Where I used to work a few years ago there was a big group of us who became really good friends, unfortunately the company went under and we all went our seperate ways. Some of us stayed really close and others seemed to vanish.
I've just seen on FB that one of the girls has started an event for her hen do - 25th June 2011 at 12pm in Newcastle - I get married 25th June 2011 at 12pm!!! The group of friends are only invited to my night do but still can't believe she has done this as she knows full well I'm getting married that day!?
So although all the group of friends have already said they are coming to my wedding it will be interesting to see whether anyone backs out and goes to her hen do. She is one that no1 has seen for years now and I have stayed close with most of them so I'm sure they'll stick with me but it has really annoyed me! Gggrrrrr! lol
CommentAuthormegs
that is very sneaky!!did you get on well before?i would be quite miffed if somebody i knew did that..maybe the ladies invited to both will either do the sensible thing and attend both staying sober at the hen to be able to make it to your reception...maybe just send your group of friends an email saying you just wanted to confirm if they are coming to the reception or not because your venue has asked for definite numbers etc? hope your ok though xx
CommentAuthorchezrudda
do u think she is annoyed that u have not invited her to ur wedding??
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CommentAuthorAmy112
Yes we got on well, she was very well liked by everyone (although she was one of those annoying girls who always smiles, never pi££ed off, never swears of bitches) lol.
They wouldn't have time to go to both as my wedding is in huddersfield and her hen do in newcastle. I think I'll just wait and see as I would like to know that my friends stand by me. But would be gutted if they didn't turn up! x
CommentAuthorAmy112
Chez she was invited! She hasn't responded yet though and that's probably why! x
Its times like this you find out who your true friends are, so wait and see where their loyalties lie!! Thats really cruel to do that though, sounds to me like shes jealous of you!! x
CommentAuthorchezrudda
it wld have been nice for to at least tell ya she wasnt coming and this is what she was planning!!!
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CommentAuthormegs
i agree with the ladies, you will see who your true friends are by who turns up..even though it is upsetting try not to let it get to you, remember the most important people attending your wedding will be you and your h2b...anybody else is a plus :))))
CommentAuthorRoseyB
If she was invited to your wedding I'd ask her outright what is going on? Be upfront, ask her if she realizes the hen do is the same night as your wedding. She may not? Don't play the waiting game, just ask her xx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
my life what a strange thing to do!
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CommentAuthorKerrylou
That does sound like a really bizarre thing to do. If you've invited her to your wedding then just ask her what her intentions are.
Every couple is entitled to get married on the day of their choosing without having to consult anyone else, same goes for Hen/Stag nights. No-one has the right to ask a couple to change their date for anything surrounding their wedding. It doesn't matter if said couple has known about your wedding for a year, 5 years or 10 years, the point remains the same. Said couple are also perfectly entitled to invite same people as you and it is down to guest's discretion as to which event they choose to attend. If a guest chooses to attend the other couple's events then that is entirely their perogative. (that's my point of neutrality)
If you do decide to talk to her then try to be as calm as possible - it may not be a question of loyalties, it may be that it is the only weekend she can have for her hen night but unless you ask her you won't know. You can't control what other people do but you CAN be the better person by simply accepting what's happening and get on with enjoying your wedding, those people out of the group that think anything of you will still be at your wedding - call it sorting the wheat from the chaffe.
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CommentAuthorshellay
that is awful, yes it will be interesting to see if they turn up for the wedding or go on the hen night, if the other girls have a heart they will say to the other girl that they cannot attend and can she change the date of the hen night, but good luck and see what happens, i hope they are loyal to you :) x
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CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
wellll what a b****!! sorry im not going to sit here and say she has every right to have to have hers on the same day as yours, because although yes she does have that right, she is supposed to be a friend, and if you have mutual friends and have arranged your wedding BEFORE her hen party then she should do the decent thing and rearrange. not only for you but it puts your friends in a very uncomfortable situation!!!
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
amy i will send her a little message saying to u realise etc etc
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
actually put on the event wall... sorry hun cant make it as am gettin married that day!! do it amy do it
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CommentAuthorKatya
Just talk to her tell her how your feeling see what she says. It might be completely innocent. Much as your wedding is planned have your invitations actually gone out or just your std?
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CommentAuthormcquire81
What an awful thing to do, will be interesting to see which of your friends come to your wedding. If you invited everyone first then they should come to yours rather than hers. You would think she wouldnt want to risk it on the day of wedding incase no one came!
CommentAuthorsuzky123
that is sneaky but could you speak to her and ask her to move it.
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
You could message saying you wont be able to make it as your getting married that day, and say how much you would love to come and could she attend your wedding and do hen night another night so you can both do both..... put it to her like "2 reasons to party" lol
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I would say that if I had a friends hen do or anothers wedding to go to I would pick wedding every time.
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Oh also I would mention this to her in a polite way such as ' I notice you have sorted your hen night out but you may have overlooked half the people invited are going to be at my wedding and I would hate for no one to show up on your big night out. You may want to move the date to the weekend before or after if you want these people to be there.'
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
i agree its a bit sneaky, i see alot of posts on here about the same kind of things. What is a matter with people!!!
CommentAuthorFreyFreyMrs.Carney2B
That's awful! I'd just wait n see what happens... And get RSVPs from the other girls to make sure they're still coming x
CommentAuthornini
Maybe it was the only night that her mum/auntie/sisters could make? Just to play devils advocate (please don't shoot me down) Everything to do with your wedding is extremely important to you and yor fiance. Everything to do with your friends wedding is extremely important to her and her fiance. Sometimes you need to put your own needs first, so she may have booked the hen do knowing that many of her friends couldn't make it as they would be attending your wedding, but if it's the only day other people can come maybe she is prepared to make that sacrifice.
If I were a friend that was invited to both events I would choose wedding over hen do if that's any consolation.
Just take a deep breath and allow it to wash over you, as other people have said you will know who your real friends are by who returns your RSVP with 'Will be Attending'
CommentAuthorJill
I'm with Rosey - ask her outright. What a strange thing to do! x
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CommentAuthorGemmagem1987
Why would someone do that?? sounds like the girl has issues lol, deffo ask her outright hun xx
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CommentAuthorljeh92
sounds like a bit of a cow to be honest! Hope your friends stay loyal and go to your wedding instead of her hen party which she can easily change! (like she could have easily not arranged it for your wedding day!!)
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CommentAuthorTara p mrs gibson2b
im sure your day will be perfect either way ! but yes very sneaky xx
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CommentAuthorRags
grrrr girls....grrrrrr.....
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CommentAuthorAmy112
Just catching up on your comments this morning after not been on here for a day or two.
It's interesting to see the different points of view people take! Thanks for the advice (mainly from the supporters as I'm the type of person who doesn't like to hear the 'mutual' and 'fair' comments haha)
Having thought about it a bit I think I'll just wait a while and see what happens. Our mutual friends have already rsvp'd to my wedding and they are all coming. If they change their minds and wish to go to the hen do, fair enough (although secretly I will be very annoyed) but then I'll get over and get on with enjoying my day!
xx
CommentAuthorUnknown
if people have already rsvp'd to your wedding i wouldnt worry about it. i am sure they will turn up to yours! if not you know how your real friends are.
I would be very annoyed aswell but i think i would have a word with her and see what she has to say xx
CommentAuthorVicky
Agree with MrsBarker to be if people have rsvp's then you should have anything to worry about, maybe she didnt want any of the girls to come on her hen do and thought that this was the best way so they didnt get offended or somthing - I still find it werid
