Hey everyone, hope you can help, sadly my brother suddenly out of the blue passed away, nearly 2 and a half years ago and if im honest I wouldn't be having the wedding im having if it wasn't for him, he left some money for us all and my parents are using a part of that to pay for our wedding.. I really want to somehow do something that represents my bro or do something for his absence e.t.c . I don't want to do the photo at table thing that I know some people do , its still too raw for that and I feel it could really upset my grandma and parents so that's a no no.. At my daughters Glistening ( sprinkled her with glitter rather than water at a christening) we let off 50 helium balloons which all the guests had written a wish on to someone in the sky or a message.et.c . I don't want to do the same thing again as a lot of same people e.t.c but struggling to think of other ways, I know I have ages to think of something but I want to get it right and make sure I do do something and not get carried away with all the rest of the planning that it means I don't do something.. anyway, hope I making sense.. feeling sad tonight , I miss him so much and feel sad he wont be with us :( it will be his 3rd year anniversary of him passing just a couple of weeks before the wedding and I don't want to do anything that may upset my parents... any ideas gratefully received x
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
You can get personalised candles which you can light in honour of him.
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Good idea GF....... That's lovely x
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
The candles are a lovely idea.
To Remember my grandmother who passed away 10 days after we got engaged I just had something really subtle. She was very religious so I carried her rosary beads with me down the aisle at the church then gave them to my dad for safe keeping for the rest of the day.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I like the candles idea.
It's not a "grand" gesture and will probably go unnoticed by a lot of people, but you can get brooches added to your bouquet with a picture of a loved one in it, so you are carrying them with you. A bit like this..
I agree the candle idea is lovely, I'm having one at my wedding for my bith sets of grandparents and my uncle and auntie who are no longer with us.
I am also having a yellow flower attached to the back of mine and oh chair for my nan. She's the only grandparent I really knew(one died before I was born and the other 2 died within 5 months if each other when I was little) and even though it dose t go with our colour scheme it's my way of including her x
CommentAuthorEmmaG
Hi ladies, thanx.. the more I think about it, the more I think a subtle idea would be good actually, likely not to upset anyone then :) I will be toasting to him when we do speeches and yes I like the candle idea, it something we do a lot, I was thinking of doing it at ceremony but we getting married in woods, so thought if its windy it wouldn't work but I think if on day its not I will do that or light it in the marquee or something, thanx and I like the photo idea on bouquet , thanx :) xx
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CommentAuthorsoontobemrspage
I got a bouquet charm with my Nan's picture. I'm also putting small pictures up on a little table with a short poem that I found online with some candies.
CommentAuthorEmmaG
:) nice .. thanx
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CommentAuthorCoralLeigh2016
I've got flower bouquet charms to put pictures in of my loved ones who are sadly no longer with us :) means I can keep them close by me all day xxx
CommentAuthorTeresa
You could have sparklers at night, do a toast to him when you planned mention the sparklers and then have sparklers later on in the evening,it will be a way of bringing light in to a darkened time for you all xx
CommentAuthorRachaelB76
you could also let off chinese lanterns when it turns dark, you can get some lovely photos of doing this so can have it to look back in your wedding photos aswell x
CommentAuthorFlossie
I would just say be careful with things like chinese lanterns as they are very dangerous.. and some venues won't even let you let them off on their grounds x
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CommentAuthorEmily17
We're doing a candle that will be lit at the church and venue.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i walked in to a piece of music that my great grandfather wrote and that was last played at my grandmother funeral ( it was her father ) ... to everyone one else it was just lovely music but to my family it meant everything , and no one knew that i had decided on having it
I saw a picture recently on F4c3b00k of a friend's daughter's wedding. They'd written a poem, put it in a frame and lit a candle for each person that the poem was dedicated to (in this case Grandad, Nan and big Brother). They'd also decorated the table with petals and little beads. I thought it was a lovely idea.
CommentAuthorEmmaG
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thanx for the ideas, I think the idea of photo on bouquet and maybe a table with a poem for him and my Mother -in-law would be great.. and subtle , Thanks everyone, much appreciated xx
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