Hello everyone,
again I am in need of your help and advice...

I have 6 BM's and each of them keeps asking me who is going to be chief...to which I reply I don't know and haven't really thought about it.

I really don't know who to chose as it is sooo difficult.

The back ground on my BM's...

Soph... My best friend who I have known for almost 11 years. We have had out fall outs and some have been major resulting in us not speaking for some of those 11 years, but somehow we always manage to get back in touch and get back to how we always were.

Serena...Soph's sister, again the same applies as with Soph, although I wasn't always as close to Serena as I was with Soph.

Suzanne...My big sis. Altough not through blood, when her parents both died, my mum and dad have been there for her, and we are all as close as real family.

Jo...My other big sis. Same applies as Suzanne, these 2 are real sisters.

Chloe... will be almost 15 by the time we get married, and is my niece (Suzannes Daughter) I won't chose her purely for her age.

Nicki...When I met Nicki, we just clicked and it was instant. I have had a rough few months lately and no matter what Nicki has had going on she has always been there for me, text me to see if im ok. Had me over for a girly night whilst her now hubby was on his stag do to cheer me up after a loss in my family, and is totally excited to be involved in our wedding...(she married my H2B's best friend at the beginning of this month).

Basically all of the bridesmaids are there for me and have been there for me no matter what throughout my whole life. The OH says to chose Nicki because she seems more excited to be involved and is genuinely happy to help me with anything and will go our of her way to do whatever she can. Mum says the same, but i'm so totally confused with it, and I don't want to upset anyone.

Any advise would be greatly appreciated :)
Thanks a million girlies xxx

I agree with Karen, you don't really NEED a chief bridesmaid if you can't decide, and splitting the duties means you might be able to use their individual skills and personalities better... if one is more of a social person than the rest she may be better at organising hen night, another may be better organised, another more crafty. I've only got 2, but one is far more outgoing than the other, she's in charge of the hen night, and presently also sitting top table (mainly for logisical reasons though!) The other BM (who I actually consider my MoH) is more organised and is going to be signing the register and any other minor stuff on the day (like holding the bouquet, straightening the dress etc) Just for comparison, my organised (C)BM is my Soph. :-) Our friendship has endured pretty much the worst we could each throw at it over the last 20 years, and it's really important to me that it's her making my marriage official.

That being said, if your mum and OH both say Nicki, there's maybe a good reason, they might be able to see your friendships from an objective point of view? How long have you actually been friends with her? (Just because I think it's a bit different if you've known her for 6 months or 6 years!) I don't necessarily think being the most excited means they are most deserving of CBM to be honest, some people just react to things differently. My social BM went mad with enthusiasm when I asked her, but organised BM was more reserved about her excitement, but was very honoured to be asked.

Sorry, rambling again! Good luck making your decisions, remember, it's your day, none of them have a right to get in a strop for not getting made CBM!

I personally wouldnt choose one as you may really hurt someones feelings. I am not sure when your wedding is but your relationships with these girls may change by then, e.g. you may become much closer to another of them. They sound like a really nice bunch so I wouldnt rock the boat by assigning titles.