hi. Im going to start by saying that i and my partner are not rich and our budget is £6000. for the ceremony and evening party we have upto 100. but due the the funds just not being there we are only having 50 guests for the meal. close family and friends. but there is a lot of friend and family (not overly close) which still want to come. Is it too checky to invite people to the ceremony and the evening party both local to a town centre? if it was you would you come to both?
CommentAuthorSarahB92
We too are on a budget and have had to be a bit ruthless in who we invite etc, which is difficult, as in not being able to invite everyone from our works etc, but it is your day, and when limited by budget it is important that the people YOU want to be there are there, rather than hangers on LOL x
CommentAuthorSherah
Everyone that matters will be there, invite Who you want there. I'd go where to my family/friends wedding x
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
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If I was you I would invite the 50 guests all day, then in the evening invites just pop a note at the bottom saying where and what time the actual ceremony is and that they are welcome to attend if they wish to. That way it is up to them if they want to attend both or not and it is also obvious that they arent invited to the wedding breakfast xxx
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
Lini-jo took the words out of my mouth. I wouldnt invite them to the ceremony because then you have the awkward bit saying....sorry you cant have a meal, see you tonight.
I agree with Linzi-jo - just pop a note in the evening invites. Personally if I was invited to the ceremony I'd expect to go to the reception as well and would feel insulted if I wasn't.
CommentAuthorLofty
We did exactly what Linzi-Jo suggested too. We sent evening invites and then said something like We'd also love it if you could join us for the ceremony at ....time... at ....church.... About half of the evening guests are now coming to the church and about half aren't. Some of those are family (dad's cousins) and they are fine about it. We then set up a wedding website and people could rsvp for all day, evening only, ceremony only or ceremony and evening.
Very happy to say I'm now Mrs Keates and loving it!
CommentAuthorBobsi
We are only have about 40 all day guests the rest are being invited to the night but not the ceremony so they don't get the wrong idea. xxx
Got together June 11th 2006
Getting married June 11th 2014
8 years to the day and I'll be Mrs T.
CommentAuthormtwi
I went to one recently and they did same - church wedding then a few hours later everyone met for reception while family went for dinner. I would help to have on your website a few choices of places for people to go and eat / drink in the meantime (even if they live nearby) that way everyone could get together or if don't know each other it still feels like you are part of a bigger party when lots of people are in the same place for the same reason (restaurant / pub) they will all naturally leave at same time to get to the reception and you are doing something the whole day. If that makes sense and wasn't a long babble!
I would LOVE to do the same but mine is all in one place and I can't kick people out into the adjacent bar while we eat only for them to come back again :(
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
I do understand it can be awkward to invite people to the ceremony and evening only. Maybe send out evening invitations and then say to people when you speak to them that if they want to come to the ceremony earlier they are welcome to. I'm sure people will understand that the budget is limited xx
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