my H2B has told me he is looking to have a very traditional wedding where as i have been under the impression we were having a layed back affair now he has said he dose not want me to wear my purple dress or my new rocks (which i was so excited about!!) he wants me to wear a traditional white dress and shoes but i can have whatever i want at the reception
my question is
can you have 2 different themes on ur wedding day?? traditional wedding and an alternative reception or is that just silly im really confused now what i want to do >.< xxx
CommentAuthor'ca'ca'ca
why not make your colour theme purple and white throughout the day and then your purple dress wouldnt clash at the reception? Good luck <3 x
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Is there a reason behind him wanting you to wear a white dress? Why does he want you to be dressed in something that isn't you? I think you both need to sit and listen to what each other wants and why it is important to you and then find a compromise. That day is about you guys coming together as one in a relationship so the wedding should reflect you guys rather then just doing things because other people do them.
Work out what you both want and go from there. You have to both be happy with the day or you will look back and regret it.
CommentAuthormitch2509
yeah well said jo
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Damn noticed a typo should have been The day not that day. Sounded so rude! Sorry.
i told him i found a dress i love and i told him i was thinking of gettin it he said he didnt care tbh he is not interested in the reception what so ever hes changed his mind so many times about what he wants im so confused that ive stopped planning in the mean time till he know what he wants
everytime i come up with an idea i tell him n the only reply i get is "if yeh want" >.< then he gose and tells me this out of the blue!?!
i dont think its even his opinion i think hes thinking of his mums opinion she WILL NEVER approve of our wedding theme thats y we havent even told her yet she will want to pay 4 the wedding which will mean she will want to help choose everythin which is exactly what we both dont want to happen
my colours r purple n orange (due to the pumpkins) so i will be using those colours at the wedding for my flowers ect hes even now debating our choice of venues i try suggesting places n he just says his annoying catchphrase >.<
CommentAuthorClairebear67
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It does sound to me like these are words coming from his mother instead of it coming out of your h2bs mouth. Jo is right you really do need to sit down and talk this over, it is both your days so you are both entitled to an opinion. Both my ex husbands parents and mine organised everything when I got married many years ago in 1990 : ) was a bad idea, didnt have a say in anything at all, so this time round its our wedding and we are doing things our way. That is how it should be. He has got to listen to you and you both compromise, if his mother is going to help pay just make it clear how you want things. She may not be happy about that, but she has to remember it is yours and her sons day and she has to honour it no matter whether she is paying for all or part of the wedding. Sounds mean but its true. : ) xx
CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
how bizzare! i dont think i would be all too pleased with h2b telling me what i can and cant wear on my wedding day! my h2b doesnt like veils, but it wont stop me from wearing one! tlk to him hun, like the girls said it doesnt sound like something hes said but something thats been said to him! i asked my h2b what he thinks of dresses, but he wouldnt dream of telling me what colour etc i shouldnt wear! surely he would want you to be happy in what you are wearing on your wedding day? it is lovely that his mother wants to pay for things, but is it worth it at the expense of you beeing unhappy? to answer your first question though, yea i dont see any problem with a dress change for the recption, but only if it is what you are happy with xx
CommentAuthorjanetx71
ehh hello its your day to and yet all you say here is "what HE wants" its not all about him if you want a purple dress then you bloomin well ware a purple dress and im sure you will look stunning in it this is not his mothers day either hun he needs to stand up for himself and you to his mother i think you both need a long chat to be honest hun i hope it all works out for you both but its not ok for him to be telling you what you can and cannot wear xx ps . dont give up the purple dress xx
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
We are having two different venues (one for the ceremony and one for the wedding breakfast and reception). Our ceremony venue looks like something out of OK magazine and our wedding breakfast is at the local cricket ground in their marquee. We wanted to have a bouncy castle, bucking bronco and sumo suits, I suppose my evening theme is tacky but it's exactly what we wanted.
