I really dont know why this is causing me so much upset. I keep changing my mind as to where I want the service. One day Im dead set on our local church and the next Im thinkning it would be so much easier to have the wedding all in the 1 place at the hotel. At the moment I have the date booked with the church but after getting the extortionate fees thru, we decided to switch to hotel. Now weve decided we can afford the church. So now my mind is yo-yoing between the 2! Its in December, so it would be more practical to hold at the hotel. Only thing is it feels more proper if that makes sense to have at the church as my dad was catholic. The other thing is we could save on cars if we married at the hotel + other lil things. Family are no help as they have mixed views. H2b and I have even resorted to pulling the answer out of a hat!
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CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Why do you want the church? Is it because you want God in your marriage? To honour your father? For the photos?
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CommentAuthor*Vixie*
We went through this when we were first planning. The decision was made when we went to a friends wedding who had a civil ceremony, to us it didnt feel like the kind of wedding that we wanted. We wanted the hymns and readings. It made me realise that I wanted the big white wedding in a church. Go for what feels right for he two of you. xx
CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
I have no idea Dove to be honest. Im not a church goer, I dont pretend to know anything of religion. All I know is when my boy was seriously ill 9 years ago I prayed like crazy and it got me thru. Ive had both my boys christened as I think they need "protection" if that makes sense and I feel like our marriage should be blessed in some way.....to give it that extra seal of approval. Probably none of that makes sense. I do want to do it for my dad too. Definately not for photos though as I doubt its going to be great weather for guests to stand around to have pics taken. xx
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CommentAuthorMrs Steer
ive always wanted to get married in a church, im not fussed about much else i will sacrifice other things. if its what you want and you can afford it do it because your only going to do it once!!
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All I can really say is - only have a church wedding if you want God to be a part of your marriage, and if you do believe in Christian marriage. Don't do it for anyone else :) I do admire that you're not thinking about it for the prettiness - that really annoys me when people do that! I'm glad that you managed to get through that tough time xxx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Listening to your reasoning- I'd say Church for you.
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CommentAuthorPossum
We're planning on having a civil ceremony (everything in one venue) but I'd like a blessing after, because I'm religious and h2b isn't, I don't think it would be hypocritical but works for both of us. You could maybe do that if you want to have everything in one place?
CommentAuthorlinzi
I have a similar problem. I didnt realise (I know, I'm blonde) that civil ceremonies were totally non-religous when we booked ours! And although i am not a church goer either, i still dont feel right about not being married "in the eyes of god". And H2B is a catholic and his parents are active catholics.
SO, what i have done is emailed a tiny little ancient temple, that is only a few miles down the road for my venue, and have asked them if they can do me a blessing after my civil ceremony! Was thinking me H2B and parents, and photographer can just jump in the car and head off their quickly. Would only be half hour in total, and would be nice photos too.
and then i will be happy!
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Thank you ladies. Years ago when I thought of marriage, it only ever involved a church....i think financial constraints tend to make you think otherwise but no, h2b and I will talk tonight and we will work out a way so that we can have our wedding in church. Thanks again xxxx
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CommentAuthorVsmith
I'm in a similar situation. My H2B says he is religous (although he does not go to church) but i'm not really religous. I told him it was his decision whether we should marring in church or have a civil marrage. To start with he agree to a civil wedding but then he realised it wasn't at all religious so now he is undecided and can't seem to make his mind up. HELP. How can I help him decide?
CommentAuthorbtb2011
We are lucky that our venue can do a civil ceremony and then we can have a generic christian blessing in the chapel there. H2B's family are Catholic and mine are not so didn't want to choose one religion over another but did feel we'd like some religion involved.
CommentAuthorauntiewoo
I don't understand! I don't believe in "god", but isn't he supposed to be everywhere? Why then won't he be with you wherever you get married? A church is just a building at the end of the day-and if you aren't a regular church goer, what difference does it make-it's what's in your heart that counts!..Isn't it?? (My opinion-sorry if offensive to anyone). x
CommentAuthorerica the army wag
i didnt realise how expensive church was lol civil are much cheaper xxx
CommentAuthorsarahwasabride
im having a civil ceremony because i dont believe in god so for me it didnt seem right to have it in a church. i dont think my fellas mum is partically keen on me not having it in a church because shes quite religious but at the same time she realises that its not her day so what she wants dont count. hope uve made ur decision on where ul be getting married xx
CommentAuthorvintage lass
I do believe in God and want to make him a big part of our wedding....I want to not only be able to stand up in front of my family and friends to say our vows but also make an unconditionally promise to God that I will stay with Alex 'until death us do part'.
I was at our local registar this morning collecting the official papers for our cermony and saw a beautiful bride outside waiting to get married with only her mother and father with her. For a brief moment I thought how nice her plans were - to have a day with little fuss....that also shows a real commitment of love (no frills, large guest list etc etc) but in my mind I would only feel really complete if our marriage was carried out through a religious ceremony!
The choice in yours hun.....its very sad that some churches ask for money (completely wrong in my mind) could you even look for somewhere that will do it for either free or at a cheaper rate? xx
CommentAuthorerica the army wag
im with you vintage xxx
CommentAuthorPossum
auntiewoo - I think its to do with saying your vows with God involved and making that promise - you're not allowed that in a civil ceremony. A lot of churches don't ask for money, other than for things like decorations you want etc. This is why I hate people getting married in them when they only want it for the prettiness and they aren't 'religious' at all - the church pay for the ceremony usually because it is a Christian marriage. You've got me thinking now - I'm not sure I'd object to someone getting married in a church if they were paying for the time to have the church and the minister. It still doesn't ring right to me to have a marriage talking all about promises to God if someone doesn't believe in who they're promising to! :-) xx
