How many of you have asked your MOH/Best man & bridesmaids/groomsmen to step up to tasks to help?
Secondly, we have 3 each (MOH & Best man plus 2 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen). We picked more or less shortly after getting engaged beginning of last year and I'm now getting worried I've made a bad choice with my MOH.
I love her to bits and I refer to her as my 'best friend' to majority of people. Recently she's been caught up with Uni (although she sleeps all day, plays internet all night as 'students tend to do', although shes miles better than before). I made her my Maid of Honour because out of all my friends she was the only one who seemed interested in checking up on me at the time. Recently she mentioned losing weight and refered to getting it off hopefully for a 'close' friends wedding, whereas she fawns over her other friends.
It sounds massively petty and I know it does over phrasing, I feel like it's a bit one-sided now and I'm getting really upset over it as she never asks to hang out, I have to organise it and I feel like I'm bribing her with cooking (as I tend to cook for people when they visit) for her company. I've had anxiety issues in the past and theyre creeping back. I feel like I'm bothering all of my friends who just literally aren't interested in my day.
CommentAuthorAna40
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How do you normally cope with your anxiety? If your aware of your anxiety do you think that may be your main issue. As it's been said in another thread (about a similar issue ) you still have quite a while left till your wedding so I wouldn't worry too much yet about her input or lack of. X
CommentAuthorRachaelC80
Personally, I think people expect too much from their Bridal party?? Our MOH and BM don't live near us and we haven't asked them to do anything apart from have fun with us on our day!!! But, that's my opinion!!! :-)
CommentAuthorNoodles
Initially we werent going to ask anything of them, but we need help just making invitations and things like that which theyve said theyre fine with.
And she's showing interested in the wedding when prompted. But I've not spoken to her direct in a week or so and she's more or less ignored my texts just asking how she is. But she's been out to cinema and drinking with her brother etc. in between. The case is now is if I don't text her then we don't talk :\
And originally I was on some medication but I made significant improvement after a job change and strangely enough spending time with my MOH. We used to hang out at least once a week and now I don't see her for weeks because she's nocturnal and in uni otherwise and I work full time. And my texts aren't getting answered as of recent :(
CommentAuthorLynD
my MOH is my daughter - and I'll be honest I haven't asked her to do anything, though she did come with me to try on frocks and her and spare daughter came with me to look at headpieces. She said she'll arrange my hen night but, as I know the people I want to ask, then obviously I'll ask them and let her do the rest.
I think we tend to become very focussed on 'the wedding' and people have lives outside of that (even us...) I wouldn't fret too much. I can go for a week or so without speaking to friends, it doesn't mean anything really.. xx
Thanks for the reassurance everyone :) I'm glad I've heard it from others cause I know when I ask my fiancé things like this he tends to jump on the "Theyr're awful! They're upsetting you!" bandwagon with no hesitation, just because he doesn't like people to make me upset! (Which is good in one aspect..)
