where to start?? my brother has been with his gf for 4 years now. they have 2 kids together. he lives with my mum and dad but sees her and the kids everyday. she was going to be my moh until about 18-24 months ago, she would always slag my brother off on facebook and id had enough and told her what i thought. weve not really been speaking since. at my brother and h2bs work do at xmas i told my bro that if she makes him happy then ill let by gones be by gones and start afresh. then it all kicked off at the party between him and her so i was like a go between she even said on the way home as he didnt get in taxi8 that she wished something bad would happen to him. well after that night things were fine, he proposed xmas day. then a few months back shed found out that me and h2b had lent him £200 as hed been gambling and she wanted a new pram (this was back in august) so she blamed me for his gambling etc etc. since this ive told them that she is not invited to the wedding and if she came id kill her, thats how bad things have got. now for the best bit.... apparently im black mailing him into coming to the wedding, if he doesnt come my mum n dad will kick him out(which im not) and.... she has told him if he goes he will never see his kids again. i feel for my brother i really do but he still cant see how much of a twisted psycho b!tch she is. i will understand if he picked his kids but shes doing it to get at me as she blames me for every problem thats happened even though ive done nothing wrong. if he doesnt come it will hurt but at end of the day his kids come first but shes such a psycho and jealous is an understatement that she will stop at nothing to try and ruin my day. i dont know what to do for my brothers sake srry just needed to vent
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CommentAuthorLauraM9144
aww i feel for you too its horrible when families fight! i have a similar situation with my brother fortunatel he does not have kids though so he cant be blackmailed but his girlfriend doesnt like the family apparently we are not good enough for her! rich considering what she is but hey ho! i invited him only to my ceremony as i dont want anyone there who is not totally supportive of what its about, i have told him if he wants he can bring her to the evening ceremony as long as she undertands my family will all be there! she has hit the roof saying she should be invited to the ceremony and that i am splitting her and my brother up blah blah blah and if my brother goes then its over ,i have spoken to him told him how i feel and that i truly want him at the ceremony and the reasons why i dont want her and he gets it so shes not coming to either!! she will moan and cause issues for a while but it wont last forever and as for saying he wont be able to see his kids i wouldnt worry she cant stop him and social services would love to hear the reason why she wont let him!! ridiculous really hope you and your brother can work something out xx
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CommentAuthorJoanna
Omg this is terrible :( I hope this can all work out for you all
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CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
OMG that's horrible :( she is a pycho! He sounds like my brother who is there for the kid as knows if he leave she's he'll lose them. Ur brothers proberly the same. If I was u I'd tell him to get help through courts as I hate it when it's the kids being used as a toy. N hope ur wedding goes well n its up to ur bro to stand up to her he's probley said he has to go just to get her off his back x
CommentAuthorFinally Susan B
Feel so sorry for you - and your poor brother :( I absolutely hate it when people use their children as pawns and tools to get their own way. It will be a huge risk of fighting for rights to see his children if he goes against her - but give in and how many other situations will she use that ultimatum? I think if he does as she demands, next time wont be far away. :(
Kimi hope you sort it out soon it's not nice wen children are used :-(
CommentAuthorsarah
If she wasn't blaming you she'd be blaming someone else and making another set of excuses. I'd stay out of it as it sees your involvement only adds fuel to the fire. Strike that if this was my brother I'd help him find a really good solicitor so he can get a custody agreement sorted.
CommentAuthorMrsMoran
I agree with the others hun, I wouldn't get involved yourself as it seems to add fuel to the fire where she's concerned. But I would get him to seek legal advice either through courts, solicitor, CAB, etc. because she can't take his kids away from him and use that as a reason xxx
CommentAuthorkimi1987
I don't get involved she tries to involve me. Apart from Xmas.but I didn't do anything she was just slaggin my bro off
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
She seems an attention seeker and has found a way to get her claws into your brother while upsetting everyone in the process, not just u but ur brother too, I think he'd be better off well shot of her and go to court where they will make sure he has his kids!x
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CommentAuthorElizabethP8
Sorry your having so much grief :( My best friend has the same situation with her brother, I think the only way to deal with it is to ignore it as getting involved gives her what she wants and just encourages her to carry on and escalate it so she can get more attention and more control in other peoples lives. Your brother is allowing this behavior (he should have made it clear from the first time she showed this behavior that his family are off limits and she can't manipulate you/him) he has put himself in a situation where he has to choose. Unfortunately I think the only solution is to let her win on this one and not have your brother at the wedding, once she has stopped him seeing his kids he may find it hard to get back into her good books and see his kids. Harsh and unfair I know, but she is holding all the cards at the moment :( xx
CommentAuthorkimi1987
He's told my mum that he's not going so I won't be seeing him at all on the day. He still can't see What she's like, they say love is blind but this takes the biscuit. We all said she wud kick off about the wedding and she has. She'll be fine the day after the wedding. But give it a couple of weeks and it will kick off again
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
Bridges are burnt and they'll never be rebuilt now.
caught the catch of my lifetime
25.05.2013. best day of my life
