when we met the priest at our church before xmas for the first interview thing he was really abrupt and nasty. saying we are living in sin that he doesnt agree to it etc etc and commenting that our wedding should be closer! since then i haven't been happy with gettin wed there i only stayed silent cos i thought h2b wanted to get wed there! so i actually said to him last night i dont like the priest and would feel loads better having civil ceremony at the venue....and he agreed but said will have to pass it by his mum! ermmmmm y?? its our weddin! wat u guys think we shud do
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CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
If you don't like the priest and you think it would be easier having a civil ceremony and the reception venue then go for it, I expect you'll find it cheaper too! x
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
thats true.... no cars ether to pay for! and we get a free room for 2 people the nite before the weddin too!
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CommentAuthorSian-Louise
Have the wedding You and Your H2B want...as you said its not his mums wedding its yours! I would have exactly what you want hun...its your day and everything should be how you want it. And if your not happy with the priest then it may ruin your big day..xxx
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I'm even thinking of cancelling the church and having a civil ceremony, it's not 100% what I want, I want the church but having the civil ceremony at my reception venue makes everything so much easier!
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civil at venue... its no good if u dont like the priest... it will not be meaningful and you may dread running into him again. less on flowers and no cars... cuts costs.
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CommentAuthormcquire81
Its your wedding, not his mums!! Do what you want, if your not comfortable being married by the priest then have a civil ceremony, you dont want the most important part of the day ruined by a horrible man!!
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
yes thats wat am thinkin ladies! thanks 4 advice! yay to less on flowers 2 lol
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CommentAuthorEmsy5000
wow he should not say things like that to you. find a different church!!
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
it was awful how he was speakin to us! then long silences too lol
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CommentAuthorJill
That's ridiculous - it really bugs me that 'men of the cloth' are supposed to be non-judgemental and open to everyone, but some have such narrow minded views!! We're getting married in Church, I was never christened but liked the thought of doing things the traditional way so really wanted the church wedding. Little did I know that the bishop needs to approve our wedding first because I'm not christian lol I expect it's just a formality but if not we'll definitely be changing to getting married at the venue x
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
yea and hes a youngish priest too!! awww the bishop lol slip him a £10er lol
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CommentAuthorJill
lol yeah! Having read the other posts though it would save cash on transport and flowers not to mention being less hassle... hmmm may need to discuss! x
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
i luv the idea of less costs lol
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CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
my nanny doesn't approve of us having a civil ceremony but at the end of day its our wedding and we have to have what we want. it sounds like you wouldnt feel comfortable getting married at that church so maybe a civil ceremony would be the better way to go? x
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I'm not sure if you have thought about this option but it could be a way of getting everything that you both wanted. You could have the civil at the venue and the reception etc then the next day go for a blessing in a church of your choice as you don't need to be in that parish in order to be blessed which means you get the same church service just without the legal side of things which you don't need anyway. Blessing are based on donations and don't carry the same fees as an actual wedding. We are doing it this way as the h2b wanted a church but we didn't like our local parish due to its poor disabled access and they wouldn't let us get married in the disabled friendly church.
I agree though the MIL has nothing to do with it. Its down to you and the h2b how and where you get married.
CommentAuthorshellay
you should do what the two of you are happy with, if you both dont like the priest you wont be happy on your wedding day and if you both agree and are happy to have a civil ceremony which could be just as nice as the church then it should be your decision not anyone elses :) x
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CommentAuthorCroc
it should be what you want... is getting married in front of god what you want or getting married and saying your vows in front of a registar...
im not religious and think a church ceremony when im not religious is a bit ... wrong but thats my opinion on me and h2b... so we choose our venue as the room where we will get married is beautiful and everything we want ... we didnt want god or a priest we wanted our friends and family and our own take on a ceremony and adding what we want
you just have to weigh up if a church ceremony is infact important to you... you can always find another church with a different priest .....if a church ceremony is important to you...
if its that important but you still want a religious vibe to the ceremony once the officiant goes out of the room (after you are now man and wife stuff) you can have biblical readings then if you wanted
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
yes the church is where luke has grown up with! the priest only came about 6 months ago the old priest was well nice, gutted he had to leave!
jo thats a gud idea actually! abd croc yes i want readings, all luke sisblings are involved in weddin and my brother aint so want him to do a reading so he is
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
My parents are Catholic, but they don't care where we marry and agree with me that as neither me nor my OH have attended Chruch since the ages of about 10, and neither of us believe in God, we should have a civil ceremony. My OHs mum is Protestant (though hasn't attended church for god know's how long, so TBH I don't really think she can say she's THAT religious..) and his gran is VERY religious. I don't think his mum is too pleased that we won't be having a church wedding; his gran doesn't even know yet and I can guarantee she'll say we're sinners, etc... Frankly, I don't care. I'm not religious, neither is my OH, so we are not marrying in a church, end of story.
If you want to marry in a church for the religious significance, then I think you should, even if the priest isn't very nice; but if not, have your civil ceremony, and who cares what others think?.. It is your day, and IMO it's not right to marry in a church if you don't believe in what you're doing. It also adds extra stresses such as travel issues, which is fine if a church wedding is what you want, but unnecessary hassle otherwise.
Some civil venues are BEAUTIFUL, I've looked at some really really nice ones, nicer than the churches in my area lol.
CommentAuthorMel D
Definitely don't get married at the church if you don't feel that the priest was supportive.
My mum is RC and although I know she would like me to get married in a church she hasn't said anything about us having a civil ceremony.
Is there another church that you can consider?
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
i liek a few, wud hav to be a rc church though! i think civil ceremony it may be, gunan speak to h2b 2nite x
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