got a lake and loads of scenery, I admit it is possibly a more expensive option, But I found my sister's wedding in a registry office "tacky" (I'm not saying Registry offices are tacky, but rotherham's is next to a busy dual carriageway, and a health centre) Not my cup of tea (And I'm also not trying to upstage my sister or be a snob). But I think that the extra money we'll be paying is worth it as it's exactly what we want. Anyway Back to topic.. I'd feel like a complete hypocrit if I were to get married in a church. x
CommentAuthorljeh92
Im getting married in a church. Me and my H2B were both christened but we havnt been to church in years. i completely understand what you mean though. I would love to get married in a hotel or something but H2B wants a church wedding x