Is anyone else not having children at their wedding? We have 2 children ourselves and 2 nieces and they are the only children coming. I have only been to 2 weddings and at both children were not invited. My uncle and my partners family who didnt invite our son to their weddings seem to be taking offense at this (they didnt have kids then). I cant think of anything worse than loads of tired wild whingy kids running round on my special day as we both have big families. I dont want to hire a creche either i just want immediate family kids. I thought they would enjoy a night away from the children. Are children invited to your wedding or not?
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
I am 100% with you hun. i cant think of anything worse.
Only kids at mine are 2 that are in the bridal party and my cousins 2 - she passed away last year and I felt it was very disrespectful not to invite them. She and I were V close and I wopuld have invited them if she was still with us x
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CommentAuthorMrs Mara Tester
We are inviting kids, although the whole kids launching themselves across the dance floor thing i'm not looking forward too (although this will probably be my son as he will be 2 at the time, lol). But it is your choice and completely hypocritical of you're families for taking offence to it. Did you complain about it at their wedding. I would just tell tham that you do not want kids at YOUR wedding and if they don't like it they don't have to come!!! hope this helps. x
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CommentAuthorCarys_FromCardiff
Im in agreeance with you guys!! I am having NO children at my wedding! mostly because we dont really have any younger realtives in both of our familes. Not that we are close to. :)
CommentAuthorkatiekosmic17
I'd say it's completely up to you- I've been to weddings with kids running around all day, even at the church and others that have none. I'm having kids at mine, but there's only about two young kids in mine and my fiance's families so it's not too bad. It all depends on what you want for your own wedding. And don't worry about offending people- it's your day! xx
Hi I'm having children but they are either mine or nephews and neices think theres 7 plus 2 tiny babies if they are born by the wedding lol..only one of my friends has asked if her 2 boys can come to the evening reception and I said yes as shes on her own and has no family etc....but my cousin is getting married in june and she has a strict NO children policy and alot of ppl arent going because of it, I personally cant wait cause it means a kid free day lol,but some ppl have this attitude of 'we come as a package'.....guess you cant please everyone but its your day and you should have what you want xx
CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
we are having children at ours, our daughter, son, my flower girl, page boy(who is my brother) and 2 others. havent said that people cant bring their children as i would be offened if we got invited to a wedding but my kids werent aloud, but i see where u are coming from so hopefully there wont be many in the evening as can deal with 6 during the day as my mum is looking after mine, my flower girl will be going back to her nans shortly after the breakfast, my brother will behave or he is dead lol, and the other two wouldnt say boo to a goose lol xx
it is your day hun do what u feel is right for u, and when it comes to your uncle moaning about their kids not coming, just remind them that they did the same so dont have a leg to stand on xx
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CommentAuthorMrs Steph Lapworth
Its up to u if u have kids there or not. Im having kids at mine but most of them are under 5 xx
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CommentAuthorJessica
I will have a 4 year old (mine) and 18 month old (mine) an 8 year old (neice) and 8 month old (neice). And they are all going to behave or else!! My little boy is really looking forward to it, he will be quite happy just the four of them x
CommentAuthorMrs Mara Tester
I'm thinking of tying all the kids up in a corner if they misbehave!!!!!!! lol
Joke, Seriously I'm gunna be making a goody bag to keep them occupied. x
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CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
mara i doing a goody bag as well, but loving the tying them up idea lol
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CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
dont blame ya hun, if a kid put choccy finger prints on my dress think there would be murder lol xx
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CommentAuthorMrs Mara Tester
I feel quite mean, My kids are at the top table but they are not sat next to me as i know what my kids are like and my beautiful ivory dress will be a lovely kechupy red colour, lol. x
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CommentAuthoralibum
i`m in that dilemma also, my eldest daughter will be 13 and is doing a reading,my youngest is 6 and she is a flowergirl along with the bestmans daughter who is 7 my nephew will be nearly 2 that i`m fine with but my h2b has a friend whose eldest daughter aged 6 is a terror she terrorised my daghters 3rd bday when she was only 2!!the magician we hired asked her to be removed!!!do we just leave the children off the invite?
CommentAuthorJoneseygal
We are only having 3 kids who are our nieces and our nephew and will be part of the bridal party. We have decided to telephone the relevant people in advance to explain that for numbers reasons (I have a HUGE family!) we have decided not to have kids but that we hope that they understand and would still want to come and join in our special day. Very few of our friends have children and it is mainly extended family who would be affected, although that may also mean a lot of people won't come as they would need to traval from N.Ireland!
CommentAuthorCupCake
I never know what to say on this one. I was invited to my cousins wedding last year and they wanted us at the church with just my older daughter who is 17 but didn't want my 2 year old... they invited him to the night do? it was a wedding miles away from where we lived, so what did they think I was gonna do with my son for the day while we went to the church and reception? We ended up not going. Now they have a daughter, I wonder how they would feel if I did it to them? I'm having all the kids in the family as it's gonna be an informal day, but I don't know what to say if your having a big sit down affair etc... I just think if you have no kids you see it different to those who have kids... x
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CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
We are inviting kids, mainly because the majority of our guests will have to stay overnight (they live all over the world- we aren't having the wedding somewhere awkward...). But having organised a wedding, if in the future I have kids, I wouldn't be offended by kids not being invited, although I may have to not go if I couldn't get someone to look after them. You are entitled to your on view on kids, as long as its a consistent policy. The only exception to this, in my opinion, is under ones- they need their mothers.
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CommentAuthorDiana89
My nephew is the only child I can think of that will definately be attending, if it's the difference between people being able to attend or not they can bring kids, i'm having goodie bags for the little ones and a couple of games but no creche so it'll be the parents ressponsibility to take care of them and I will point this out to everyone, if they want to relax and enjoy the day they'll have to find a sitter
CommentAuthorammo
i am having around 20 kids at mine(i have 2 brothers and 4 sisters and h2b has 2 brothers)so i big family do.
CommentAuthorClaire87
We were going to have about 9 kids at ours all day but after a friends wedding a couple of months ago we have completely changed our minds!! She had lots of kids and it was a total nightmare, they just cried and ran wild all day. We have now decided to just have my fiances son who will be almost 4 and my cousin who will be almost 8, she is my flower girl. That is plenty!! Adults enjoy their day more if there arent kids runing wild everywhere! x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i am having only immediate family children ........see my disscussion Am i being unreasonable
Hmm, well I don't want children at my wedding, but I don't want it to be an 'issue'. Truth is, there's only one child in the family (OH's cousin's son) and (currently) only one among my friends. It seems a bit mean to ban children if there would only be 2 coming.
Having said that, bearing in mind my wedding is nearly 2 years away, there may well be other children by then. I don't think you can expect a breastfeeding mother to come without her child, so it may be a case of saying that only kids under 6 months can come..
CommentAuthorJay
gosh, were having about 20 kids at the wedding between babys and 8 ! i love kids and i think they make a wedding fun, i couldnt imagine not having them there x
CommentAuthorspooney24
I am having loads of kids at my wedding and im delighted, I am not worried whether they misbehave or cry as they are children at the end of the day. I am the youngest of 6 so have 12 nieces/nephews to start with who are all invited and also all my friends are bringing their kids too. I am also having my great niece and nephew (who are 3 and 6) as my flowergirl and page boy and I'm not worried if they only manage to walk in with me into church then sit down with their parents as I am not going to put undue pressure on them to perform their duties, I just want them to have fun too. My wedding is going to be a big family get together which is what I love and the youngest attending will be 1 years old and the oldest 87. x
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CommentAuthoralibum
lalabunni i think your reasoning is fine and i may take that stance with the exception of the flower girl related to best man i shall go an inform h2b of the plan.
CommentAuthorHunny Bunny
All the children in our family have been invited - I have 4 myself - and we have a large family. I'll only have mine and 1 other at the wedding breakfast, but for the evening we have welcomed all children. I have arranged a creche service for the evening with an entertainer and their own sweet buffet and cup cakes, they'll have their own music too. The room is a large room attached to the suite so they can pop in if they wish. I love children and I think they'll make our day - especially as we are having a videoagrapher - they can be pretty funny sometime (the kids that is). Each yto thier own I guess x
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CommentAuthorRoseyB
i'm a no children bride, its all a question of numbers, the reception venue holds max 75 for sit down do, and when added up there were 17 children...erm not a chance! that would mean not having friends there because a cousins kids who don't really know us that well can come 'because they're family'. my friend is loving the idea of spending a nice day without children to look after. I personally think its selfish of people to get offended and make a fuss when their kids aren't invited, i get it you love your kids, i love kids, but you're asking for a couple to pay for your childs place, and can you honestly say a child will appreciate the ceremony and the sit down part. I say the more the merrier at the evening do, with the dancing etc, they'll enjoy that. But i don't think there is a place for kids at something as romantic and important as a wedding ceremony xxx
CommentAuthorFaye
Im not having kids... i may sound harsh, but i hate screaming crying kids you can hear on wedding videos... Im just having h2bs daughter, and my 2 cousins as one is my flowergirl...! Plus I dont want hundreds of kids (lierally with my family) running havoc all night! Its all about preference xx
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CommentAuthorCeCe
If I had my way it would be a kid free wedding..and have them to the party. But, I don't ... lol. Hey ho.
CommentAuthorFaye
And as you can tell I dont have kids... so not used to kid stuff!
CommentAuthorCeCe
lol I have 2 step daughters Faye but still appreciate a kid free zone occasionally!
CommentAuthorFaye
Well when we have Stus daughter I find is stressful, as im going from no kids, to a full-time step mum to a hyperactive girl for a week, to non again lol xx
CommentAuthorCeCe
TIME is a great way to get used to situations hun - ake it from one whom knows..I was a FIRM no kids typov gal!
You been a step mum for long?
CommentAuthorFaye
nope, just a year, but dont see Hollie that often, as Stus been to Afghan, and now in Cyprus... and her mom isnt very nice, he can only usually have her, when she wants a weekend away, or is going somewhere...
CommentAuthorCeCe
...hmmmmmmmm. Difficult when the Ex is a problem.
Honestly, though ... time and experience with Hollie will help sweetheart..I was so impatient with the girls initially but things have changed a million %!
CommentAuthorjules
im with you on this one im only having children in our family which will range from 8months old to 15yrs old and there are only 7 of them and that is just fine for me and my h2b my evening guests want to be able to enjoy them selfs and appreciate the entertainment we have laid on for them and share our special day with us not be running ragged after there children its only for a few hours x
CommentAuthormym72
I've always thought of weddings as family things - including kids. But we're only having a small wedding (20 of us or so) - and the only kids that were invited were my cousins two sons (6yrs and 9yrs) and my bridesmaid's (and h2b's cousin's) little boy (4yrs). Both couples have now decided that they don't think they'll bring the kids - so looks like it's going to be an adult only wedding now.
CommentAuthorCeCe
I 'get' your children friendly wedding interpretation Mym..but, speaking as a woman who had a tough family life..family and kids etc are NOT something I am 100% comfy around.
I s'pose we all have our reasons why we don't want this n that..and tbvh I don't like alot of kids!!!!!
lol
CommentAuthorsbride
I got 11 children invited! lol. As a parent myself, just felt it was the right thing to do to invite the children. Whether the parents bring them or not is another issue, thats up to them, but I will be happy to have them there.
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CommentAuthorBecky
I'm having 3 nephews, 1 niece and my bests friends 2 children as they will be page boy and flower girl. They will be between 4 and 10 years old but thats all I'm having. I'm gonna set up a table at the reception with colouring books, pencils and a few small games to keep them quiet ;-) lol xx
CommentAuthorsbride
Im gonna do the same becky, think thats a really good idea.
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CommentAuthormym72
I didn't mean anything by it CeCe - it's just how I've been brought up. I'm an only child, but close to my first cousins and their kids so we've always had family 'get togethers' with them (4 cousins, spouses, 8 offspring, my aunty and my parents) - as this is the sum of my relatives in Leeds. Since the majority of cousin's offspring are going to be over 18 with partners of their own, we decided to limit the number of guests to just first cousins (except the younger ones), as otherwise the cost would just spiral.
Both cousins that have kids have great in laws who have offered to look after the kids for the weekend - so they've jumped at the chance (means they can relax and have a drink instead of watching the kids at the evening do lol).
CommentAuthorCeCe
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Mym - just to confirm I read NO criticism in your posts..I just wanted to clarify my point...we all have different perspectives anyhoooooo..s'no matter!
CommentAuthorClarey88
Me & h2b stll undecided.. I'm having my cousins little boy as page boy and if she has any more kids they will also be in the wedding party.. But I feel like we can't have my cousins kids without inviting his cousins kids.. Granted that would be a lot of children but they'd all be over 5/6 by then so shouldn't be too bad... Does anyone know do venues do reduced rates for children? xx
CommentAuthorMrsRobo2b
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My partners mum has 9 kids my dad has 4 my mum has 4. so the place will be full of them. but they are our family so we want them to be present. but everyone is different. we have 150 guests. approx 39 of them children. half of them under 10. xx
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
we are having children at ours. our daughter will be 8 then. As some of our really good friends have children we are inviting all - mainly to keep our daughter occupied. fingers crossed it shouldnt be too bad as the youngest child there will be about 5 so there may not be any 'knee skidding' across the floor.
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CommentAuthorbobbysgirl
it's up to you really. but make sure it is clear on the invites. our friend got married in December and she has 2 kids herself and another on the way, she also has a nephew so i automatically asumed children were invited. i bought a present, a new dress and even a new suit for Rob, the day before the wedding she messaged me on facebook of all places, saying that in case we didn't know she had decided she didn't want children there so i would have to find a sitter. my daughter was only 9 weeks old at the time so there was no way i was leaving her. i was so annoyed she didn't make it clear before i'd spent all that money on outfits and transport.
CommentAuthorbobbysgirl
we are having children at ours, our daughter, our niece and nephew and my two young cousins, along with a couple of friends kids, all the children will be under 6. so we are having the reception at a hotel so the kids can go for a nap if they get tired.
