Hey everyone i just want to see what all you other brides think about this situation. We got engaged in 2013 and decided to set the date for 2015 after thinking that would be enough time to save. We have paid the deposit on the venue, photographer and even bought my dress. Now my h2b had a freak out, went to see his family.. when he came home he asked if we could get married in 2017. He says he is way to stressed out about getting married next year and isnt happy. Now i dont mind changing the date because i know we both love eachother, but im now worrying about if he wants to get married. ive tried talking about it and he will talk about the wedding but im also worried about losing our deposits etc as the photographer was doing a deal when we paid. Has anyone else had this situation. Many thanks
CommentAuthorCatherineR
I think you have got to actually talk to him about his fears and the reasons why he wants to put it off. It sounds like there is something underlying going on and could be sorted hopefully. Maybe compromise and do 2016 if you have booked/bought a lot of stuff? x
Married my wife on 15.08.15
Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Oh and totally random but just seen you are from Thorncombe! I'm from Lyme Regis! :D x
Married my wife on 15.08.15
Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorZotastic
we did have a convo and he said he wants to move out and get a better place somewhere we can see a future in and wants to change jobs to get more money so i see why but i still think its odd!! I went to school there :D x
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Oh cool, I went to Woodroffe too! Yeah, I can understand his reasons - kinda sucks that you can't get married next year :/ weddings don't have to be expensive though! x
Married my wife on 15.08.15
Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
I know I was so excited thinking this time next year we would be married :( Its trying to save money you just dont have atm. Haha woodroffe, waste of my life lol x
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Haha, yep! Hated most of it lol. Awww, bless you.. Well could you talk to him about it? Maybe do a small low key thing next year and then do a great big celebration/renewal in 2017?! x
Married my wife on 15.08.15
Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorZotastic
Hes got his mind set on changing jobs and moving before we get married now i think. He says he wants to enjoy our engagement not be stressed out by saving. I think its mainly money worries as if there wasnt an overdraft we wouldnt live. And i understand that but still worries me. Id love to do that but i think 2017 it is now x
CommentAuthorCamilaL
I think you're right. It's important that both of you are happy about getting married and comfortable with that. Go and try to change the dates with the venues/suppliers, and I hope you don't have to lose your deposits :D
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Fair enough but don't forget that you are part of the decision too and it's not just what he wants! x
Married my wife on 15.08.15
Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
Met my dream man on Halloween 2012
Proposed to me in Spain 22nd July 2014
Getting married 12 september 2015
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CommentAuthorZotastic
yeah i know, i should be happy at least he didnt say there wouldnt be a wedding! i think its cos i had my mind set next year was our year but im still excited, means more chance to look at wedding bits :D x
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I think you both need to be happy but you both have to be part of the decision and compromise is key...what about going 2016 which is in between both those dates? I'm not sure what happens when u change dates as you'll need to look at your terms and conditions as you may lose deposits as generally they only secure your original date...some are good to move them but you'd have to pay the inflated cost as wedding bits generally go up 10% every year x
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CommentAuthorFlossie
As said above, you both need to be happy and comfortable with the arrangements, but any doubts he is having he should be discussing with you, not just his family. You may or may not lose deposits - the first thing I would do is contact the suppliers/read your terms and conditions and see where you would stand. If you would lose your deposits then maybe he would consider sticking with the original date? No one wants to throw money away xx
