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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Feb 13th 2015
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    Ok!! So I bought a dress for my bridesmaids yesterday, should be here next week!! But the thing is everytime I show my sister a dress she finds something wrong with it or she just won't wear it!! She was meant to get married last year but it all got cancelled 8 weeks before, now I feel like she doesn't want anything to go right for me and will do anything to jeopardise my wedding and being a complete pain, when it was the other way round I was fine and would of worn anything she wanted me to. I am literally pulling my hair out in frustration :-(

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    • Mrs M Wade
      CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 13th 2015
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    Your sister sounds very similar to mine. I'd tell her she has to wear whatever you choose. It's your day and not hers, it's not your fault her day got cancelled so she should be happy for you. If she chooses that she doesn't want to wear it then I'd tell her she can't be bridesmaid. Sorry if it sounds a bit harsh xx

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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
      Got married 5 years ago
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    I am so tempted to, but the thing is its not just the dress, she told our mum I never asked her to be bridesmaid when in fact she was the first person I asked out of the 4, and she is telling everyone I should forgive my dad for the way he has treated me, but my h2b and the kids have never met him (my daughter is nearly 7 and only knows my step dad as grandad!!) My step dad is giving me away, but my sister insists I invite my dad and let him give me away, I don't want my real dad there, my step dad has been there more in the last 7 years then my real dad!! She is just really winding me up xx

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    • Mrs M Wade
      CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
      Got married 4 years ago
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    I'm not surprised she's winding you up. It's got nothing to do with her who gives you away it's not her day. If it was her day then it would be different she can have who she likes. Have you sat her down and spoke to her about all the issues? X

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Feb 14th 2015
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    She sounds to me like she is acting a tad spoilt and wants her own way. Remember this is your wedding, ifyou want her to wear a certain dress, then she should appreciate that.

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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Feb 14th 2015
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    It's not that easy, she knows she is stronger headed then I am, she said about those wrap dresses, I checked out reviews and to be honest they really put me off plus my other bridesmaids, she completely changed then, swearing at me, telling me I shouldn't of read the reviews, I am happy to accommodate and would like to know they all feel comfortable but every dress she is objecting to.

    I can't really sit and talk to her as she lives 60 miles away and don't really want to doit over the phone, I think our mum has had a bit of a chat with her as she seems a bit calmer but still its the excuses!!

    The decision is made by me and h2b that my dad is not coming as he has never met him or the kids and to be honest I don't want him anywhere near my daughter and step kids (he is a very nasty man)!!

    I actually can't sleep because I just wonder what she is going to say or do next and with 4 kids its not good!

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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
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    This is the dress I am getting, I might see if I can find a longer 1 the same design, so if anyone sees something similar can they let me know please xx

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
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    It sounds like your sister is finding it hard watching you prepare for your wedding when her's didn't go ahead. It's doesn't make her behaviour acceptable, but I can see that it isn't easy for her. Maybe explaining that you understand it isn't easy for her wpuld help. However you need to make sure you stand firm on your dad, and if she's saying you didn't ask her to be bridesmaid I would tell people that's not true.

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    • bride2b90
      CommentAuthorbride2b90
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Feb 14th 2015
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    I think that dress is gorgeous she sounds like a pain in the arse at the end of its ur day I have learnt this now me and my sister are ultimate enemy's I would suggest you sit down and tell her she has a choice either like it or lump it its your day not hers and it's not up for debate... It's hard and difficult especially in this situation she sounds like she cries to mum every time she doesn't get her own way? Again I know this feeling I hope u can get this sorted Hun xx

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    • KirstyR386
      CommentAuthorKirstyR386
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Feb 14th 2015
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    I think it is worth calling her and explaining that you understand it is difficult that her day didnt go ahead but this is your day and you will be making the decisions. Could you give her a task to do (something you're not too worried about if its not quite perfect) that could focus her mind away from the dresses and make her feel involved? Even if its just finding examples of cake toppers you could choose from (sorry terrible example). In the end if shes still not willing to cooperate you may have to give her the ultimatum.

    P.S. The dresses are lovely.
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    • michgib
      CommentAuthormichgib
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    I think you need to have a heart to heart with her. She is probably not realising how bad she is being.
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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
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      Posted: Feb 15th 2015
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    Well I had a long discussion with her the other day and she wants to help with the planning, she knows I understand how she feels, but I don't think it helps that my step dad has always said I will get married before me sister!! We were also going to wait till after her wedding before we planned ours and when she said it was cancelled we still waited as wanted to get past that day before my plans started, although we had already written ideas down prior to this, but they were not setting stone.
    Although I am very close to my mum and she has helped me out loads these last few weeks she is kinda taking my sisters side, I don't moan about it to my mum, but she has said a few things that have made me think that maybe my sister shouldn't be that involved.
    While I understand her being upset about her own and the way things happened, life moves on and being as I never really liked her h2b I was still very supportive from the day it all kicked off till now, and recently found out she is seeing him again, which seems to have completely changed her again!!
    Sorry I just need to rant somewhere as I won't moan to our mum and my h2b doesn't seem that bothered about my sister!
    My brother on the other hand is a completely different story and not said a word about anything!!
    My step siblings don't know if they will make it, so will just be me and h2b at this rate lol xxx

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Feb 15th 2015
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    tell your sister that you know that your wedding is probably dragging up feelings of upset from her cancelled wedding and you feel for her BUT this is your wedding and the guest list is YOUR decision... if she would rather not be a bridesmaid you will quite understand that her feelings about her wedding are overriding her happiness for you and your sure you find her another role ( waitress maybe)

    if all that fails ... take her out for the day just you two and SLAP her and tell her you grow up

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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
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      Posted: Feb 15th 2015
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    Haha.... Being I am the older sister, the amount of slaps and beatings I gave her when younger would suggest she wouldn't mess with me lol, but no, she knows no bounds and will wind me up to the point of me saying something I will regret, I have so far bitten my tongue up until now and it's time she realised this is my day not hers, while I appreciate I told her I was not too keen on wearing a short dress for hers, if she wanted me to I would, why can't she just be happy for me!! Xx

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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
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      Posted: Feb 17th 2015
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    So here we have it the dress turned up today, my sisters response was not quite what I was expecting, my 3 other bridesmaids love it but my sister doesn't she said it is too short!! But after having a flick thro social media I found my sister has worn dresses a lot shorter then this within the last year!!

    She is still trying to get me to look at other dresses, I love the dress I have picked and she has agreed to try it on, which is a start I suppose xxx

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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Feb 17th 2015
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    The dress is lovely, she is just acting like a spoilt child and wanting what she wants. Tell her, if you don't like it then don't be in the party.

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    • Sarah D
      CommentAuthorSarah D
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 17th 2015
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    Awww im so sorry to hear how she is making you feel, I think its to got to be she's jealous over her own wedding not going ahead, this of course does not excuse her behaviour, she needs to realise this is your day and if she cant get over it she needs to back down, your wedding day is meant to made easier by your bridesmaids and not to make you feel like this. Hopefully you can resolve this soon Xx

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Feb 17th 2015
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    It's a lovely dress! Hopefully she will love it when she tries it on and not cause any more drama x

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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Feb 17th 2015
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    its sad she has gone through a hard time, but i think i would have lost it by now, just tell her to wear the effing dress and stop being such a brat about it. Wanting to put a dampner on yours just because hers went tits up. oh boohoo, get a grip stop trying to make my life hard and we might actually be happier for it!

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    • Flossie
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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
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    Ok, 1 of my bridesmaids tried in the dress, and I have to say I absolutely love it and so does she, bonus!!

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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    Ahh she looks lovely! Can't see how your sister can say that is too short x

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
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    Its a lovely dress




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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
      Got married 6 years ago
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    it's a beautiful dress! seems like sister is being difficult just for the sake of it. I'm sure if she hates it that much, she would be happier as a regular guest wearing what she wants? thats what happened with my sil lol, told me my dresses were 'f***ing disgusting' and 'im not being a bridesmaid anymore'

    think she expected me to beg her to reconsider or something. lol.

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
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    That is not too short at all. It is a respectable length.

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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
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      Posted: Feb 19th 2015
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    Thanks guys, I did fall in love with this dress and loving it for my bridesmaids!'

    I had a chat with my mum, she said I was just as bad for my sisters wedding, I don't recall being like it, and when I tried on the dress my sister had for me I hated it, I felt uncomfortable and made me look really fat, but I never said any of these things to my sister, and was going to wear it as it was her day, we did agree no short dresses, but she knew if she did pick short then I WOULD wear it, no fuss!! The only time we had a bust up was when she told me I HAD to book the night before in the Hilton hotel for myself and my daughter, being as this was out of town (and I couldn't afford it) I refused, as I still had to find a way for my 3 step kids and h2b to get to the wedding, as he didn't drive at the time, so was going to cost me more then she ever realised!! This was the only argument we had throughout the whole of her wedding planning!!

    I now have to wait for her to come down to try on the dress which won't be for a while now, so again it's waiting for her!!

    I did however tell my mum that if she doesn't like it she can lump it and buy her own dress to wear as a guest!!

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    • MrsThomson2B
      CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
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      Posted: Feb 20th 2015
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    Well done standing up to her. She sounds liek a spoiled wee brat. Just enjoy your wedding and pick what you and h2b want. If all of your bm's hated the dress then yeah I wold maybe have said pay attention do you want all of them hating you and feeling uncomfortabel but unfortunately it is very difficut to make 4 girls happy. if like you say your sister hates teh dress she can buy her own and wear it as a guest x
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
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    Good for standing up to your mum and that you've told her what for.

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    • Myranny
      CommentAuthorMyranny
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    That dress is lovely! And it's not even short! It's the sort of dress I'd pick for my bridesmaids if I could find it in red x
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    • KirstyR386
      CommentAuthorKirstyR386
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Feb 21st 2015
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    The dress is really lovely. Fingers crossed she likes it when she tries it on. Or maybe doesn't and then she can be a guest and you don't have to deal with any of her crap anymore. :-) x
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    • michgib
      CommentAuthormichgib
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    The dress looks lovely if ahe doesn't like it then tough you can do without her upsetting you
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
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      Posted: Feb 21st 2015
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    This sounds horrible! sorry I don't have advice but didn't want to run. Hugs x

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    • VictoriaL46
      CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
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    Your sister sounds so much like mine. Because of my sisters attitude I knew long before my OH proposed she was not going to have any involvement in the wedding party at all. I just couldn't manage the stress.

    Yes your sisters wedding got cancelled but that obviously isn't anything to do with you and she needs to get over it and if she wants to be a bridesmaid in your wedding she needs to suck it up and wear the dress, which by the way is lovely ;)

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    • MrsParratt
      CommentAuthorMrsParratt
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    I saw my sister yesterday at a family party, asked her if she was coming back this way after and she initially said yes, I thought 'great, get to try the dress on her', after an hour or 2 she had made her excuses and went home!! I am so annoyed could do with her trying the dress on sooner rather then later, oh well, am ordering other dresses over the next 2 months so if she hasn't tried it on by then, tough, I haven't got time for her stupid games xx

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