Wedding Forum - Calling it off!!...

Im callin of the wedding as we cant afford it and I dont want to start married life in debt!! I hate how im feeling right now everything just feels like its going wrong. Things seem to be going from bad to worse can bearly afford to live let alone get married. Its hard bring up a 3 year old one your own most of the time and pay the rent and by all the dinners. Sorry ladies just need a rant! xx

Im not sure im going to talk to dan when he gets in but we have booked the church but i seem to be doin everything alone and i can take anymore xx

i made my invites thinking it would save money but ended up costing more, partner doesnt seemto understand that i hate the way im left alone planning xx

I have done loads of DIY and saved a LOT of money. Basically I work it out that the budget we had, I was able to in half by DIY-ing it. it CAN be done. First thing we did was only have our nearest and dearest on the guest list.

Men really don't get why we plan so far in advance. I had 22 months when I started planning and h2b used to yawn at my suggestion be ause we had ages to go. He then started to moan about the fact he didn't get a say in my decisions. I had a meltdown with his lack of concern and once I showed him the list of things I had to do he realised how much I had on my plate. He's helped out more but now he's in Afghanistan I still get a bit panicky about how much there is to do. I still haven't tried on a single dress and I don't know how I'm going to get my widespread bms together. It is panicky and you want to tear your hair out but remember you've got lots of women in the same boat here to help you in whatever way we can. Even if you just need a rant. x

The problem is that for most men, the wedding doesn't occur to them until about the three months before. As brides to bel we start planning the moment that ring goes on our hand and we say yes but for them a year or more is something that isn't even on the radar.

I spent the first year or so planning almost entirely by myself with some help from bridesmaids etc, and at first it ALWAYS ends up that with the overwhelming load of information from bride magazines and websites on stuff you end up thinking you need you end up over complicating it. At one point I was convinced my wedding would suck completely if I didn't have all these silly things I've never seen before... Bring it back down to what you both want and build from there.

We were supposed to married a year ago tomorrow but postponed because we realised we needed more time to save and the wedding we were planning wasn't the wedding we actually wanted. We started from scratch and it's been worth it - there were times when I felt like I was completely on my own and we had arguments but eventually he did get excited and now we're five days away and our wedding is set. Don't lose heart. Sit down together, tell him that you need him to tell you what kind of things he couldn't live without on the day and you do the same, make a list and a reasonable budget and start there. We realised we didn't want a huge formal affair with everyone we ever knew in attendance, so we're having an intimate wedding with just 40 guests, just having a little sit down meal and some music and drinks after. All in all we've spent less than £2k. You'll find as you go some things may go slightly over but with some wonderful help from friends family and the lovely ladies on here, I have managed to find some absolute steals so i think you'll find some bargains too. Once all the important things are paid off, if there's any extra cash you can start on the little extras you'd like to have.

it's stressful but it's so worth it, i can honestly say I've never felt more excited, or close to my h2b.