Hi ladies,

Help needed...

I have 5 bridesmaids; all different shapes and sizes, different heights, different skin tones, living in very different places (including abroad), so it's difficult to get them all together.

Our colour scheme is black and white. I was thinking of suggesting that as the Christmas season is coming up, they should look for a black dress that they would like to wear at the wedding (I don't mind them being different, but would prefer them to be matt and to the floor). I'd give them a budget; if they can get the dress and the shoes out of the budget then they won't need to put any money towards it. If the budget only covers the dress then they'll need to get the shoes. They could also wait for the post-Christmas sales and pick up a bargain before the VAT goes to 20%.

Does that sound fair? We're thinking about £70 for each maid - is that enough?

Any advice gladly received :o)

Sounds fair enough hun - Ive told mine the shoes they pick and buy themselves as they have to stand on the all day and the dresses as long as we all like it then we'll go for it xxx

Thanks Sarah and Raekim.

Linzi, what on earth is an ID on Style Shake? This one has passed me by lol! x

It's a great idea. At least they all get to wear something that they're happy with. With the amount of black dresses in the shops in the next few months (and the sales) they'll be spoilt for choice. Many of them may also already have suitable shoes. x

I'll have a go... thanks ladies xxx

Sounds very reasonable. I bought the dresses for mine but left shoes up to them but this is a good alternative, means everyone's happy with what they get too x

Thanks. I didn't want to sound like I didn't care what they bought (as obviously I do!) but I want them to be happy in what they are wearing and I can see it getting very stressful catering for 5 ladies :o)

I thought that too. I've been a bridesmaid twice and NEVER worn either outfit again!

Dove, wie geht's? Alles in ordnung? (I think my spelling is right!) :o)

Sehr gut ist schön! Ich bin gut, danke. Wo wohnst du heute? I am being very impersonal by the way! Not 'polite German' at all!

Magst du es? :o)

Ich wohne in Barking, in sudost england in der nähe von London.

'Magst' is like. Do you like it? How are you getting on with the food?

My German radar went up - I approve of all this talk!

I've been to Germany twice; once when I was 13 and again at 14. I quite liked it. They were so advanced on things like recycling, renewable energy and it was SO clean and green everywhere I went.

Its easier to recycle in the UK now. They make it too awkward.

Danke, eebeegeebee. Ich kann ein bischen Deutsch sprechen! Aber, ich habe zu viele vergessen ??? That's really bad, sorry :o(