Hi everyone im in abit of a dilemar my mum wants to do everything traditional but she is'nt paying for my wedding, i am getting so stressed out as she is paying for my cake and my honeymoon but i dont get to have an input in any of these things.
I have chose the bridemaid and flowergirl dresses and have shown my partner for his input but my mum says that his not allowed to see any of the dresses i thought that was just mine he werent allowed to see.
And since when was it the mother of the brides day aswell as mine?
i feel like just going away and getting married im so depressed and don't know what to do as im always upsetting people when i dont involve them
Can't wait to get married in 2months
CommentAuthortwirler
i havent heard that they cant see them before hun its up to you its YOUR day xx
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CommentAuthormummyto2
i thou it was only the brides dress there not allowed to see sending you big ((((((hugs))))) you sound like you need it
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CommentAuthorsarahwasabride
i havent heard of that one before i just thought they cudnt see YOUR dress xxx
CommentAuthorLittle Miss Bump
i got upset coz i was trying to please every and i got to the point of going no this is mine and h2b wedding, input welcome, controlling isnt, no doubt u will reach this point to. I've described the bridesmaid dresses to h2b, but he wont see them, purely coz my aunt is making them and i cant see him having an opportuntity to see them. Dont let it get u down, friends and family are important, but if you have the wedding that pleases them at ur expense u will regret i, my mum did that and she wishes she didnt
Hey Hun, It is not the mother of the brides day its yours and H2bs day. You are never going to keep everyone happy so dont even try as long as you and H2B are happy thats all that matters. I have never heard that H2B cant see bridesmaids dresses or flowergirl dress. My H2B has seen both. x x x
CommentAuthorxxx Tania xxx
Thank's girls your comments are lovely and taken in xxx
Can't wait to get married in 2months
CommentAuthormrsCoopertobe
i too have been told he's not allowed ?? have shown him the dress when it came but not on :@)
CommentAuthorGoff
Nahhhh.... its ok!
Mark has seen and had input on all our BM's dresses!
UKB Mad Scientist
Ride it like ya stole it.....
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CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
my mum got in a proper stress when i showed by h2b my tiara headband thingy but i don't really mind my dress is the only thing i mind him seeing. and i would quite like his input on the bridesmaid dresses, it is his wedding as well after all x
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
Has your mother watched "dont tell the bride" ? where the man sees and choses everything!? The days always turn out lovely. I think gone are the days when the groom has not a lot of ay in the day, it is YOUR DAY do as you like. Like you said, she isnt paying for it!
CommentAuthorMand
Your day and your paying for it, so why does she get a say in any of it, n i have never heard of the groom not been able to see the dresses, not yours of course but he can see everything else surely.
CommentAuthorangelan1986
i wouldnt even mind h2b seeing my dress 2bh, although is it meant to be unlucky or something??? but he will have a say in the bridesmaid dresses, only way i get a say in his suit lol xx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
its only yours not the bridesmaids
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CommentAuthorJane
When I got married first time around my mum paid for everything and I basically had no say in anything. She chose the lot. This time I am having the wedding day I WANT, not what someone else wants. You said you had no input in the cake or the honeymoon.... this needs to stop! You are better off paying for them yourself and getting what you want rather than end up with a cake that is not to your taste and a honeymoon in Blackpool (no disrespect meant to Blackpool!) As for the BM dresses, my H2B has seen ours, as long as he doesnt see mine I dont mind, in fact it was nice to have his input and opinion! x
CommentAuthorxxx Tania xxx
Thanks jane im trying its just so hard when people let you know that theyre happy with your decisions if ou get me x
Can't wait to get married in 2months
CommentAuthorWren
I've had a few problems aswell with trying to make everyone happy. And now I've come to the conclusion, Stuff them all. It isnt their day, its mine and Leighs day. Leigh has seen the girls dresses, my tiara and my shoes. He hasnt seen my dress though. I've seen his suit. I dont see why you dont get a say in your honeymoon. Thats your first holiday with your new husband. Even if she is paying for it. If she wants to do things traditional, then she should be paying (not deciding) your wedding and it should be you H2B's family paying for the honeymoon. Dont let her rule your wedding as it wont feel like your day. it would feel like her day. Be strong and have a word with her about it.
CommentAuthorRags
I had my hair played with the other day, and H2b saw that, his mums friend said we had to make sure I didn't wear it that way for the wedding??? I was like WTF it's the dress he can't see.
I really don't think it matters so long as your happy.
I'm now a married woman
I have a gorgeous husband
Whats to do now
Theres no more wedding planning to do
CommentAuthormrs_parkhouse2b
my other half is a bit funny on it but i've said i want his input so he has no choice lol. as for ur mother omg give her a bottle of wine and lock her in a room on her own until the wedding make a hole in the door so u can give her food and drink on a regular basis lol (sorry thats what i'd do if it was my mum) it's ur day not hers.
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i havent heard that 1 b4 sorry hun thought it was just the brides dress x
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorNuttytart
I wanted my h2b to be involved so he helped me choose my bm's dresses.
CommentAuthornickers
what about h2b seein ur shoes?xx
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
dont think that matters either nic xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorSteffie
me and h2b went to see my auntie and uncle at the weekend and she was asking questions about wedding plans so i told her what we'd decided on, i.e colour scheme and who's in charge of what and she went nuts at me for me showing ant pics of the bridesmaids dresses but really i was like oh ffs as long as he doesnt see my dress everything is ok!!! but then i said what the COLOUR of my dress is nothing else and she told me off for saying that in front of Anthony too so I just said that I'm not telling her anything else anymore!!!
it's my b2b's wedding too and he will be involved as much as he can be/wants to be in everything apart from MY DRESS!!!
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i agree steffie! my h2b knows everything except my stuff xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorMrs Steer
i have has h2b's input on bms and flowergirls dresses, why shouldnt he?!
And i agree with Jane, it is ur wedding u need to think about wat u want if ur mum wont let u have input tell her ull pay for those urself xx
Is now happily married to my gorgeous man
11-06-11
CommentAuthorSteffie
h2b's are going to need to know what colour ur bms are gonna be cuz their cravats etc will be that colour so sod it i say just keep the tradition of them not seeing or knowing about ur dress but sod the rest of these pointless myth-ical traditions xxxx
