There is a very clear message ringing through the whole thread and I am going to have to tell her to get knotted as she is a jealous *itch.

Though the thing is I have never stood up against them before treated the insults and comments like water off a ducks back. The moment I started speaking up and standing against them there were comments like I have changed and I am not the same person and kinda alienated from the group. However I have seen 'jill' speak to my mates gf Ali however didn't hear the conversation so I can't comment if it was small talk or an actual proper conversation, but they also live about 250 miles away and we see them once every bluemoon, I've not seen her for 1-2.5 years.

Though we are now hanging with ppl who are more acceptive of me and us. I missed one of the cliques birthdays for a completely different group of friends for their head wetting and I had a blast. I am getting in touch with Claires groups of friends but trying not to be a friend stealer, as well as my ex girlfriends husband (people find it weird we were invited to their wedding) as my Fiancée and his wife (my ex) are pretty good friends and we've had dinner with them a couple of times and both times woke up with a really fuzzy head!

Is it wrong I am having better times without them and with the other sets of friends both on my own and with Claire? we come back happy rather then at each others throats, I would rather go out to the pub and watch Claire's friends band with his wife and his old school mates then going to see an epic film at the cinema with the clique?

If they treat you like dirt, get rid of them, simple as that.

I have a friend I've known since we were 7 and we were very close for years. We were close as early teens but as we got older, she stopped making time for me and I eventually gave up on her. Our friendship is now purely obligation and she only contacts me when she has something to rub my nose in (either complaining so I'll tell her that her life is awesome or to just tell me). She hasn't even told me if she could come to my hen party so I rescinded her invite.
Whereas I had one mate I met at 11 and we fought a lot. But I couldn't imagine my life without her now and she's one of my bridesmaids.

My point is, they may have been a great friend when you were younger, but people change as they get older and holding onto nostalgia isn't always a good thing.

Also, Pete, pub and a local band sounds much more fun that uncomfortably long movie anyday! lol

Wow some people, this woman sounds like she jealous of your wife to be, why else be like this?

I had this problem with my ex, the best mans wife hated me, it got so bad we once all bumped into each other in town and she actually stood with her back to me, so i went into the nearest shop and left them chatting, it got so bad she decided to book her wedding the week before ours so best man couldnt even come to wedding as hed be on honeymoon?? He was the bigger wimp for allowing her to do that just because she hated me? he missed his best mates wedding and we didnt get a invite to theirs.

Dont invite them and tell them why when they kicked off!. x